Abstract: In the principle of personal freedom, there is no exception in the Marriage Law. Therefore, as long as both men and women reach the legal age of marriage and meet other conditions of legal marriage, the marriage registration authority shall register them, and no unit or individual may interfere with or raise the standard of marriage age at will. However, Articles 33 and 35 of the Regulations on the Management of Students in Colleges and Universities issued by the State Education Commission 1990 stipulate that students who marry privately during their studies at school shall be treated as dropping out of school; Students who have been dropped out of school may not apply for resumption of study. In recent years, whether college students can get married has increasingly become the focus of social discussion. There are different opinions on this issue, and it has never been concluded. Regarding whether or not to get married, the Marriage Law clearly stipulates the implementation of the system of freedom of marriage, and it is forbidden to interfere with the freedom of marriage. This has told us that college students naturally enjoy the right to get married as long as they meet the statutory conditions. But having rights doesn't mean getting married. College students are not only faced with great academic and employment pressures, but also have difficult subjective and objective conditions for marriage. Therefore, although they have the right to get married, we should rationally choose to stay away from marriage. Whether college students get married for profit or death, they all have the right to get married. Does this mean that many things that were once forbidden to get married can also happen in public? Kissing on campus was once considered a serious mistake, but now it seems like a piece of cake. Of course, the lifting of the ban on marriage rights has also brought many unexpected troubles to teachers. For example, if you can get married, can you live together at school or rent a house? What if I get married and have another child? Students can't come to class with a big belly! If it is ok to have children, can girls who have children take maternity leave prescribed by the state? In a word, a lot of troubles followed. Keywords: college students get married; Provisions; Marriage Introduction The Ministry of Education issued the "New Regulations on the Management of Students in Colleges and Universities" (hereinafter referred to as the "new regulations"), which cancelled the original provision that "if a student fails to go through the formalities of dropping out of school and get married, it will be treated as dropping out of school". For college students, marriage in the future is neither prohibited nor encouraged. There are no longer any restrictions on the marriage of college students, and such a "legal blank" embodies the proper meaning of the rule of law. As we all know, the Marriage Law and the Marriage Registration Ordinance do not restrict college students from getting married. As the subordinate law of these two laws, the new regulations naturally cannot conflict with the superior law. In the past, we prohibited college students from getting married. In essence, managers simply regard the management system of colleges and universities as a tool to "govern" people, ignoring the other side of the problem, that is, various management systems formulated by colleges and universities are mainly used to serve people, not to "govern" people. The order of colleges and universities should be formed mainly by protecting rights and stimulating students' consciousness and sense of responsibility. This order is dynamic and tense. At present, many people have expressed various concerns about allowing college students to get married. For example, college students are not yet independent and have no material conditions for marriage; Once college students form a husband-wife relationship, it will bring trouble to school management; The drag of marriage and family will affect college students' study. These views undoubtedly regard college students as minors. In fact, will contemporary college students lose their minds in college and enter the marriage hall early? The answer is obviously no, according to the data of the Ministry of Education, only one in ten thousand students registered to get married in more than 70 colleges and universities that canceled the restrictions on students' marriage. To say the least, after the restrictions on college students' marriage are completely abolished, there is no need to be nervous even if many students register to get married, which has caused great pressure on school management. Because the perfection of rights protection will inevitably lead to the improvement of civil liberties and the difficulty of maintaining order, which is the cost that a society ruled by law must bear. Compared with the consequences of prohibiting students from getting married, which is more important. It can be said that prohibiting students from getting married is undoubtedly the worst choice, because in every field of social management, any order established at the expense of depriving individuals of their freedom and rights lacks basic legitimacy. Although lifting the marriage restriction is not necessarily the best choice, it is definitely the least bad choice. In addition to no longer prohibiting marriage, other changes in the new "Regulations" are also of concern. For example, for the first time, a chapter on "rights and obligations of students" was added, stipulating that "the adjustment of students' majors by schools must be approved by students"; Cancel the stipulation that "the admission qualification shall be reserved during the suspension period, and other colleges and universities shall not be admitted"; Expulsion from school "without academic credentials" was changed to "learning credentials". From these, we can see that the new "Regulations" fully embodies the main line of "right orientation" and points out the direction for the future management reform of colleges and universities: as colleges and universities, their management should keep pace with the times and keep up with the pace of the rule of law, rather than passively waiting for the society to adapt. University management should