In life, a good attitude can make you optimistic and open-minded; A good attitude can enable you to overcome the suffering you face; A good attitude can make you indifferent to fame and fortune and live a truly happy life. Thousands of years of human civilization tell us that a positive attitude can help us get health, happiness and wealth.
First, the mentality determines life.
A philosopher once said, "Your thoughts are your masters." In real life, we can't control our experiences, but we can control our mentality; We cannot change others, but we can change ourselves. In fact, there is not much difference between people. The real difference lies in the mentality. Therefore, a person's success mainly depends on his mentality.
Second, it is better to be angry than disappointed.
There are prosperity and adversity in life, and it is impossible to have adversity everywhere; There are peaks and valleys in life, and it is impossible to have valleys everywhere. It is a shallow life to be cocky because of prosperity or peak, and depressed because of adversity or trough. In the face of setbacks, if you just complain and get angry blindly, then you are doomed to be a weak person forever.
Third, you can win if you have confidence.
Throughout the ages, many people failed not because of incompetence, but because they were not confident. Self-confidence is a kind of strength and a kind of motivation. When you are not confident, it is difficult for you to do things well; When you can't do anything well, you are even less confident.
This is a vicious circle. If you want to get out of this vicious circle, you have to fight against failure and establish firm self-confidence.
Fourth, the heart should act more.
The heart is not as good as action. Although action may not be successful, it will not be successful without action. Life will not reward you for what you want to do, nor for what you know, but for what you do. A person's goal begins with a dream, a person's happiness is grasped from the mentality, and a person's success is realized in action. Because only action can nourish your successful food and spring water.
Fifth, a normal mind is indispensable.
Life can't be smooth sailing, there are successes and failures; There are happiness and loss. If we take these ups and downs in life too seriously, then life will never be calm for us and there will never be laughter. There must be a pursuit in life, and the temporary lack of it will not hinder the happiness of daily life. Therefore, having a normal mind is an essential lubricant for life.
6. Give up in time to gain something.
Sometimes there must be something in life, and there is no need to force it in life. Don't force things that don't belong to you, learn to give up at the right time. Maybe when you are exhausted, you will get what you wanted but didn't get. At this time, you will have unexpected gains. Giving up in time is a kind of wisdom. It will make you more aware of your internal potential and external factors, adjust your tired body and mind, and become a happy and intelligent person.
Blind persistence is not as good as rational abandonment. Those who are struggling to keep the sunset are stupid, and those who have been sad about spring for a long time are stupid. People who don't want to give up anything often lose something more precious. When appropriate, give yourself a chance and learn to give up before you can get it.
7. Tolerance is a virtue.
As the saying goes, "Take a step back and broaden the horizon". This means that people need tolerance. Tolerance is a virtue that can make a person respected. Tolerance is a good medicine that can save a person's soul. Tolerance is like a bright lamp, which can radiate radiant light in the dark and illuminate every soul.
Eight, learn to untie the knot.
The human mind is fragile and needs constant encouragement and comfort. Self-encouragement and self-praise will make the mind happy.
Learning to untie your mind is to create a warm harbor for yourself, often go in and massage your busy and tired mind, so that all parts of your mind can be regularly maintained and maintained.
Nine, don't regard setbacks as failures.
Everyone's life will inevitably encounter setbacks and failures. The difference is that losers always regard setbacks as failures, so that they can deeply attack their courage to win every time; Winners never give up. Faced with setbacks again and again, they always say to themselves, "I have not failed, but I have not succeeded yet." A person who lost temporarily, if he continues to work hard and intends to win back, then his failure today is not a real failure. On the contrary, if he loses the courage to fight again, he really loses.
10. avoid trouble becoming a heart disease.
In real life, people who worry all the time don't actually encounter too many misfortunes, but are rooted in the inner world of those who worry. Therefore, when troubles come, we should neither blame others, nor give up on ourselves. We should learn to untie the knot, adjust our psychology, and prevent troubles from becoming heart diseases.
Eleven, happiness is actually very simple.
Some people say that happiness is the flower in spring, the shade in summer, the wild fruit in autumn and the snow in winter. In fact, happiness is all around us. Knowing smile, sincere handshake and heart-to-heart conversation are very happy things.