Happiness has always been our constant pursuit and lifelong goal. So what is happiness?
Taylor Ben Shahar, a master of positive psychology, believes that happiness is a kind of ability, which has nothing to do with state.
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Men are scum, and there are no good things.
My friend Xiao D fell in love with a boy from the college next door when he was a sophomore. It is said that it was her first love, which should have been sweet and unforgettable. However, little D's first love filled her with pain and regret.
Little d met his first love in the football field of the college next door. That day, she went to play with her high school classmates. When they were walking on the plastic track, they were hit by a flying football …
In this way, because of this football, they met. After a period of contact, the man launched a love offensive against Xiao D, and Xiao D soon fell because he had no love experience.
The good times didn't last long. About a month later, Xiao D said when chatting with us that her boyfriend always avoided calling her, and sometimes he couldn't see anyone for several days ~
One day three months later, she cried and told us, "That scum has a girlfriend in another school, and there is more than one." Then she asked me, "Are you all so scum? As I said on the Internet, I don't believe what you men say anymore. There is nothing good. "
I didn't know whether to laugh or cry. I didn't do anything.
"Men don't have a good thing", this sentence has always been said from time to time by some lovelorn or green mushrooms on the Internet in recent years.
There is no denying that they did meet some scum who corrupted their male compatriots in their lives, but if they lost hope in love and life because they met one or two love rat, it would not be a punishment for love rat, but an abuse of themselves.
Some tamers in Thailand trapped such a monster with a small stake. That's because the elephant was tied to this stake when he was very young. At that time, it could not break free, so it gave up forever and was trapped in that small world forever.
"The world is gloomy and I can't see the light."
The people who feel the most about happiness are those who suffer from depression. People with depression have lost the ability to be happy, and always let themselves be silent in the dark, and their feet are stuck in the mud. We should give them more sunshine and help them regain the ability to embrace happiness.
Because of a temporary setback or low tide, I "gave up treatment" from now on. ...
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This is definitely not a happy look …
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Drink today, when you can ―― enjoy it.
The most common place where this sentence appears should be some costume dramas or martial arts dramas. Some heroes depicted in the play always carry a wine gourd and are often drunk.
When I was a child, I always felt "lying in the trough, this guy is so handsome", but it seems that the final ending of such characters is not so good, and many of them are drinking and very sad.
People who only pay attention to the immediate pleasure and completely ignore the future results think that getting drunk today is happiness, but there are actually many in the real world.
The most extreme example-drug addicts. Do you say they don't know the dangers of drug abuse? There are so many public service advertisements now, I really don't know much about them.
There is no denying that some people were initially poisoned because they were framed. Many drug addicts actually know that drug abuse has no future, but the pleasure after drug abuse makes them want to quit.
Even if they are not addicted to drugs, they may regret it, but rarely take the initiative to quit.
There is no hope for the future, only a momentary pleasure, followed by pain. ...
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This is not what happiness should look like …
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You will be very happy to marry your wife and mother.
Some people say that the main contradiction in China's family now is the absence of father and the anxiety of mother. The division of labor between men and women makes the role of father always seem to be busy outside, and your growth and education are mostly in the hands of your mother.
When I was a child, my mother said, "I will be relaxed when you go to school."
After school, my mother said, "I will be relaxed when you are admitted to the university."
After graduating from college, my mother said, "If you work and marry a daughter-in-law, I will be happy."
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Mother always seems to be looking forward to the arrival of a certain moment in the future, which will bring happiness, but she always stands on this mountain and looks at that mountain. She is anxious all the time, and has never really realized the taste of happiness …
You have a wife, and she hasn't been happy these two days. It's time to think about her grandson again.
Hoping for future happiness, but holding back the present "bitterness", happiness has become an elusive moment.
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This is not what happiness should look like …
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There is a road in the mountain of books, but there is no limit to learning the sea.
In the process of growing up, we are always instilled with an idea by our parents or teachers. Now that you have worked hard to get through this period, you can relax at the university. ...
This led many of our classmates to give up their studies after the college entrance examination … absenteeism, sleeping late, staying up late in the dormitory, playing games … wasting the most meaningful time. When it comes to finding jobs, they find themselves useless.
If studying and reading is a painful thing, it is basically impossible for you to succeed through reading and learning activities ... You are struggling in pain every day, how can you still have the heart to study academics?
Learning should be a happy thing. When you learn a question, you will be very happy. You can be happy if you get good grades in the exam; When you get an academic recognition, you can be very happy …
Only when you are emotionally interested in something that makes you feel happy, will you persevere and get your achievements in Shushan and your ultimate happiness.
There is no limit to learning the sea, and taking pleasure in the boat ... can we unswervingly sail to the other side.
So what is happiness? This is a gift of foresight and trying to make yourself happy ... it has nothing to do with money, power or birth ... it is a learnable ability.
This ability can be exercised ~ admit the misfortune in life, take an active part in some sports, keep a grateful heart, start from every little thing, and even pretend to be happy occasionally …
For example, if you feel happy with your family, then you should arrange time for yourself. Even at work, you know that you will spend more time with your family, and you are happy.
Finally, I'm going back to little D.
Accompanied and comforted by many good friends, she quickly got into the wrong relationship. Fortunately, this mushroom is not what she said. Now she is both a child and a husband and wife.
If you want to know more about the ways to get happiness, I recommend you to read The Road to Happiness by Sharjah, a positive psychologist.