Speaking of lies, I dare say that none of us has never lied since childhood. Yes, everyone has lied, but some lies are white and some lies are malicious! A white lie has a good starting point, and it is a lie that has to be fabricated when lying and cheating in white.
The starting point of white lies:
First: white lies are out of goodwill, with the purpose and starting point of safeguarding the interests of others. As we all know, contradictions can be divided into universality and particularity, and particularity is contained in particularity and different from universality. The essence of a white lie determines that it is not a bad benefit, but is based on sincerity and kindness in the heart, while a malicious lie is an act of seeking benefits for the liar, which only regards others as a means and does not hesitate to hurt others, with a strong desire for profit and weak rationality. The lies that people who are kind in themselves are "forced" to tell in a certain state are well-intentioned and a kind of friendliness and concern for the subject. However, unscrupulous people, no matter how to disguise, how to rhetoric, how to rack their brains to crown their malicious lies with malicious purposes. Obviously, a white lie does not hinder honesty.
Second: White lies are a way of life and a reflection of considerate quality.
Relatives and friends of terminally ill patients always tell their illness lightly with white lies and encourage him to cooperate with doctors. I'm sure none of you here will accuse them of dishonesty, will you? ! On the contrary, it is malicious and true. A prisoner was lured by the enemy to tell about his troop deployment. Does anyone think he is honest? Sincerity to the enemy is betrayal to the country!
The director of the judicial expertise department of Guangzhou Brain Hospital said: "Lying is a human instinct. As for honesty, the key is what kind of lies to use. "
A lie that rejects love without directly hurting the suitor; An expressive lie that is unwilling to disappoint the inviter under the attentions of men is indispensable in interpersonal communication. It makes us more handy when dealing with the world, instead of cutting off other people's heads and scratching ourselves like a hard stone with many edges.
It can be seen that people need a layer of protective color and lubrication. Since being expelled from the Garden of Eden, people are not naked but surrounded by bark and grass leaves, aren't they?
Third: white lies are a kind of lies, but not telling lies will definitely hinder honesty. It is necessary to analyze specific problems.
Honesty is respected by everyone because it is kind and does not cheat. On the surface, white lies seem to hinder the principle of honesty, but in essence, they exist because telling the truth hinders the principle of good faith.
White lies and honesty are actually the relationship of unity of opposites, and the so-called violation only provides a useful supplement to honesty, not an obstacle. For example, it is stipulated that pedestrians in the same direction can only occupy half of the road, which does not hinder everyone's passage!
Fourth: A world without lies is like a dust-free earth. We agree that white lies do not hinder honesty, but this does not mean that we advocate honesty. The key is the degree.
Statement:
What is lying? If it is indiscriminate, it is defined as: not seeking truth from facts, telling lies, exaggerating, covering up and distorting the truth. Then our life is full of lies, big and small, from inflammatory advertisements to sweet words between lovers, full of exaggerated words, and even Lian Wenxue's works have become lies. Everyone has a standard of lying in his heart. How to grasp this degree is our first consideration. Compared with lies with bad motives, white lies will make people's feelings more harmonious and harmonious, and life more interesting. It can skillfully avoid conflicts, realize emotional communication and communicate smoothly. How can it interfere with honesty?
So learn to distinguish malicious lies and protect yourself from harm; At the same time, improve your self-cultivation and think about the best way to solve the problem. "The way of a university lies in virtue, being close to the people and stopping at perfection". As for those that are warm and make life full of interest; As for those lies full of kindness and compassion, let them bloom!
I believe that under the sky of goodwill, our world will be better! !
We teach our children not to lie, but many people forget to tell them that there is another kind of white lie in the world. Good people think about how many times we have told white lies in order not to embarrass others, to make others uncomfortable and to make ourselves feel ashamed. We lied, but we are kind people!
The world is not so pure and scarce. All people who ask for innocence are naive people. Most people who pursue innocence are liars. Too many people who tell the so-called truth naked are shameless.
A white lie. The focus is on goodwill, which will be valuable.
But you can't deny the fact.
If you are ashamed and angry after being told, you will lose your goodwill and leak it out. . . .
Example:
When a terminally ill patient is sentenced to death by a doctor, his parents, lover, children and all relatives will not directly tell him, "Life is hopeless" and "How long can I live in this world at most". Although all this is true, who will tell the truth to their already miserable relatives as cruelly as a judge sentenced a prisoner to death? At this time, everyone will form a United front, keep silent about the truth, and use white lies to make patients full of hope for treatment and let patients spend the rest of their lives with peace of mind. Does this hinder honesty?
