After entering middle school, Tiejun's "single-handedly" approach put him in a lot of difficulties. My academic performance is getting worse and worse, and I suddenly slipped to the middle reaches; The interpersonal relationship is so bad that there are no friends who are a little closer; The psychological quality is very poor, and I am in a bad mood of inferiority, loneliness and anxiety all day.
Because Tiejun only focuses on learning and has no other activities, his value, interest and confidence are only reflected in learning, so he cannot allow others to surpass himself in learning, nor can he allow others to "share equally" with himself in the honor of learning. Under the control of narrow psychology, he feels jealous, angry, anxious and panic about catching up with his classmates in academic performance, and once a person lacks a cool head, how can he study hard?
From the example of Tiejun, we can learn something.
There is a pile of eggs. A put them all in one basket and take good care of them. B put them in several baskets, but the eggs in this basket are broken and lost, and there are some eggs left in other baskets.
A and B have their own advantages and disadvantages. If they are not based on specific conditions, there should be no distinction between advantages and disadvantages. But from the point of view of mental health, the practice of B is more worthy of recognition.
Why do you say that? Let's take Tiejun as an example. If he not only studies well, but also has many specialties and hobbies and many friends, then even if others' academic performance temporarily exceeds his own, he can easily let go. Because it is not only study that supports his self-confidence and self-esteem, but also many other aspects that make him proud. He can restore self-confidence and adjust his mentality through other activities he is good at; Because he has many friends, he can gain friendship by telling his unhappiness. If the relationship between people is not narrowly understood as "comparison", there will be an open-minded tolerance psychologically.
Therefore, people should develop in many aspects, have a wide range of interests and hobbies, and have good interpersonal relationships. This is like adding a big tree, and their ability to resist the cold will naturally increase. In other words, people's psychological endurance to setbacks has been strengthened.