At that time, there was an aunt in our community, who was very nice and greeted everyone with a smile.
But then I heard from my mother that the aunt's husband was having an affair, and San Xiao openly bought a house in the same community and lived with her husband.
Since then, my aunt has changed. The only thing she insists on is coming to the bottom of the building in San Xiao every day, then throwing her head back and swearing for more than ten years.
Did the evil mistress get what she deserved?
I don't think so. She should go to work and have children. Later, she became rich and went to a better place to buy a house and live.
On the contrary, that aunt is getting older and older after more than ten years of "fighting".
At first, people in the community sympathized with her, but gradually, when she told everyone about her experience like Sister Xianglin and spread negative energy everywhere, people in the community walked around when they saw her. .....
What a sad conclusion. Originally for a person who was cheated in marriage, she should get a happy ending, but the cruel reality tells us:
People who cheat are not punished, but those who work hard in marriage are troubled and struggling.
So today I want to talk to you: Why, those women who care about the overall situation and are sensible in marriage have paid nothing, while wayward bad women are like a duck to water?
These truths may be cruel, but you must see the truth clearly.
80% of marriages are lost to trifles.
Backstage, I have seen too many complaints about my partner's accusations:
Today, when the child is ill, the husband blames his wife for her poor care.
Tomorrow, the husband is drunk in the entertainment, and his wife blames him for his indiscretion;
Dishes are not cleaned, and smelly socks are thrown about casually. Every day when we meet, there is a nameless fire. ...
Faded the filter when they were in love, and the two finally faced the trivial reality.
I have seen a lot, that is, greasy plates and bowls, stained toilets, and bear Haizi rolling around in a mess. ......
A little thing seems to be the last straw to crush a marriage.
But marriage is two people thinking in one place and working hard in one place.
If the other party does something wrong and fails to meet their own requirements, the other party can choose tolerance and understanding.
This heartfelt appreciation of your partner will make the other person return your gentleness and kindness.
Just like in Love Trio, no matter what Lang Lang does, Gina always looks loving and tolerant: "You are so cute" and "I finally miss you" ...
Even if Lang Lang pointed out her Putonghua problem, she first suppressed a small contradiction and used a few gentle words to make the other party correct.
This expression is a textbook-level way of speaking between couples.
Many people say that they have worked hard in marriage, but they are not pleased.
But sometimes, what you pay is very clear to others.
But when a woman repeatedly criticizes and complains about her hard work ... in the eyes of men, they have already paid back by taking responsibility.
The killer of husband-wife relationship is sometimes not cheating, not domestic violence, but complaining and accusing when it comes out.
On the surface, it is a compliment to others, but in the end it is yourself!
Don't let your marriage lose to scheming.
Many people think that beauty is a sharp weapon to hold love.
But in fact, spiritual appeal attracts men more than beauty and sex.
Extreme cases, such as the beauty Michele Monique Reis, are all Hong Kong wives' nightmares when they are young.
At that time, Liu Luanxiong, a rich businessman, spent a lot of money behind her back.
Michelle monique Rice believes that relying on her beauty can firmly bind each other.
However, she violently forced the other party to divorce again and again. Liu Luanxiong became angry from embarrassment and turned her head and threw herself into the arms of another gentle woman.
It is not difficult to understand that taking Lingling from Chen is not half as beautiful as Luo Zijun, and the favorite PGone is not as beautiful as Jerry.
Cute, natural, what you lack is what you want especially.
Do you still remember Fudan, the most derailed female master in history?
The master tutor at the same school abandoned his wife and children and gave her five valuable SCI papers, giving her whatever she wanted. ...
But this female master is in contact with three doctors in this class at the same time. They helped her to go abroad, graduated with a doctorate, and made cattle and horses for her. ...
This girl is nicknamed "da ji in the academic field" by netizens, but she is a real person, but she has such a picture. Even after falling in love for several years, she has always maintained a asexual "Plato" relationship.
Why can a woman who is neither beautiful nor dependent on sex fool around with several high flyers?
The answer is simple: be careful what you like.
A scheming woman looks like a white rabbit, but she is a master of psychology and knows what men need most.
Men with inferiority need encouragement;
Ambitious people need praise;
Anxious and tired men need you to be considerate and gentle;
What men want to hear, they come, and what men need, they give.
This kind of scheming, on them, harms others and harms themselves.
But in marriage, in fact, you can't do without a mutually beneficial and win-win plan.
It is human nature to be understood. Don't be stingy with your concern, properly consider each other's feelings and respect each other's needs.
This wisdom of appreciating and praising will make our marriage indestructible and we will be happier and happier.
Using a little "scheming" to the people you love can make the family harmonious, so what's the harm?
This is not a blasphemy against love, but a respect for human nature.
In economics, there is a theory of diminishing marginal effect.
When we yearn for something, the emotional experience of touching it for the first time is the strongest. The second time and the third time, the more we touch this thing, our feelings will be indifferent and eventually boring.
This truth is the same in marriage: the two have been together for a long time, and they no longer blush and heartbeat.
The more familiar you are, the less you know, the less fresh you feel over time, and the topics you can talk about become tasteless.
Therefore, when there are problems in marriage, don't lose heart first, because it is inevitable.
Before you get depressed, try to make some changes:
1. Give people the feeling of a wedding ceremony: bid farewell to the previous routine, try to find some surprises, go to a new restaurant, try a new game ... reawaken the numb nerves;
2. Try to do something for your partner to make TA happy. This is not a unilateral pleasure, but * * * knowledge, which is a process of mutual service.
When you want to quarrel and complain about some trivial things, put yourself in the other person's shoes first, and then communicate with the other person in a gentle way.
In the final analysis, I hope everyone believes in love.
But I want to remind you that the so-called happiness is just management.
The best time to plant a tree is 10 years ago. Secondly, it is now.
It is not too late to grasp the present; The same is true of running a marriage.
Maybe your marriage is not so smooth, but don't give up.
Marriage is bound to be full of twists and turns, like a trickle, more like a potted plant swaying in the wind, which is your care.