When a dead child suddenly encounters misfortune and loses his loved ones, how can he explain to him where his loved ones have gone? We think the best way is: don't tell him the truth for the time being, just say to go on a business trip in a distant place, or study and work abroad. When the child is sensible and has a certain tolerance, he will tell the truth, and the child will understand the practices of his loved ones and will not be angry because he did not know the truth earlier. Don't such words also hinder the integrity!
How I wish I could see my son for the last time when his mother was terminally ill and dying. However, my son can't come back, and he can't do a little filial piety for his old mother and take care of the mother who once broke his heart for his son. He regrets and misses it. The old mother understands her son very well and tells her relatives around her not to tell her distant son after she leaves and not to distract him. She should say that her condition is stable, reassure him and do her best for the country. Don't interfere with honesty with such white lies!
In the late 1950s and early 1960s, there was a dispute between China and the former Soviet Union. The former Soviet government tore up the contract and withdrew experts, which paralyzed China's industry for a time. In order to pay off the debts owed to the former Soviet Union, Chairman Mao called on the people to practice steel and launched an unprecedented Great Leap Forward. At that time, no one in China would know that our country was still in debt to others, thinking that our country was liberated. You will live a carefree life, but the party and state leaders shoulder this burden. At that time, the state leaders lied to the people in good faith and honesty. At that time, the people of China worked hard without pressure and created an unprecedented miracle. At that time, the Iron Man Wang Jinxi was created, and Wang Jinxi led his oil drilling team to drill the first oil well in China … ..
Second, speaking of us personally, I will give two small examples here:
I watched a TV report that an old mother had kidney disease, and her life would be in danger if she didn't change her kidney. At this time, the eldest son stood up and asked for kidney donation, which hurt the old mother, who strongly opposed it. She said that if so, she might as well die. No way, we can only wait for a kidney source that matches the conditions, but it is really not easy to wait for such a kidney source. My son was afraid of delaying his mother's illness. After discussing with his family, I cheated my mother. I donated a kidney from my youth to my mother. After the operation was successful, the family kept it from their old mother. The most touching thing is that my mother and son live in the next ward. My mother doesn't know. When my mother wanted to see her eldest son, my family just lied to her that her son was on a business trip. After reading this report, I was moved to tears. Friends, does such a lie hinder honesty?
A little girl with leukemia, at the end of her life, when the doctor asked her what her greatest wish was, she said that she wanted to go to Tiananmen Square to watch the flag-raising ceremony. How can doctors and parents not satisfy a dying girl's last wish? However, because her family lives in a distant Xinjiang, if her requirements are met, the doctor is afraid that the girl can't stand the fatigue of the journey, so a collective fabrication activity organized by more than 2,000 volunteers, doctors and the girl's family began. From boarding the train to taking the tour bus, along the way, from reporting to the waiter serving tea, and even to the conversation of passengers, everyone deliberately arranged. Finally, they came to a school, accompanied by the national anthem of a military band. The blind girl thought she really came to the long-awaited Tiananmen Square. When she was unable to raise her little hand to salute the national flag, all the people present shed tears. This collective lying action organized by more than 2,000 people, can you say that their white lies hinder honesty?
Also, many elderly people are uncomfortable and refuse to let their children know at the first time, for fear of affecting their normal work and study! Many children say that falling doesn't hurt, just to let their parents say they are brave! There are many women who silently contribute behind the successful personnel, tired but not complaining, so that their husbands can do their work better with peace of mind and care less about their families ... White lies are beautiful, which is not cheating or ulterior motives. When we tell some little lies for the happiness and hope of others, lies become understanding, respect and tolerance, and without any impurities, they have magical power. A white lie is a lie out of good wishes, the nourishment of life and the source of faith. It makes people ignite the fire of hope from the heart, and also makes people firmly believe that there is love, trust and emotion in the world! ! ! White lies can make people find reasons to face life with a smile. White lies endow human beings with spirituality, reflect the delicacy of emotions and the maturity of thoughts, and urge people to be strong and persistent, to fight for it involuntarily, and finally to overcome their fragility and survive. A white lie can save a terminally ill patient and give others a glimmer of hope. White lies can restore confidence and sometimes save a person who is about to have a nervous breakdown.