not always think about how to make it easier for managers to use their power, but should think more about how to make it easier for the managed to safeguard their rights. However, we should be soberly aware that the single-center management structure of power transfer is widely implemented in colleges and universities at present. The operating law of this management structure relies on external rules to achieve internal order, which is not suitable for fully realizing the management concept of "right-based". However, the new "Regulations" pay attention to this problem, because it adds the content that "schools should establish and improve the organizational form of students' participation in democratic management, and support and guarantee students' participation in democratic management in schools according to law". It is suggested that education departments and universities can carry out relevant research and formulate a system to promote the democratization of university management as soon as possible. First of all, explore the reasons why college students get married. The reason is roughly as follows: 1. You can sympathize with the teacher, pass the exam smoothly, and reduce the family burden. Teachers are the kindest group of people, complaining to teachers on the grounds of taking care of children and gaining their sympathy. It can make a large number of courses on the verge of passing pass, save a lot of review fees and reduce the burden on families. 2. College students' marriage is conducive to strengthening the feelings between classmates. The exchange of marriage experience between classmates, brothers and sisters, and mutual help with children are conducive to promoting exchanges and feelings between classmates. 3. College students' marriage is conducive to accumulating life experience and improving their ability. College students' marriage can make them feel the pressure of life in advance, work actively to raise their children and accumulate a lot of cognitive experience. At the same time, college students have a stable marriage and divorce frequently, which can greatly exercise their abilities (such as the eloquence of quarreling, the level of being flushed for a few dollars, the perseverance of court decisions such as patience, and the skills of splashing water on boys, etc.). There will be no grand wedding, which is beneficial to improve social atmosphere. Now there are tens of thousands of people talking about marriage and ostentation and extravagance, which has formed a bad atmosphere of vicious comparison in society. College students' weddings are more economical. At the same time, all the people attending the wedding are friends of classmates, less kitsch and more purity, and there is no need to see the boss or superiors at the wedding, leaving good memories for the future. Even telling it to a child can make him (her) moved by that purity. At the same time, it can hit the arrogance of many photo studios. All these are of positive significance to the construction of spiritual civilization. 5. It is conducive to the growth of children and responds to the policy of prenatal and postnatal care. University is the place with the highest quality of people and one of the best ethos. Children can grow up in such an elegant environment as soon as they are born, and when they come into contact with high-quality groups, their IQ and EQ will be higher than their peers. Children are our tomorrow, please give them the best growing environment! 6. The growth of children on campus can stimulate the campus economy. Women and children earn the most money. There are many children on campus, and I am afraid that the school staff will be poor-selling toys, pouring snacks and taking care of children. Are you tired of making money? This will stimulate the campus economy, improve school conditions and solve a large number of employment problems. 7. Taking children to class is conducive to improving teaching methods and improving teaching quality. As we all know, half of college students often skip class and half sleep in class. Therefore, taking children to class can improve students' enthusiasm in class and let children play between classes! ! ! Besides, it's not good to skip class in front of children, is it? This is of positive significance for improving teaching quality. With the promulgation of the new marriage law and the abolition of the restrictions on college entrance examination and marriage age by the Ministry of Education, marriage is no longer an insurmountable threshold for people to enter colleges and universities. The policy of "married people can go to college" not only provides married people with an opportunity to realize their college dreams, but also adds some vitality to the quiet ivory tower. However, with more and more married people entering universities, another question is before us: married people can go to universities, so can college students get married? There are different opinions on this issue, and some people agree that college students' marriage destroys the normal teaching order; Opponents believe that the marriage law has stipulated the freedom of marriage, and the third party should not interfere. At the same time, the experience of foreign educational circles proves that there is nothing wrong with students getting married. On this issue, the provisions of the state also have certain contradictions. Article 2 of the current marriage law stipulates that the marriage system of freedom of marriage, monogamy and equality between men and women shall be implemented. Article 5 stipulates that marriage must be completely voluntary by both men and women, and neither party may force the other party or interfere with it by any third party. Regarding the principle of freedom of marriage, there is no exception in the Marriage Law. Therefore, as long as both men and women reach the legal age of marriage and meet other conditions for legal marriage, the marriage registration authority shall register them, and no unit or individual may interfere with or raise the standard of marriage age at will. However, Articles 33 and 35 of the Regulations on the Management of Students in Colleges and Universities issued by the State Education Commission 1990 stipulate that students who marry privately