Fan Zhongyan's Yueyang Tower is an immortal epic. Its beauty lies not in describing the endless landscape, not in the vastness of the soup, but in Fan Zhongyan's life cry and his pursuit of the transcendent realm of life-"don't be happy with things, don't be sad for yourself." How sublime Fan Zhongyan is beyond the broad-minded realm of things! How extraordinary!
In life, we will encounter all kinds of situations: gain and loss, bitterness and joy, sinking and floating, rising and falling, winning and losing, sadness and joy. However, who can not be bound by these external things, boldly jump out, live free and easy, detached? Some people haggle over every ounce, forget righteousness at the sight of profit, and suffer from loss; Some people are vengeful and refuse to forgive others; Some people can't take pleasure in suffering, talk about conditions and care about remuneration; Some people can only gain and lose, win and lose, rise and fall; Some people pursue fame and fortune and become prisoners of foreign things and slaves of fame and fortune. How to get rid of life, not be confused by all kinds of complicated contradictions, and jump out of all kinds of strange circles, which tests a person's wisdom and embodies a person's cultivation.
"Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself", which requires you to learn to forget, to be able to humiliate and forget together. It is not surprising to be pampered, not allergic to being stimulated, not impulsive to be challenged, not angry to be belittled, not depressed to be hit, and not ashamed to be insulted. Be calm and think twice before you act. Don't lose your temper when you are frustrated and don't get carried away. Forget happiness and sadness, forget pain and suffering, forget torture and tossing, forget all the complicated interference. Lu Xun's younger brother in Kite forgot his rudeness and became a kind of pain that tortured Lu Xun. Confess! Forget it! Dare to forget! Forget it, you will make progress! Forget it, just be detached! Forget it, you will sublimate! If you forget, you make yourself. We are already very tired and burdened with too many things. Not tired of material desires, not fettered by fame and fortune. Indifferent to ambition, regard fame and fortune as clouds. Life needs to be cleaned up, relaxed, refreshing and comfortable. Only in this way will there be less pain, more happiness, less bondage, more freedom, less pressure, more relaxation, less ignorance and more reason.
Smoke, forget the past, and be selfless at heart. However, in reality, some people always can't let go and forget, always pick up things they shouldn't, always carry things that don't belong to them on their backs, ask for trouble and ask for it, and are willing to be prisoners of life and slaves of fate. This is sad. Everything in life should be put down like running water and like floating clouds in the sky. Don't intercept, don't tolerate, but let it flow away freely, let the old man of time wash it away quickly, and keep the soul pure and holy. Tao Yuanming was drunk and did it; Fan Zhongyan detached himself and did it; Wang Wei understood and realized it. However, how many people are impatient, lack of practice and don't understand, and they are always worried about unnecessary gains and losses of fame and fortune, which will become an extra burden.
"Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself", and ask to enter "no self". We should dare to jump out of our own circle and out of the material circle. Get rid of the temptation of material things, get rid of the shackles of fame and fortune, and be a detached person. This is a great realm, which is what Wang Guowei, a master of Chinese studies, called "the realm without me". Everything in this world is neither yours nor mine. It belongs to nature. No one can have it all his life, and no one can keep it for himself. With this idea, you will get rid of the bondage of material things and jump out of the circle of "I-centered" and "I-centered". Don't think about yourself, don't think about everything about yourself. If you don't have me in your heart, you have someone else in your heart, and you have someone else in your heart, you have the world in your heart. It's too difficult to do it. Always think: you are nothing, everything about you is not worth worrying about and thinking about. We are just a part of nature. Everything we have belongs to nature and the world, including ourselves. To achieve "no self", we must forget everything about ourselves, including happiness, sadness, troubles, rewards, gifts, contradictions and so on. Forget other people's accusations, abuse, insults, cynicism, cynicism, oppression, deception, contradiction, slavery, framing and so on. Always thinking, it doesn't matter, it's all about tempering yourself. I always feel that if someone else gives it, don't take the initiative to carry it. Let go, let go of others and let go of yourself.
"Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself" requires you to learn to choose. Don't give up what you don't want or need. If you can't get it, you will suffer, be sad, be jealous, be abnormal, don't pursue what you shouldn't pursue, be bold and generous when you give up, and be bold and brave. Don't care about anything, don't value anything, don't pursue anything, don't care about anything. Sometimes, having is the greatest pain; Sometimes, happiness comes from loss. Unwilling to give up, unwilling to give up, sometimes will bring endless troubles and pain, sometimes will lead to disaster, sometimes will lose more. Giving up willingly is a kind of wisdom, a kind of happiness and a great realm.
"Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself" is to let us face everything calmly. No matter what kind of temptation, no matter what state you are in, keep a calm heart, and don't like, hate, hurt, laugh, envy or be impatient. Don't reveal your emotions at will, and don't be influenced by foreign things. The sky is as big as the heart. The frog in the well can only see the sky as big as the wellhead. How high the heart is, how high the sky is. How wide the heart is, how wide the earth is. Heart is the most important thing, so make sure it belongs to you. Easy, easy, easy. Don't be overjoyed, don't get carried away, don't be overjoyed and don't be heartbroken. Calm down, calm down, calm down, calm down, "calm down", calm down, calm down. Stop, clean, heavy, steady, and maintain a detached attitude.
"don't be happy with things, don't be sad for yourself", and ask you to be calm, don't go too far, don't go too far, don't cross the line, and always keep your bottom line. Everything about yourself is insignificant, don't take it to heart. No matter be demoted, no matter be hurt, no matter be wrongly blamed, no matter be framed, no matter when and where, all should look down upon.
"Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself", which requires your tolerance. A big belly can hold what the world can hold; I often laugh when I open my mouth and laugh at ridiculous people in the world. Tolerance, tolerance, throughput! Swallow everything, swallow everything, chew it up and sink into my heart.
"Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself", which requires you to have the ability to change. Everything can be digested, everything can be digested, and everything can be dissolved. Everything can be melted by you, everything can be melted by you, and all kinds can be influenced by you. Roll with the punches, roll with the punches This is not evasion, this is not irresponsibility, this is not perfunctory. This is a kind of melting, this is a kind of rejection, this is a kind of liberation. First, everything is gone, and all troubles, contradictions and pains will disappear. You must have the ability to transform, dissolve and dissolve. Keep the world in your heart and swallow all the pain in your stomach. If you can hold it, you will become a Buddha!
Don't rejoice in things, don't grieve for yourself. Let heartless troubles stay away from you, and let endless pain stay away from you. Treat the world frankly, face the gains and losses frankly, forget ourselves and melt everything, and we will get happiness and have everything.