People have different interests and contradictions, and sometimes it is inevitable that there will be some misunderstandings and differences. If it is not handled properly, it will lead to disputes, conflicts and injuries; If handled properly, we can live in peace, make peace and mend fences, so as to make peace. The key is that both sides should learn the necessary tolerance. As the saying goes, "endure a moment's anger, lest you worry for a hundred days." This sentence is very philosophical and can be regarded as an experience. However, some people think that it is cowardly to endure losses, suffer indignities and lose face. Therefore, once there is a contradiction, we will not give in to each other, even for a small matter, but also for your superiority and inferiority. Therefore, quarreling often leads to abuse, which leads to fists and fists, and swords meet each other. The result must be both sides, and it's too late to regret it. Tolerance is actually a kind of wisdom, a kind of accomplishment, a kind of grace and a kind of virtue.

First of all, tolerance is a sign of reason. When there are conflicts between the two sides, especially when the personal rights and economic interests of individuals are illegally violated, rational people will keep a clear head, exercise restraint on themselves, reason patiently, persuade and persuade, and resolve conflicts in time; Even if the other party is still unreasonable and goes its own way, it will not embellish it, and it will not easily take excessive actions. He will not "an eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth" and deal with illegal acts by illegal means, but he will tolerate them rationally and solve legal problems in accordance with legal procedures. On the other hand, if you are emotional and wrong, you will go to the opposite side, from rationality to irrationality, you will lose money and even be punished by law.

Secondly, tolerance is a sign of generosity. People will encounter many unpleasant and embarrassing things in their lives, and sometimes they even feel very angry, annoyed and angry. This moment can best reflect a person's cultivation, temperament and demeanor. Therefore, people in history have always admired those who can put the overall situation first, endure, control anger and be soft-hearted. During the Warring States Period, Lian Po made peace with Lin Xiangru, and Han Xin, a famous Western Han Dynasty star, endured the humiliation of his legs, which was widely told. It can really be regarded as "the general can race horses on his forehead and the prime minister can punt in his stomach." This is indeed an elder style and a general style, which is difficult for a narrow-minded person to do. A small oversight can lead to great disaster. There is an idiom called "bear the burden of humiliation". If you can't stand even a little injustice, how can you bear the heavy responsibility of history? Don't give in, the road to the enemy is narrow; Let people take a step forward and broaden their horizons. No wonder Su Shi, a writer in the Song Dynasty, mercilessly attacked those who were narrow-minded, could not be wronged or tolerated: "It is not brave for people to stand up and fight when they see shame." On the other hand, Sean, a counselor of the Western Han Dynasty, praised him for having received a book: "Today, there are brave people who come without being surprised and come without being angry." Can't we appreciate the elegance of tolerance from the sharp contrast between the above two?

Thirdly, forbearance is also a noble quality. It is not only unrealistic, but also very harmful to think that people can only enter but not retreat, gain and lose, and eat and suffer for nothing. Sometimes, for the benefit of the collective, society and others, it is very necessary for individuals to make some concessions, bear some losses and pay a little price. Tolerance is essentially the embodiment of one's ideological accomplishment and moral quality. When people get along and communicate, they should respect each other, understand each other and help each other; We must never force others, beggar our neighbors and intrigue against each other, otherwise we will both lose. What's more, money, reputation and status are all things outside the body, and you can't take them with you in life or death. Life is too short to care too much. "For what corner wall, let him step on a few feet also just as well; The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, and Qin Shihuang is not seen. " This is a poem in Lin Han's Commanding Children in the Ming Dynasty. The ancients were able to do this, but today, what can people who fully enjoy modern civilization learn from it?