during their studies at school shall be treated as dropping out of school; Students who have been dropped out of school may not apply for resumption of study. In recent years, whether college students can get married has increasingly become the focus of social discussion. There are different opinions on this issue, and it has never been concluded. Regarding whether or not to get married, the Marriage Law clearly stipulates the implementation of the system of freedom of marriage, and it is forbidden to interfere with the freedom of marriage. This has told us that college students naturally enjoy the right to get married as long as they meet the statutory conditions. But having rights doesn't mean getting married. College students are not only faced with great academic and employment pressures, but also have difficult subjective and objective conditions for marriage. Therefore, although they have the right to get married, we should rationally choose to stay away from marriage. Whether college students get married for profit or death, they all have the right to get married. There are many disadvantages in college students' marriage. First of all, college students' marriage will affect their study. A person's time and energy are limited, so there is a problem of reasonable distribution of time and energy. Love, marriage and family all need to spend a lot of time and energy. It should be said that I was very nervous during my study at school. If you want to finish your studies well, you should devote yourself wholeheartedly. If you focus on love, marriage and family, it will undoubtedly have a great impact on your studies. The study time in school is very short, so we should cherish the hard-won study time. It is also an old saying that there is no shop after this village. This kind of feeling may be hard to feel at school, but in society, we have to study again, not to say that we can't, but the pressure of work and life will make people feel that they are willing to do more than they can do, and they won't have time to sit in the classroom and listen to the teacher. Another point is that when you use books, you don't hate them so much, and you miss the opportunity to learn. When you think you have learned too little, it is too late. Therefore, college students' marriage will affect their study, which is not worth advocating. Secondly, the marriage of college students is restricted by economic conditions. As we know, most college students have to pay for their studies at home. Even though some students are constantly learning to stand on their own feet and go to school to subsidize their study expenses while working, it is difficult for them to take care of themselves completely, and few students can solve the tuition problem by themselves. Originally, a college student went to school. For many ordinary families, the high cost was unbearable. Many students completed their studies with loans. If they have to bear the cost of love, marriage and family again, it will be a greater economic burden for the family. It can be said that most families simply cannot afford it. Therefore, the marriage of college students will be limited by economic conditions, so it is difficult for college students to get married at school. Secondly, the marriage of college students has brought adverse effects on the management of the school. After getting married, college students should experience love, then get married and start a family. There are many things to do, but also family obligations and responsibilities. Whether students can complete their learning tasks in strict accordance with the rules and regulations of the school has become a big question, which has brought great inconvenience to the management of students in the school. Of course, since the 25-year-old age limit was abolished in the 200 1 College Entrance Examination, and the new marriage law promulgated in 2003 did not require the company's certificate for marriage registration, many colleges and universities have lifted the restrictions on students' marriage, and schools have neither interfered nor prohibited it, but it does not mean that the education department advocates students' marriage. Second, the understanding of college students' marriage is an insurmountable threshold for colleges and universities. The policy of "married people can go to college" not only provides married people with an opportunity to realize their college dreams, but also adds some vitality to the quiet ivory tower. However, with more and more married people entering universities, another question is before us: married people can go to universities, so can college students get married? There are different opinions on this issue, and some people agree that college students' marriage destroys the normal teaching order; Opponents believe that the marriage law has stipulated the freedom of marriage, and the third party should not interfere. At the same time, the experience of foreign educational circles proves that there is nothing wrong with students getting married. On this issue, the provisions of the state also have certain contradictions. Article 2 of the current marriage law stipulates that the marriage system of freedom of marriage, monogamy and equality between men and women shall be implemented. Article 5 stipulates that marriage must be completely voluntary by both men and women, and neither party may force the other party or interfere with it by any third party. Regarding the principle of freedom of marriage, there is no exception in the Marriage Law. Therefore, as long as both men and women reach the legal age of marriage and meet other conditions of legal marriage, the marriage registration authority shall register them, and no unit or individual may interfere with or raise the standard of marriage age at will. However, Articles 33 and 35 of the Regulations on the Management of Students in Colleges and Universities issued by the State Education Commission 1990 stipulate that students who marry privately during their studies at school shall be treated as dropping out of school; Students who have been dropped out of school may not apply for resumption of study. In recent years, whether college students can get married has increasingly become the focus of social discussion. There are different