As a soldier, I left home to be a soldier after graduating from high school. Now I have been away from my family and hometown for nearly 30 years. ...

As a person's reason, he yearns for what he lacks. He has been away from home for too long, and his yearning and attachment to his family is stronger than that of normal people!

For the affection of relatives, after practice, I have a feeling that affection has been hurt since ancient times! ..... Thinking about this, I am infinitely sad ... People! You can't escape the limitations of your own cognition ... treat others according to your own needs, and you have a wrong foothold! The ending is naturally wrong.

It should be "measuring people by people"!

One's own cognition and accomplishment do not represent the other's cognition and accomplishment. It is wrong to treat others with yourself or treat others with yourself. If you want to handle things well, you can't prejudge the other party's position and intention wishful thinking, but look at his real wishes and motives. In addition, you can better understand personnel more rationally, handle personnel more wisely, and avoid being busy all the time, but have a clear conscience. In the final analysis, it gave the other party a wrong prediction and cognition. What should the real and objective world look like? If I have experienced it, it doesn't mean that the object I am facing has experienced it. My cognition does not represent the cognition of the other party. This is an objective and rational conclusion! If confused, the conclusion and outcome will be wrong, for example, in the family, the laws of the world are also the rules that relatives should abide by!

The social environment does not allow anything and phenomena that do not obey the laws of the jungle! "A loving mother loses many children", the more you take care of and understand each other between relatives, the more you will give him an impersonal cognition and prediction. You should show him what real life is like, and complete shelter from the wind and rain will cultivate "family ties in the greenhouse." In the case of real wind and rain, the injuries and attacks suffered by individuals supporting greenhouses also increase geometrically. ...

To put it cruelly, this rule or truth is shared by the closest people. Don't help him if you really love him. Let him experience storms, setbacks, blows, and tempering. Over time, he will be tolerant and adaptable ... if he encounters storms again, he will "walk around"!

This is a good thing!

Desire and dependence on family, no one will suffer because of a sincere face!

I have made some contributions that I think are meaningful. In recent years, I have experienced various blows between my family members, some of which are really fatal, inexplicable pain and inexplicable grievances. Today, I am enlightened. This is a great gift from God!

Parents, brothers and sisters, relatives and friends, children and close friends around him, if they are really good to him, let him see and know what the real environment is like. Don't try to maintain it, but give him an illusion of the world!

For example, the allusion of "carelessness" said that the painter wanted to train his son to paint, and his son drew a horse and a tiger regardless, but he doted on his son and wouldn't let him paint seriously. Therefore, his son did not distinguish between a horse and a tiger. When he was hunting in the forest, he met a tiger and thought it was a horse, so he approached him and was fatally injured.

Language is limited, and perception is infinite. It is not good for relatives to be involved in family indefinitely, misleading their judgment and cognition, making them misjudge the real world, and the result is fatal. ...

My understanding is for reference.

In real life, the appearances of "love" and "care" are sometimes lost in "Tao", confusing cause and effect, and bearing the consequences. This is a natural principle.