Perhaps this class touched my inner bottom line, and the emotional gate could not be closed at once; Perhaps the sentence "The last thing in the world is to honor your parents" deeply touched my heart. My parents not only have the kindness to raise me, but also the kindness to save my life, which can not be ignored!
Sometimes, I want to buy some supplements for my mother, but the old man won't say anything; Buy a new year's dress. Parents always say that there are many clothes, so you can wear them when you are old. In fact, parents don't need children to do anything. As long as they have time to talk to them, they won't be lonely. It is their greatest happiness to see that children are doing well.
As the old saying goes, "All evils come first, and filial piety comes first". Why do China people think filial piety is the first of all good deeds? Since ancient times, people have regarded parents to raise their children and children to honor their parents as the basic morality of being a man. Confucius said, "Filial piety is the foundation of virtue". Only those who honor their parents are responsible and noble people.
When it comes to filial piety, we must first talk about "five virtues". The so-called five relationships refer to five interpersonal relationships: father and son, husband and wife, brother, monarch and minister, and friend. People are social animals, and everyone can't be separated from the crowd and be alone. The five virtues are closely related to everyone. Whoever can handle these five closest and most important interpersonal relationships will be able to handle all other interpersonal relationships by extension.
Any one of the five ethics has its own special norms, such as loving the father's kindness, filial piety to parents, respect for brothers and friends, loyal ministers and so on. It requires everyone to do their duty according to their different status, such as parents' caring responsibility for their children, children's respect and filial responsibility for their parents, and so on. But this does not mean that parents should be good to their children, brothers can be bad to their brothers and sisters, and superiors can be bad to their subordinates. Kindness, friendliness, courtesy, filial piety, courtesy and loyalty should be followed in all interpersonal relationships, but in the father-son relationship, "kindness" is the most important to parents and "filial piety" is the most important to children.
Filial piety is the psychology of children's respect, obedience and gratitude to their parents and elders. When the baby was born, he lived with his parents and family day and night, and his parents were his closest relatives. Parents take good care of their children and devote all their efforts to their growth. This kind of love can also be felt by babies. When they are old and sensible, they begin to teach filial piety, that is, to teach children to recognize their parents' hard work, to cherish their parents' labor achievements and to repay their parents as much as possible. What is taught, said and done is within the range that children can understand. Although the children are young, they can feel how much their parents love me. I should learn from my parents and love them in this way, so that children can realize what it is like to love their parents from an early age. This kind of emotional experience is to sow a seed of "love" in a child's innocent heart. I know that I have loved my parents since I was a child, and it is natural to get used to it. When I grow up, I will naturally love my brothers and sisters, the people around me, the country, the society and mankind. It can be seen that China people teach filial piety, that is, from near to far, from easy to difficult, to cultivate children's love step by step, and finally to cultivate children's selfless love for all mankind. And all this starts with teaching children filial piety. Filial piety is both the starting point and the destination of all education. Therefore, China people say: "Filial piety is the foundation of virtue, and teaching is born."
If parents love their children to a considerable extent out of nature, then teaching children filial piety is a kind of humanistic education and the result of acquired education. Of course, in human nature, everyone knows that parents work hard and they should try their best to repay their parents. However, if this kind nature is not given the correct teaching methods in time to make it take root, sprout, grow and grow, this grateful mood will soon disappear. Unconsciously, I naturally think that my parents love me and love me, and I have become accustomed to clothes and reaching for food; As for me, I also want to love my parents, because no one taught me or reminded me that this has not become my living habit, but I gradually forgot it, and finally I was ignorant. In early childhood, there is no concept of guiding children to form filial piety, and there is no conscious action to make filial parents become children. When they grow up, they complain that their children don't know filial piety. Isn't it just a fish for a fish? Cultivating children's filial piety spirit from childhood, starting with dolls, is the most critical and the easiest to see the effect. Therefore, Confucius said, "Less becomes nature, and habit becomes nature". There is an old saying in China: "If you love your son, you should teach him justice", and filial piety is the greatest justice.