opinions on this issue, and it has never been concluded. Regarding whether or not to get married, the Marriage Law clearly stipulates the implementation of the system of freedom of marriage, and it is forbidden to interfere with the freedom of marriage. This has told us that college students naturally enjoy the right to get married as long as they meet the statutory conditions. But having rights doesn't mean getting married. College students are not only faced with great academic and employment pressures, but also have difficult subjective and objective conditions for marriage. Therefore, although they have the right to get married, we should rationally choose to stay away from marriage. Whether college students get married for profit or death, they all have the right to get married. Does this mean that many things that were once forbidden to get married can also happen in public? Kissing on campus was once considered a serious mistake, but now it seems like a piece of cake. Of course, the lifting of the ban on marriage rights has also brought many unexpected troubles to teachers. For example, if you can get married, can you live together at school or rent a house? What if I get married and have another child? Students can't come to class with a big belly! If it is ok to have children, can girls who have children take maternity leave prescribed by the state? In a word, a lot of troubles followed. There are also college students who are pregnant with pearls because they have no choice, and finally end in tragedy. Even if you get rid of this wrong crystallization, you have to be sneaky, let alone get married. A classmate of my university accompanied her school girlfriend to the school health center for examination and found that her girlfriend was pregnant for more than 3 months. As a result, it is conceivable that the two almost got fired. In fact, the couple are usually honest and their academic performance is above average. I really want to fire them. If I were a school, I would feel unbearable. Some people say that letting college students get married will bring many negative effects. The reason is that college students' outlook on life is still immature. In Seeds of Love, we have been labeled as such since junior high school. Is it unfair that we have to admit our naivety against our will until we reach adulthood? Good people can certainly find all kinds of examples. But don't adults have immature ideas? If you ask today's college students, "Will they get married in college?" Most of the answers are estimated to be: even if allowed, I will not choose to get married. It can be seen that college students are not so naive on this issue. It has nothing to do with whether you are a college student or not. Whether you can get married is a matter of right, and whether you can get married is a realistic problem. The two are completely different. I believe that the implementation of the new school rules will not have much impact on the pure life of the campus. There will be no strange phenomenon that a large number of girls go to class with their bellies. In a relaxed environment, adult college students will consider the impact of marriage on their lives and studies. As soon as I let go of the problem of college students getting married, a stone splashed. We can fully imagine how lively the campus where college students get married is. Students and teachers exchange ideas about marriage and help each other with their children. As soon as the bell rang, I rushed into a fast food restaurant to work. Even with the support of grandparents, at least my parents have to earn some milk powder money. The most common sentence in a quarrel between men and women on campus is: "I want to leave you!" " "Either no one is in class or the children are taken to class. According to the emerging situation, universities urgently set up a new course called parenting and marriage, and only married teachers are qualified to teach. If a couple of college students see this picture, nine times out of ten they will give up the idea of getting married. For college students in their early 20 s, they probably only enjoy the preparation before and after the flowers, but they don't have the courage to bear the daily necessities. When it comes to having children, some of them are simply children carrying smelly socks accumulated for a week on weekends. A student couple's one-day relationship is at least equivalent to an office worker's three-day relationship. Eat, attend classes, go to the library, and stick together whenever possible. As the saying goes, distance produces beauty. Being too close can easily lead to aesthetic fatigue. If college students really get married hastily, it is difficult to guarantee that the divorce rate in China will not jump by one percentage point. Some time ago, there was a couple in the series "Perfect" broadcast by CCTV. The boys haven't graduated yet, but they will get married anyway, and their marriage life is full of twists and turns. Although the screenwriter barely wrote a perfect ending, I'm afraid it won't be so perfect in real life. It can be seen that marriage is not a treat to dinner. Before getting the license, feel whether there are calluses on your shoulders and whether you can bear the burden. Getting married seems far away from college life. After all, the campus is still suitable for out-of-touch love. If two people really get married and have children, it is estimated that life, rice and oil will make love unrecognizable. But as graduation approaches, I suddenly find that it is really good for college students to get married, at least it can help me add some points: after passing the graduation thesis defense. In the stage before graduation, everyone is busy looking for a job, running around for interviews every day, and those who have a preliminary intention will stay in the unit for internship, leaving early and returning late every day. Writing an excellent paper has become an unattainable luxury. Last year's wedding, self-taught college students got married on the same day as their thesis defense. The bride wore a wedding dress to defend her thesis and successfully passed it. I heard that one of my graduate students wrote her thesis in a hurry last year, and her tutor felt that her thesis was not