Since it is cultivation, it will go through eighty-one difficulties along the way, just like Tang priest and his disciples seeking truth from the scriptures. The difference is that they are tested by the outside world. In the same way, we all have to overcome our demons and avoid being possessed, in order to get the truth and succeed!
First, perfectionism. Second, eager to succeed.
Besides, the monsters in Journey to the West, basically every monster has caught Tang Priest. If you want to live forever, you must take a bite at the moment you catch Tang Sanpang, and then wash the rest of Tang Sanpang with aniseed. You can stew it slowly or fry it. Monkey Sun can't beat him when he comes, so let him go. Anyway, he is immortal. As a result, most monsters are perfectionists who pursue the taste of food! Often in the process of preparing to eat Tang Sanpang, I lost a big meal, accompanying my life or personal freedom (the monsters covered by the immortal Buddha). What a pity!
Qi Tongwei in "People's Justice" is controlled by this eager devil. I have been in by going up one flight of stairs for two years, and I am still thinking about "progress" to the position of vice governor day and night. Before you know it, you begin to serve the leaders and get divorced from the masses. The more I want to show my personality (sweeping the grave for former governor Zhao and being a gardener for Chen Lao), the more I make a fool of myself.
In fact, the above two demons have troubled me for a long time, and even now I am still struggling. Because my personal example is not representative, I didn't talk about myself, but the mental journey of defeating demons is still worth communicating with you.
The premise of solving problems is to find problems, and so is solving demons. Perfectionism, eager for success. These two demons were discovered when I took the postgraduate entrance examination, but they came again unconsciously in my recent study and life, trapping my legs like an invisible shackle, making me unable to move. What is even more frightening is that for a long time, I didn't find this shackle, nor did I find that I couldn't walk!
It was when I wrote my thesis recently that I was enthusiastic about learning at the beginning (just after class, just after the entrance examination). It is believed that before writing a paper, all the knowledge used in the design of the paper should be carefully studied. The result is that when you really want to start doing it, your subconscious will feel that the whole project is too big to act. Even dare not list specific plans. So that the Spring Festival holiday and the start of school are not well used. Attention, this is subconsciously putting off writing a paper. Even then, I didn't feel like I was running away.
First of all, we should lower our expectations, knowing that perfection is based on completion. It is understandable to adjust and polish after completion and strive for perfection. If "finishing this" will give you some psychological pressure at first, then start acting directly. Don't make excuses for yourself, don't say: I will wait until I am ready for what I want to learn. ......
Real learning begins with action. In the process of practice, where not, where not understand! And find a way to solve it. Targeting is more efficient than guessing at first! But also a practical problem that needs to be solved in a targeted way.
Once you start to do it, find problems and solve them, you should give yourself some small rewards to form a closed loop of small success. In the process of re-action, understand the big goal, disassemble it into small goals, and solve the small goals one by one. Disassembly target is also one of the most important abilities!
Acting in advance, without perfectionism, will bring you the pleasure of progress, just like an acceleration, which will make your efficiency higher and higher. Until the whole task is completed, the confidence you bring will play the same positive role as mentioned above!
Self-confidence also has compound interest effect! The enhancement of self-confidence will also make your metacognition stronger and stronger!
Perfectionism makes people stop, and rushing for success makes you inefficient and unable to complete the task.
Yes, the more impatient you are, the more flawed you are. It's as small as making a form, and as big as textual research. The most direct performance of being eager for success is to make your work rhythm disorderly. Even if it is completed in advance, the form waiting for you will be rejected by the leader and the postgraduate entrance examination will fail. I know these two points very well.
Only patience is the best way to solve the devil who is eager to achieve success. Tell yourself that it takes patience and steady steps to do this well. Language is inverted, and when you start to have this idea in your mind, you will become less in a hurry. Then we must make corresponding plan adjustments. Make a form in a hurry, it may be a very important appointment after work. The postgraduate entrance examination is urgent. Maybe some students have reviewed it several times and haven't done it yet.
When it comes to patience, the most direct feeling may be that the pace is slow. But you are not slow now, and you will not be fast in the future. Finish the task as soon as possible, and then go and have fun! People can't be so selfish, leaving indulgence and enjoyment to the present and pain and discomfort to the future!
Patience also has a compound interest effect. Start slowly, but be patient, and the acceleration is guaranteed! It will be faster and faster in the future!
Whether it is eager for success or perfectionism! They are two wrong concepts in our minds when we are doing things! Nothing makes you feel faster! Make you think there is nothing wrong with perfectionism! Just like doing a math problem, your conceptual formula is wrong and your conclusion is definitely wrong! Therefore, we must learn to cultivate our patience, learn to establish correct concepts in our minds, and learn to use correct "work formulas" to get twice the result with half the effort!
Yes, overcoming one's demons is also an important way to enhance metacognition. Finally, I hope that all the small partners on the road to growth can avoid or overcome their demons and cultivate into martial arts masters as soon as possible! Seven years later, when we discuss swords in Antarctica, shall we discuss them face to face? (`)(`)?