From the traditional morality of the Chinese nation: the grace of dripping water is rewarded by the spring; Do good things for others without asking for anything in return. But now, it's good to know and remember, let alone repay each other. On the one hand, I don't know how to be grateful. I think this is the reason why people's moral consciousness is weak. In fact, the construction of the moral system of the Chinese nation is fragmented. Morality is a matter for the whole society. Only a few people there support morality, and a large number of people have lost their moral consciousness. This is the greatest sorrow. This kind of sadness makes people lose hope. Giving kindness requires nothing in return, but that doesn't mean you don't have to be grateful for others' help. Doing good is a kind of morality; Gratitude is also a kind of morality.

"Thanksgiving" is such a gentle word. Whenever a person is grateful in his thoughts and emotions, it must be that he has received favors or help from others, or that he has a profound interpretation and understanding of life. Throughout the ages, I have heard many stories of gratitude, and some people have been moved by the kindness of a meal for a lifetime; Some people can come to Wan Li thousands of miles to find the person who was kind to him in order to repay their kindness. Others would rather spend their lives in poverty than complete the great task of repaying kindness.

Traditionally, we Chinese people are the most grateful people. The grateful spirit of our nation once shocked westerners. Confucius explained: We should thank our parents for their kindness and repay this kindness. We must show our feelings with respect.

Gratitude to parents is the true instinct of human beings to repay their parents.

I remember the strongest sense of gratitude when I became a mother, and in the process of raising children, I really understood what is deep fatherly love and what is great selfless maternal love. Just like that sentence: I don't know my parents' grace if I don't raise children.

Gratitude is a virtue of human beings. Gratitude is not innate. The formation of gratitude is a process of deepening understanding of life and society. A person's gratitude thought is gradually internalized as a part of his own thought and soul, which shows that he has the moral cultivation or moral quality of gratitude.

Also, in our country, people often go out to do foreign aid public welfare activities. Once I joined a United Nations non-profit organization, and once I sent materials to poor residents in Africa. They drove a truck to a village. As soon as the car stopped, a group of children gathered around. They take it for granted to distribute the materials on the car to them. But the captain stopped him and said, "There is no such thing as a free lunch." Keep the children in line. He said: "whoever is willing to help us move the things in the car will get paid." These children are happy to move things down, get food and daily necessities and take them home happily. Later, some villagers came, and the captain used the same method, such as sorting things and cleaning cars. Some villagers were depressed because they did nothing, so he made them sing and dance. In short, no one gets something for nothing.

To do good, we should also know the ways and means of doing good, and the art of doing good. Doing good deeds is not just a list of economic figures. In the social sense, firstly, it expresses goodwill in the heart, conveys goodwill to the society and benefactors, and conveys all kinds of human morality and thoughts, which not only solves people's "help" to the money demand, but more importantly creates an element and strength of spiritual and moral sublimation for the society.

In addition, as a good doer, although I don't expect anything in return, I don't want to be forgotten by others, and I don't want to be treated coldly. It's not about the giver. Giving kindness makes people feel the warmth of human caring for each other; Knowing how to be grateful is an emotional feedback to those who are kind to themselves and the warmth of human understanding. However, if on the one hand, people are full of joy in doing good, on the other hand, the recipients are ungrateful or even disappear, people will have a sense of spiritual alienation. This is by no means a good state of human civilization, and this phenomenon is against human nature.

A society, if it makes people feel too indifferent, makes people feel less warm. We are still eager to do good deeds; Everyone in a society is grateful, which also makes people feel warm. Gratitude is actually an emotion, and it is a kind of feedback to the feelings of those who do good. You give your seat to the old man, and then you hear a thank you, which is etiquette; We have been helped by others, and we should not forget those who helped us. This is gratitude and a virtue.

We don't agree that some rich people play dumb under the call of "charity banquet", but we don't want chivalrous people to go deep into it alone and not be understood in the end.

People who do good deeds may influence the company of a group of rich people, but they can't really touch the beneficiaries. This is a tragedy of society and human civilization.

Learning to do good is the theme of life, so is knowing how to be grateful. Knowing how to do good is the basis for good deeds to truly shine; Learning to be grateful is an important link to form a person's moral quality. If a person never knows how to be grateful, it will be a person with insufficient emotional integrity.