professional enough at the last minute. Everyone thinks that her fate is ill-fated, but she was pregnant for seven and a half months when she answered, and she tried her best to reply with a big belly, winning the sympathy of all the judges and finally passing the reply smoothly. " If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer. "It is the culture of China that endows the elders with incomparable dignity and absolute authority. China's parents, known as the "most responsible and worried" group, are undoubtedly a group of people who are extremely concerned about the issue of "college students getting married". However, after hearing the news, most parents expressed clear opposition after hearing the question. The parents of a high school student said, "It's too early to get married in college. Today's young people have never experienced any big storms and don't understand the value of peace and stability. It is good to have a school in our time. How can they finish their studies too early? ! How to study with peace of mind? ! Imagine: when you open your schoolbag and get ready to read at your desk, your child is crying and your husband is whispering to you. Can you still concentrate? School and family can't have both to some extent. "Another parent even suggested that the child's marriage in college increased the financial burden on parents." Don't say that you don't know what kind of wife a child will find. After a fait accompli, isn't that to bear the living expenses of two children? If there are children, it becomes three. What a disaster! The old argument that students have indispensable rights is really representative. I believe that most parents of college students hold similar views. But think about it, in the eyes of parents, college students are not adults at all. Although my parents think there is no problem in lifting the ban in principle, they have repeatedly stressed never to get married when it comes to my problems. Actually, I have no intention of getting married. Speaking of marriage, for me and my current girlfriend, the pure value is justice. But even if you don't get married, the right to marry is still important. Because it is an acknowledgement of the fact that we are adults. In fact, getting married after work does not affect work? My cousin has been working for 3 years, and his parents paid for his wedding. After marriage, the wife was afraid of having children and lost her job. Although she gave birth in the end, she gave all her children to her parents. Obviously, the influence of marriage is not limited to our college students. Don't adult college students think about what will affect their studies? It's just that we are not economically independent, so that those of us who have grown up are always regarded as minors. 200 1 The Ministry of Education released an amazing news: there is no limit on the age and marriage of college entrance examination candidates. This new policy has also triggered a nationwide discussion on whether college students should be restricted from getting married. Some people think that since married people can take the college entrance examination and enter universities, what's wrong with college students getting married when they reach the legal age of marriage? Some people in the legal profession pointed out that China's marriage law stipulates that men can get married voluntarily when they are 22 years old and women can get married when they are 20 years old. The provisions in the Regulations on the Administration of Students in Colleges and Universities are inconsistent with the marriage law. On June 65438+ 10/day, 2003, the new Marriage Registration Ordinance came into effect. According to the regulations, in the future, marriage registration does not require a certificate from the company, and the marriage examination is voluntary, and college students who are not limited to the legal age of marriage are required to register. This means that college students can go through the marriage registration formalities as long as they meet the conditions stipulated in the Regulations and carry relevant documents. As some experts have said, we should affirm the legality of campus marriage from a legal point of view, and give college students more humanistic encouragement and more humanistic care. Its symbolic meaning may be far greater than its actual meaning. In fact, the attitude of contemporary college students towards marriage is also more rational. According to the survey results of the Ministry of Education, at present, less than one in ten thousand undergraduates get married. 3. Conclusion: Marriage of college students is neither advocated nor prohibited. At the fourth press conference of the Ministry of Education in 2005 held today, Sun, director of the Legislative Affairs Office of the Ministry of Education, said that college students should not be encouraged or prohibited from getting married, and the regulations on students' marriage should be fully understood. Do students have the obligation to inform the school if they get married according to the marriage law after the promulgation of the regulations? "On this issue, Sun said that it is necessary to master the new regulations from two aspects: First, on the issue of marriage, students must meet the age and conditions stipulated in the Marriage Law and the Marriage Registration Regulations, and there is nothing in the regulations that prohibits college students from marrying. Secondly, from the perspective of educators, education departments or schools, there is still a difference between recognizing college students' right to get married and advocating marriage. Our education administrative department or school can't restrict it, but from the perspective of college students themselves, they should also focus on learning and properly handle the relationship between learning and marriage and family. During college, students have no marriage foundation or economic foundation, so we think marriage is still not advocated. Sun stressed that on this issue, we should not interfere too much to prevent students from getting married. But at the same time, as managers and educators, they have the obligation to persuade college students not to abuse marriage, but falling in love is advocated by most people.

