There is a fable about two horses walking together. One bit the other's neck, but the bitten one comforted the horse who was ashamed of biting himself. Although the story is small, it reveals the touching character between heaven and earth, that is tolerance.
In the fable, the tolerance of animals is good for evil, while in Buddhism, the tolerance of Maitreya is "the stomach can hold the world". How to understand tolerance in our real life? In fact, tolerance is a realm.
Tolerance is like water.
The usual "tolerance" means forgiving others' temporary mistakes, not haggling over every ounce, not complaining about others, and being a generous person in a friendly way. Tolerance is like water, and encountering contradictions is often more effective than excessive retaliation. It is like a clear spring, slowly erasing the temporary hostility of the other party, making people calm down, so as to see the original reason of the matter clearly. At the same time, I also saw myself clearly. The bitten horse in the fable rationally chose tolerance, and finally they made up. Imagine, if it is tit-for-tat, what can be brought about by fighting back at each other in the same way, in addition to both losses and cross the rubicon? Therefore, it can be said that the legendary national horse is actually very wise. Its wisdom lies in "returning evil with good".
Tolerance is like fire.
Because a higher level of tolerance not only means not caring about personal gains and losses, but also means warming others' hearts with your love and sincerity. It is rare to be calm as water; The bearing of giving charcoal in the snow is more valuable and moving. From the fable, we can see that the horse that made the mistake has realized its absurdity and felt ashamed. At this time, the tolerance and comfort embodied by the bitten horse is like a flame, bright and warm. Tolerance can not only melt each other's freezing, but also radiate the heat of love to each other's hearts. In that era, which was criticized by some people as "materialism", what people with shrinking space from bottom to top lacked was not the tolerance between the two horses. If you choose tolerance, you choose understanding and warmth, and you choose the vastness of life.
Tolerance is poetry.
Tolerance is a poem of life. The highest tolerance is not only manifested in the handling of an event in daily life, but sublimated into a kind of mind for the universe and a poetic tolerance for life. The meaning of tolerance is not limited to people's understanding and care, but the generosity and fraternity of the heart to all life between heaven and earth. The legendary horse can't reach this realm, but this realm is so real and profound for human beings.
Those who are worried about the dullness and misfortune of life, please choose tolerance. This does not harm your dignity at all, but helps people to cross mediocrity in the long river of life. With the ideological realm of tolerance, we can understand the true meaning of life, and tolerance is also an art of life.
Of course, there is no contradiction between tolerance and "being strict with yourself and being lenient with others". Forgiving yourself easily is not tolerance, but cowardice. "Treat people in an all-round way" depends first on the object. Tolerance does not cherish tolerant people, which is promiscuous; Tolerance to those who are not worthy of tolerance is tolerance; It is indulgence to tolerate unforgivable and immoral people. Therefore, tolerance itself is also a kind of knowledge of life.
On the road of our life, it is not as simple as two horses. Life is often complicated and often boring. It is precisely because tolerance is like water that complicated things become pure after filtering; It is because tolerance is like fire that insipid becomes more and more distinct through calcination; It is precisely because of this poetic tolerance that life is endowed with art and eternity.