The factors affecting the relationship between classmates: 3. 1 The influence of gender on the relationship and behavior of middle school students. Generally speaking, there is no statistical difference between girls and boys in the degree of classmates' relationship, but the proportion of girls' serious classmates' relationship is higher than that of boys', especially in making friends. The reason for this phenomenon may be related to the physiological differences between boys and girls and the traditional concepts in China. Generally speaking, girls' physical development and sexual maturity are earlier than boys' 1 2a, and their psychological maturity is earlier than boys', so in middle school, especially in junior high school, they have better knowledge and understanding of external things than boys [3]. In today's complicated society, girls understand the expectations and pressures brought by society, school and family earlier than boys, which leads to more negative emotions such as anxiety and irritability, which may lead to problems in classmates' relationship behavior. In addition, due to the different traditional concepts and expectations of social roles in China, girls are required to be more reserved and restrained than boys in interpersonal communication, which reduces the initiative of girls in the process of making friends, especially in the communication with the opposite sex, and the degree of classmates' relationship behavior is higher than that of boys.
3.2 The influence of school period on the classmate relationship behavior of middle school students From the school period, the classmate relationship behavior of high school students is more serious than that of junior high school students, and the difference is statistically significant. On the one hand, from junior high school to senior high school, with the growth of age, students' self-awareness is constantly developing and differentiating, and the contradictions within self-awareness are also constantly strengthening. They are eager for independence and have great dependence on society and family. They are active in thinking and expect to enter the society, but they lack social experience and communication experience. It is in this inner contradiction and conflict that middle school students are both eager and confused about their classmates' communication. On the other hand, with the increasingly fierce social competition, the expectations and pressures of society and families are also increasing, especially the psychological distress caused by the pressure of high school students' studies and further studies, which makes them pay less attention to classmates' communication, thus affecting classmates' relationship and causing some troubles in classmates' relationship [4].
3.3 The influence of family factors on middle school students' relationship behavior. Most middle school students nowadays are only children. Many students are overindulged and protected at home. Once they enter the campus, they lack the ability to live independently and communicate with others. They just blindly ask to be taken care of and given, instead of taking the initiative to care about others, and rarely consider problems from the standpoint of others. Therefore, they are often left out in classmates' communication, resulting in a series of negative psychology such as inferiority complex and self-centeredness. Among family factors, besides the family's attitude towards children, interpersonal relationships among family members and between family members and others will also affect the relationship between classmates. According to relevant research, families with good interpersonal relationship between parents and others have better interpersonal relationship with their children, and vice versa. It can be seen that family factors can not be ignored in the emergence of middle school students' relationship behavior problems.
3.4 The influence of personality factors on middle school students' relational behavior. From the correlation analysis, there is also a significant correlation between students' personality and the relationship between middle school students and classmates. Enthusiasm, sincerity, kindness, humor, cheerfulness and other good personality characteristics are conducive to enhancing interpersonal attraction and helping to establish and maintain a good relationship with classmates. And bad personality characteristics, such as selfishness, indifference, conceit, greed, egoism and so on. , will hinder the establishment of a good classmate relationship. In the middle school campus, only those students with good personality characteristics will take the initiative in classmates' communication, while those students with bad personality characteristics are often in a passive position and may step into the trouble of classmates' communication.
Many facts have proved that the disturbing behavior of getting along with classmates has a negative impact on the healthy growth of students. Therefore, we must pay attention to students' classmate relationship, give necessary guidance to problem students and help them improve their bad classmate relationship.
What types of performances are there? A: One category: lack of intimate friends. This kind of college students usually have normal contacts and good interpersonal relationships, but they feel that they lack intimate friends who can talk to each other, treat each other sincerely, cooperate tacitly and share joys and sorrows. Therefore, they sometimes feel lonely and helpless. The second category: difficult to intersect with individuals. This kind of college students communicate well with most people, but not with individuals. It may be a roommate, a classmate, or a close parent. Because you can't get along well with these people, it often affects your mood and becomes a "heart disease." The third category: dull communication with people. This kind of college students can communicate with others, but they always feel that the quality of getting along with others is not high and they lack influence. They don't have close friends, most of them are nodding acquaintances. No one is worth caring about and no one will miss him. It is difficult for them to maintain and develop good interpersonal relationships. Most of these students will feel empty, confused and lost. The fourth category: I feel difficult to communicate. This kind of college students are eager for communication, but due to limited communication ability, improper methods or personality defects, psychological barriers in communication and other reasons, their communication is not satisfactory and their successful experience is less. They often feel distressed and hope to change their social situation. The fifth category: social phobia. This kind of college students are particularly sensitive, afraid of interpersonal communication and try to avoid contact with others. When they have to communicate, they will be nervous, afraid, their hearts will beat faster, their faces will be red, and they will always be in a state of anxiety. They are afraid of being the center of others' attention, making a fool of themselves in front of others and being observed by others. I am always worried that I will make mistakes and be laughed at by others. I am always under an inexplicable psychological pressure. Communicating with people, even appearing in public places, is an extremely horrible task for them. Category 6: I don't want to associate. This is a special class. The top five students have a desire to communicate, but these students lack this desire and interest. They are self-enclosed, narcissistic or eccentric. Such college students are rare. You can use your own foundation and add answers.