"Love is the poem and the sun in life, nourishing the beautiful life". College students in their prime must be full of romantic fantasies and longings for love. With the change of people's social concept and lifestyle, the problem of love has penetrated into all aspects of college students' study, life, attitude towards life and ideals. In the university, a small society where young people in their twenties gather, the phenomenon of college students' love has changed from hiding half their faces behind guitars to being openly wandering in love, which has become a real problem for all beings on campus.

After college students crowded across the single-plank bridge, their study pressure was relieved, and they had more leisure time after school to face a brand-new and colorful college life. After a short period of novelty and curiosity, a long period of homesickness will haunt us, while most college students are only children, with relatively weak independent living ability and less collective life experience, so it is difficult to adapt to the dual pressures of study and life for a while. Once the purpose of study is not clear, it will inevitably lead to emptiness and boredom, and then seeing the students around you in pairs, love will attract these empty college students with its unique temptation.

Whether college students' love outweighs the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages has always been a matter of opinion. People who hold the interest view say that college students can care for each other in their lives when they fall in love; Promote each other spiritually, comfort each other and relieve homesickness; Encourage each other in their studies, improve together, and promote the self-motivation of both sides. In fact, this is an idealized view of love. In real life, you will find that real love is not as beautiful as you think.

On the other hand, people who hold unfavorable views think that college students fall in love during school, on the one hand, they enter the world of two people too early, and their energy is too scattered, which is not conducive to the cultivation of self-motivation and will seriously affect their studies; Secondly, it is often difficult for college students to grasp the accuracy and moderation because of many contradictions and great setbacks in the process of love. Although college students are physically mature, their psychological development is unbalanced, their mood fluctuates greatly, and they are easy to get emotional. Once you are lovelorn, if you can't get reasonable emotional counseling, the consequences will be unimaginable. Third, college students in love have a strong tendency in interpersonal communication, often alienating their original partners, or even alienating the collective, causing estrangement between classmates and affecting unity. The sense of responsibility for the collective has also been replaced by the love between men and women, which is not conducive to the shaping and growth of individual roles and the development of the collective; The employment trend is also a sensitive issue that has been bothering college students in love. Although it is said verbally that "I only care about what I once had and don't care about eternity", once Lao Yan flies to a different place, will he "bye bye" when he graduates?

This problem must be carefully considered. If two people have different beliefs, such love is not worth mentioning! Because two people don't even have the most basic beliefs, what are the same goals and life? Two people are like two parallel lines, which will never intersect. Will such love be happy? Will it last forever? Therefore, love is facing all kinds of contradictions in the real world, rather than the so-called "love". Love is responsibility, love is respect. Only when people understand each other can they respect each other. Love is "I love because I am loved". Mature love is "being loved because you love someone"; Immature love is "I love you because I need you;" Mature love is "I need you because I love you."

So I think college students' love still does more harm than good. Psychologists have proved that 20-24 years old is the best age to study in one's life. The years after college students go to school and even graduate are not only the heyday of their intellectual development, but also the key period to lay the foundation for their future career. Three or four years of college life is short and precious. Young college students should not spend their prime time in love, but should aspire to success. When they succeed, there are plenty of fish in the sea.