I, enfp, wrote down some points that I found annoying after enfp's self-examination: 1, low execution, sloppy, and I hate planning. It's boring to see the ending at first sight.

This mentality even lasted until I got along with my lover. I especially like traveling without setting any destination, just for the sake of traveling. I like traveling when I leave, and I prefer the feeling of wandering. For example, the two of us decided to visit Guang Zhouta, but the destination that enfp enjoyed most was not "going to Guang Zhouta".

For me, walking on the road, seeing different faces of pedestrians, seeing trees swaying all over the street when the wind blows, finding strange signs on the roadside, walking and starting to appreciate a dog-shaped cloud in the sky … these are all things that I am most interested in.

So if the object wants me to make strategies and plans, I will be particularly annoyed. I will feel that if you do it with a strong purpose just to decide a place to play, then the whole process will become very unpleasant.

I prefer to enjoy the process of getting along with friends and partners, and I also enjoy the leisurely journey. As for where to go and what to do, I really don't care

At this time, I really need another person with me to have very strong execution and planning power. I will listen to her, and then hang on her like a dog. When my eyes light up, I say, "Then do as you say!" " "

Otherwise, she is willing to hang out with me casually, and she can enjoy it (it will be really happy for enfp).

But if the other person doesn't like making plans and enjoying the process, I have to make all the details of the trip. Then we will be very unhappy. Even if you don't show it many times, your heart will be very annoyed.

The same is true of study and other things. There is no specific plan, it's all by feeling. I think that's it. That's it. Fuck the plan. So it's really fascinating that I can still keep the top ten grades in my major …

2, because the execution is not high, it is actually very procrastinating. Not only procrastination, but also being late. No one who goes out to play with enfp has ever seen her not be late.

Being late will really hurt others' impression of you. Unless you are a good friend, you can only be tolerated.

I usually buy things for others or invite people to dinner to make up for my lateness. But you told me not to be late. I'm sorry, that's worse than the shark killing me.

3. It is easy to have a great interest in a person, but the head is also fast. Enfp likes people by the "basket".

Of course there are exceptions. Junior high school likes to be alone for more than three years, and senior high school likes to be alone for more than a few years. So look at the dishes on the plate. Some people, enfp will soon feel bored, but some people, enfp is like a book that you can never get tired of reading-love it!

But affection will not be reflected in love relationship, and it is very loyal in love, because enfp is too moral and emotional to do bad things. Because if they do something bad, their guilt will overwhelm their perceived happiness, so they simply choose not to do it.

Although I like to take care of others' emotions, it seems that I can do anything for others. But I don't really care about others. Many times there is only yourself in the world. It's my pleasure to throw rainbow candy at you, but it doesn't mean I really think so.

And just like writing Zhihu's answer, I'm too lazy to answer things that have nothing to do with me, unless I feel the same way, and it's a particularly good kind. There is a simple reason. I like to study myself and read myself. As for the world-what is the world to me?

But it is also strange that I see unfortunate people on the road, such as beggars and vagrants, and sometimes I even secretly cry. I will help, and I will do something for those unfortunate people.

Anyway, maybe enfp is contradictory. Her sincerity is softer than others, but sometimes she is selfish.

Although it looks like a sunny puppy, it is suggested to distinguish between what she gave you is genuine or sugar-coated shells. Enfp always looks at the dishes on the plate …

5. Excessive idealism.

There is nothing to say about this, which is determined by family environment+background+mentality. Many times, enfp has idealistic self-confidence, which is probably spoiled by people around it, or it is too well protected.

6, too blx, too much reading of other people's behavior. There are very few relationships that can make enfp feel "safe".

Although she is a social butterfly, she doesn't trust people in essence. I often do hot and cold things to test whether others are sincere or false. Once you think you have a problem, enfp runs faster than anyone else, but sometimes that person is actually quite good, all because enfp thinks too much …

7. Some people say that enfp is superficial, illogical and empty-hearted. I don't quite agree with this. Maybe enfp is divided, too. Principal enfp prefers to argue with his "talented" employees.

I will tell others how I lie flat and rotten all day. I really don't have a plan. I do things by feeling. But I seldom tell others that I can recite 1000 IELTS words a day.

When I write, I often don't follow logic, I write wherever I think, and I pay more attention to feeling than accurate analysis. This is really my weakness.

But sometimes I just write an ordinary teacher's homework, and I will read more than a dozen hownet papers, and on this basis, I will start what I call "nonsense". At that time, I saw many people around me, and I really relied on rational analysis, but I output directly without reading books. I really don't know which way is shallower.

8. It is easy to be cheated by others, or it is difficult to hide secrets because you like to talk about yourself too much.

I have known her for a short time, but I always feel that I have known her for ten years. You know her like the back of your hand. You know everything from how many people she likes to what strange plants she sees today.

Enfp always tries to remain mysterious, but he can't keep his mouth shut.

9. Speak directly and don't beat around the bush at all. Happiness is in anger. If I feel that others are in conflict with me, or that others don't like me. I endure for a while, endure not bottom go to, blunt past:

Hey! Don't you like me?

Hey! Are you mad at me?

Hey! Xxxx, xxx, why didn't you reply to the message at 8: 35 in the morning? Did what I said upset you?

Hey! Let's have a chat. /Let's have a heart-to-heart talk.

10, the kernel is unstable, there is no powerful logic system in its own world, and it often crashes. It's true.

It's hard to describe this feeling, that is, I often break and rebuild something, and it's messy and unreasonable, just relying on my feelings to pinch a framework. But this framework is easily broken by others. It doesn't matter. If it is broken, I will pinch a new one, and it will be completely different.

This is really weird. I have dealt with entp before, and feel that the internal framework of entp is extremely strong, resulting in a relatively stable state. As long as they have their own stable and powerful system-such people are usually relatively stable, confident or narcissistic.

But enfp is more like a moment of extreme self-confidence and narcissism, a moment of extreme inferiority. Jump repeatedly. Why is it so repeated? Because the internal system is not stable enough. By some intuition and feeling. Their narcissism must be when "their internal framework is built and people around them are applauding and cheering for them"; Inferiority must be when they are "denied by the people around them, and then enter a period of reshaping their own framework."

1 1, because its internal framework is not strong and stable enough, it relies heavily on external feedback. This is very bad, and it is often easy to swing. However, you can also attack enfp according to this point.

Especially those who want to chase after enfp, I really think that if we dump all our friends around enfp, it is equivalent to dumping enfp. She really listens to her friends.

The last time I broke up was because of what my friend said, orz… Sometimes before I entered a relationship, I decided whether to continue because of my friend's reaction (support/opposition). So if enfp's friends hate you, you are not far from finishing with her.

Unless I like that person very much, especially the kind that my friend can't pull, my friend tries to pull me: "Shit, this person is scum, why can't you see it?" I retorted loudly, "Where is it?" Ta will give me some milk tea and say pig stickers, meowed, super cute! "

12, often do invalid reflection.

For example, at the last second, I was still reflecting on my mistakes and felt useless. But in the middle of crying in front of the mirror, I suddenly found myself so cute in the mirror. Then I immediately laughed: to hell with them all, what's wrong with me? That's so cute. Hey, hey!

For example, while writing about your own shortcomings, you can't help but praise yourself. I really wanted to write about my shortcomings, but I didn't expect it to become a rainbow fart that praised me-see this article for details.