Learn to refuse argumentative writing, and you will get the faint peace in the countryside. Reject coquettish poetry, and you will gain a sunny and pure self. Reject the past, and you will gain a confident and relaxed smile. Learn to refuse, and you will have a vast sky full of charm. Learn to refuse, and you will fly in your unique spiritual home.
Tao Qian's original intention was to be an official after China's entry into WTO, but after experiencing the dark storm of officialdom, he resolutely gave up officialdom. Since then, I have lived a comfortable life of "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and seeing Nanshan leisurely". Take a trip to Shan Ye with the nature of "nature loves hills" and enjoy the beautiful scenery of "lush vegetation and spring water flowing". I even imagined a secluded life in Taoyuan: the traffic was heavy and the chickens and dogs heard about each other. Among them, Tao Qian, who came and went, despised and refused officialdom because he didn't bow to the villains in the village for the sake of fighting rice, thus gaining the pleasure of farming and the leisure of indulging in piano books and poems. Because of his refusal, Tao Qian got his ideal home.
Wang Wei, an idyllic poet, is another typical example. After staying in the chaotic officialdom for a long time, he refused the chaos of officialdom and devoted himself to the mountainous countryside he had been longing for. Playing the piano and drinking in "Empty Mountain after Rain, Standing on Autumn Night". Forget the troubles in the world and see through the disputes in the world of mortals. Listen to the sound of spring on a moonlit night, hear the bells in ancient temples, take a fishing boat on the river, and visit Huannv by the stream. Listening to the sound of green mountains and green waters in Ding Dong, I drew "moonlight in pine forest and crystal stone in stream" into my heart. Because of the refusal, Wang's nymphs are in his chest and the moon is in his arms.
There are too many temptations in life and endless material desires, and the result of wanting everything is ultimately nothing. Only by learning to refuse, will there be a noble feeling of "resting yin without evil wood, drinking water must be radical"; Only by learning to refuse can we have a bright moon and clear spring of spirit.
My argumentative friend who learned to refuse told me firmly, "You should learn to refuse."
Learning to refuse is learning to say "no" to others. The first is thought, the second is courage, and the third is knowledge. High-level people are good at refusing, for example, elephants are invisible, snow is traceless, and their voices are silent.
Rejection is an art that needs to be studied and applied.
Life is the art of compromise. We won, but we must also have some control. If you compromise blindly, you will only help others and hurt yourself, so you can only refuse.
Euphemism, reservation, playing dumb, changing the subject and diverting attention are all ways to refuse. Whether you can use it or not depends on your own nature.
Rejection is also a way of life. Whether we can make good use of it is still a new topic for me.
Things are often either black and white or black and white. In the process of compromise and rejection, there must be Tai Chi. You have me and I have you.
If so, there is room for manoeuvre.
Rejection is an ability. Being able to refuse and being good at refusing is a good performance of refusal ability. If considered, the former should probably be good and the latter should be excellent.
I should think deeply about what my friend said. Because of rejection, you can liberate yourself, make yourself more focused and have a better quality of life.
After listening to my friend, I really refused once a few days ago. When my friend learned about it, he encouraged me to say, "Get used to it." This probably refers not only to the rejected people, but also to me.
Just get used to it. For people, everything is like this. Life is about compromise and rejection.
I remembered what another friend told me: Don't go out to drink recently, even if the emperor invited me.
Hehe, the emperor's second uncle really doesn't appreciate me. What should I do?
Learn to refuse argumentative writing. Walk the world, accept or reject, love or not, give up or persist. ...
Everyone should accept and tolerate, but also learn to refuse.
I refuse to be numb. Although the tempering of life has turned too much enthusiasm into smoke, it can't make feelings calloused. If there is no cloud to make your eyes fly and chase, what is the fun of life?
I refuse sunny days forever. Because it is an illusory dream, pain can make me grow and make me strong. The rain and snow in my life make me see the road under my feet clearly in my spring dream.
I refuse to break the blooming flower, which is destroying beautiful life. A fragile and slender flower stem, after many struggles and pains, blooms beautiful flowers. How can it bear to destroy the happiness of others for personal desires? I just want to look at it from a distance and silently pray for the miracle of nature to open every corner of life.
I refuse to put my youth on tomorrow. How can that precious season stand a thousand pounds? You can get a thousand pounds back, but you can't find it if you lose it for an hour and a minute. Youth belongs to you. Only by grasping it, using it and cherishing it can you reap the fruits of autumn.
I refuse to be the gentle flower on the windowsill that is afraid of wind and rain. They can only sigh through the glass window about the changeable weather. One day, the wind swept through the window left unlocked, and the delicate flowers withered, leaving behind regrets and sadness. I admire those women who shoulder to shoulder with men, carry the burden of life on their shoulders, go out to the kitchen under the hall and roll up their sleeves to kill chickens and sheep, but there are countless soft hearts that can create a kind of warmth.
I refuse the pain in life, although I can't stop what is coming. I once heard a story: someone went to the Zen master to find a way to get rid of the pain, and the Zen master let him realize it himself. On the first day, the Zen master asked him what he had realized. He didn't know, so he hit him with a ruler. The next day the Zen master asked again, but he still didn't know. The Zen master raised his ruler and hit him again. On the third day, he still got nothing. The Zen master raised his hand to fight, and it stopped. So the Zen master smiled: "You finally realized this truth-refusing pain."
I refuse to sacrifice my youth, beauty and even my feelings to satisfy my vanity and gain money and status. Life is full of temptations as well as pitfalls and hidden dangers. The beauty of a woman is a gift from nature, a flower of truth, goodness and beauty, just like a flawless jade, which can never be polluted by the world. Women should rely on their own abilities and talents to gain due status and respect.
I refuse to listen to the story of Romeo and Juliet. Although they love heroically, it is a tragic ending after all. I just want the real love to be romantic. There are a few breezes and a short thunderstorm. It will always be a dull and happy comedy.
I refused to pray to the years and complained about the ruthlessness of time with tears in my eyes. Although youth has disappeared silently in the calendar, life has written the experience in the corner of her eyes and dyed her hair, but I believe that a woman's youth lies in her state of mind. Beauty is fleeting, but charm lasts forever.
I refuse purposeful love. Love cannot be explained by words. It is an emotional experience that makes people sleepless, worried and relatively silent when meeting. After many laughter and tears, it lingers and scatters just to express an unspeakable word-love. I like to look at myself calmly in my lover's eyes, face happiness with a smile and walk hand in hand without saying a word. I refuse to be hurt by moxibustion, and refuse to let my passion burn crazily. Pale ashes are consumed by disappointing winters.
Reject superficiality and accept profundity. Reject hatred, accept tolerance, care and tolerance. Reject hypocrisy and accept sincerity. Reject the false, the evil and the ugly, and accept the true, the good and the beautiful ... In life, a road full of temptation extends under your feet. Only by learning to refuse will you not go astray.