Spreading popular science education, children grow up in the sun, and happiness and happiness must be experienced in childhood.
What I share with you today is the first chapter of Sun Ruixue's love and freedom. Let's discuss what kind of "role" parents should play in their children's lives-servant or master, and how to get along better with their children on the road of parenting.
Tip 1？ Spiritual embryo
The moment the fetus is formed in the mother's body, there is a strong spiritual energy and potential in him. His development does not need adults to add anything new to him, but only needs to provide him with the environment and conditions for development.
Tip2？ law of development
Children are self-developing.
Following this law of development, there is no "indoctrination" by adults, but the conditions for preparation for development, and children will absorb it themselves, so that children will develop perfectly.
On the other hand, if adults don't let children develop according to this law and force them to do it, then the development of children may go into a misunderstanding and it is impossible to establish a true sense of morality.
Tip3？ Growth process
Human growth process = psychological growth process.
The process of human growth ≠ the process of intellectual growth.
The growth of intelligence is dependent on the growth of psychology.
Montessori said: "We should be spiritual servants of children, not masters."
Teacher Sun Ruixue said: "Helping children grow up does not mean that adults shape their children's spirit."
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In our daily parenting process, the above three points need to be remembered from time to time, which can make us less anxious on the road of parenting and children can grow up happier.
When children can talk, when they can walk, when they can interact, and so on. Don't compare them, follow his law of development and provide a corresponding environment for his development;
What toys did children play with when they were young? Children play with water or sand without forced intervention or pressure. When they make a mistake, they don't just reason with them, because at this time they will only follow their inner needs, and demanding is useless, but it may be counterproductive. Be patient with your children, and suddenly one day, you want them to understand something, and they will understand it at once.
Follow the internal law of development and be free from external control. Every child is the seed of a flower, but everyone has a different flowering period. Don't worry because he drives slower than others, just wait for the flowers to bloom ~
That's all for today. See you tomorrow!