A person's childhood is the preparation period of the whole life stage. Cultivating children's filial piety spirit at this stage is to let children bathe in the brilliance of kindness and loyalty from an early age. There is a saying from Confucius in The Analects of Confucius: "He is also a filial brother, but few people like to make mistakes. Those who are not good at making mistakes but good at making trouble are those who have not made mistakes. Gentleman's business is based on inheritance and Taoism. Filial piety is also the foundation of being a man! " Teaching children filial piety when they are young, and letting them understand things and talk about morality from an early age, is tantamount to grasping the root of life from an early age and walking on the right road of loving life from an early age. This is exactly the same as the nature and practice of saints. When you grow up, you will inherit the ideals and beliefs of your youth and move on. You will be a gentleman, an outstanding member of society, and your contribution to the social crowd will be great! If you can hear the sacred teachings, practice the correct teachings of saints and make contributions to society, then this life will not be wasted! Confucius said, "Listen in the morning and die at night." At this point in my life, what can I expect? This is precisely the deep purpose of China people's "filial piety comes first" and teaching filial piety from an early age.
Today, we advocate the spirit of filial piety again, which still has its irreplaceable time value and far-reaching historical significance.
First of all, advocating filial piety can cultivate children's love and responsibility. Today, great changes have taken place in the family structure of China society. The "four-two-one" structure is becoming more and more common in urban families, that is, four old people, two parents and stars holding the moon like babies. It is almost impossible for children not to be spoiled in this situation. As a result, modern children are almost self-centered, selfish and lack the spirit of caring for others. If a person is too selfish, it will inevitably have conflicts with his surroundings, and it will also have a negative impact on personal happiness. How to gradually eliminate selfish desires and cultivate children's love step by step? The best and most practical way is to start from the family and teach children filial piety. The influence of family on any child is extremely great and sometimes decisive. Let children know what it's like to love their parents from an early age. Children are easy to understand, eager to learn, easy to do, and feel particularly cordial. Taking this as the first step, let children gradually realize the taste of loving classmates and teachers, and then gradually guide them to love their country, society and mankind. Today's moral education in schools and society begins outside the family. From the very beginning, we are taught to love the motherland, the people and the collective. Although its truth is true, it is a pity that its method is too unreasonable and empty. Don't start with your closest parents, family, teachers and classmates, from near to far, from easy to difficult, how can children truly understand what it feels like to love the motherland and the people? In contrast, the traditional education in China takes filial piety education as the first step, which is indeed extremely scientific and reasonable. The reason is in line with human nature and the nature of children.
Secondly, advocating filial piety can make parents really live in their old age, which is conducive to social harmony. As we all know, China has entered an aging society. Some people say that with the growth of China's economic strength and the continuous improvement of the social security system, the economic burden of providing for the aged will be gradually reduced, and the elderly can rest in peace. This theory is very meaningful, but it is more meaningful. When people get old, they not only need to eat and wear warm clothes and live a quiet life, but also need to enjoy family happiness, especially family ties. Times are hard and life is bumpy. After a lifetime of ups and downs, people often realize the warmth of family and the value of family affection when they are old. Filial piety is the key to meet the needs of the elderly. As for the economic burden, it is not the point. Some people think that the most scientific and reasonable way to provide for the aged is to let the elderly live comfortably, or live in apartments with each other, so that they will not feel lonely and have no worries. This statement is not good! Science can never replace human feelings. The warmth and value of family ties can't be replaced by any other way. Family reunion is pleasant, and happiness comes from people's hearts. Even luxurious and comfortable apartments and nursing homes for the elderly can't replace family ties. A song "Go home and have a look" was sung for a long time. Didn't you express the sympathy of the old people?
Filial piety is by no means to cultivate children's selfishness towards their families.
But from what everyone can do, from ourselves, from near to far, from easy to difficult, let our love and sense of responsibility increase day by day, and finally strive to cultivate to the realm of selflessness. You can't go to Wan Li Road without accumulating steps; If you don't accumulate small streams, you won't be a river. Filial piety is also a thousand miles away, and rivers and seas are small. Zhu Dexiao comes first, don't you believe it?
"Historical Records" said: "Those who are blessed by heaven are the beginning of human beings; Parents are the foundation of people. If you are poor, you will carry your roots, so you will be very tired. This is so painful that I don't have to call my parents. " Parents are the source of our life, the first teacher in life, and the people who love themselves the most in the world. Can I grow from a seedling to a towering tree without the support of my parents? Who is the most rewarding person in the world? In my opinion, it's parents. No matter how great your skill and position are, you can't forget your roots and kick down the ladder. As a poem says, "The kindness of parents is as deep as the sea. Don't forget their kindness in life. From ancient times to modern times, the birth cycle has been passed down from generation to generation. Being a child should be filial, and those who are unfilial commit a heinous crime. Only when the family is poor can a dutiful son be born. Birds and beasts still know how to breastfeed. It is also futile to hope that the child will become a dragon if you don't repay the kindness of parenting. "How can a person who doesn't even respect his parents expect him to love others?