On a warm afternoon, I accidentally read a poem called "The Heritage of Dandelion". The poem says, "Autumn/Dandelion is getting old/Children ask/What is the legacy/Mother silently gives each child/blows up an umbrella to fly away." Poems are few words, but full of profound meaning, which makes people chew. So the surrounding forests and various social scenes flashed in my mind, and I couldn't help but look up and sigh: Dandelion's broad mind and foresight are admirable!

What kind of legacy is left to the children? Most people's understanding is to leave money, status and rights to children-

In the world's mouth, if you can give your children a huge fortune, a right to give orders and a position to give orders, it can be regarded as an inheritance. However, in 13, a decision made by Bill Gates, the richest Internet tycoon in the world, crossed the other side of the ocean like a heavy hammer, which aroused domestic parents to rethink the "heritage theory". When Bill Gates announced his retirement, he announced his intention to give back all his $58 billion wealth to the society, instead of leaving it to his children. As soon as the news came out, parents in China were feeling, "Is Bill Gates crazy?" At the same time, they began to think about this question: How much should parents do for their children?

Gates has an underage son and two daughters. They were born in 1996, 1999 and 2002 respectively. In other words, they are still students, far from being independent, let alone "having a successful career". But their father, Bill Gates, left them no wealth. Gates believes that having unearned wealth is not a good thing for children standing at the starting point of life.

However, many parents around us are always afraid that their children will suffer hardships, so they will give everything they have, do their best, or leave their children a legacy of 10 thousand yuan, or find a good job for their children, so that they can live comfortably under their own protection. It is in this psychology that "heritage" is defined as money, status and rights. However, "idleness can lead to death". Parents arrange comfortable nests for their children, but unconsciously erode their ambitions and ambitions, causing them to breed bad habits of idleness and hate work, and even serious psychological obstacles. Didn't a college student commit suicide by jumping off a building because he couldn't take care of himself even in the most basic daily life? If our descendants are cultivated into such "greenhouse flowers and plants", the future of our motherland will be very worrying. Such a legacy is not to benefit future generations, but to delay the next generation!

Calm lake water can't make a thin sailor, and comfortable environment can't make a great man of the times. Dandelion's foresight and Bill Gates' wise decision are what we should study and pursue seriously. When parents' ability allows, when children are young eagles, parents have the responsibility, and it is necessary to slowly and silently tie a strong wing for their children and let them spread their wings and fly. However, when children grow up, parents must put away their arms to shelter them from the wind and rain, let them leave the warm and comfortable embrace, feel the true meaning of life and experience the vicissitudes of life. "The solid wings of flying" are like dandelion's "flying umbrella". There is self-confidence, perseverance and ability in the wings ... such "heritage" will not be exhausted, but will only create wealth, start a career and build a beautiful blueprint for life. If any parent can do this, then his legacy to his children is the best in the world.

In western countries, in order to cultivate children's self-reliance ability, children must live separately from their parents at the age of 18 and fight for the world by themselves. Why can't we do this? The outside world is wonderful, why not let them enjoy it by themselves? "The outside world is helpless", so why not let them travel by themselves? Coincidentally, mark zuckerberg, a 23-year-old American boy who was listed on Forbes Rich List, left the established track of rich life at the age of 20 and started a social networking site with friends who can't be underestimated by Yahoo and Google. Now, Mark still lives in his rented one-bedroom apartment. In his own words, "I don't have much reaction to this flashy world. I just want to build a long-term thing, and I don't care about anything else. "

We know that many foreign children start to "support themselves" when they reach the age of 18. For children in China, 18 is just the beginning of college, and most of them are still spending their parents' money to go to college. "In fact, the age of self-reliance of children in China is not advanced but postponed." Giving money to children without giving them exercise, can money produce courage to face life and wisdom to solve problems? Excessive efforts will only cultivate more "old people". Sociologists believe that in fact, "gnawing at the old" means not only that the source of life still depends on parents after adulthood, but also that the other kind of "gnawing at the old" is to rely on parents' relationship to find a job. Even if you get married, your self-care ability is poor, and your parents' home is regarded as a "canteen". The most serious "gnawing at the old" is actually mentally unable to be independent. I don't know how to go in the future except following my parents' instructions.

How much should parents pay for their children? Liu Zhigang, an expert in Tianying Parent-child Center, believes that parents should support their children's growth, but don't try to do anything for them, whether materially or spiritually. Howard carter Jr., a famous writer, explained his view on "heritage" in this way: "We want to leave our children two permanent legacies, one is the root and the other is the wing." "Root" is a person's mind and quality; "Wings" represent his ability to adapt to the world. Children must first have a positive personality, which is the foundation of a healthy person; And hard work, courage and setbacks can help him forge ahead courageously on the road of life. Psychologist Xie Guanghui believes that only these are the most precious wealth that parents should leave to their children.

Give the child an "umbrella" that flies to the distance, and let the child fly to the distance! Only by stumbling forward can a real person be achieved.