China has been called "the state of etiquette" since ancient times. Today, when we are vigorously promoting the construction of socialist spiritual civilization and building a harmonious society, it is necessary for every citizen to be civilized and polite. When we college students enter the society in the future, we will inevitably have the opportunity to deal with people, so it is particularly important to learn social etiquette and improve etiquette cultivation. Through the study of social etiquette courses in recent weeks, we have really learned more detailed and systematic etiquette knowledge.
Etiquette can actually be divided into several parts, personal etiquette, including one's appearance, manners, clothing and so on. Each of us should pay attention to our personal manners. A person's dress and behavior are not only related to the other person's impression of his personal image, but also the most vivid display of personal education and quality. But in today's society, we can often see some behaviors that do not conform to the etiquette norms. On the street, exposed, sloppy and untidy people abound. They ignore etiquette norms, blindly pursue avantgarde, but bring a very bad impression to others.
Public etiquette refers to the code of conduct that people should abide by in public places. Pay attention to manners when walking, driving, and taking transportation. In public. Obeying traffic rules and paying attention to environmental protection are the most basic norms. But there are still many people who violate these basic norms. Jaywalking, running red lights, spitting and littering are repeatedly prohibited. This is not only discrediting our own image, but also undermining public order, making it visible to foreign friends and even damaging the image of China people. Therefore, each of us should consciously abide by etiquette norms and improve our self-cultivation.
Communicative etiquette is the most basic code of conduct in interpersonal communication. How to address, introduce, shake hands, talk, etc. There are many etiquette rules to follow. In this regard, many people have misunderstandings. For example, when introducing old people and young people, we usually introduce the old people first, thinking that this is to respect the old people. Actually, it is not. The young are introduced first to show respect for the old, because they are respected people and should have priority to know. For example, when shaking hands, it is more appropriate for a man or a woman to reach out first. Usually people think that the man reached out first, but it is not. We should wait for women to reach out and respect them first. There are many manners like this. If you don't study, you won't know, and you will make such mistakes in future communication. Therefore, this shows the importance and necessity of improving our manners.
Communication etiquette is the etiquette norm when people communicate and contact. Nowadays, people seldom use letters to communicate, so when it comes to using them, they forget all the manners they should have. For example, if you don't know how to be polite on the phone, choosing the right words and timing will bring trouble to the other party and affect others' evaluation of you. But if you can do basic communication etiquette, you will make the other person feel that you are a very polite person and have a better impression on you, which is helpful for your work and study.
Catering etiquette, as its name implies, is the code of conduct that should be observed when eating. Seating arrangement, toast etiquette and dining rules are often used in social occasions. If you can follow the etiquette rules, others will think you are a very polite person. On the contrary, you will think that you are impolite and even affect your study and career.
Through the etiquette mentioned above, we can see the importance of etiquette and the necessity of improving our own etiquette. There is still a lot of knowledge about etiquette, and you need to improve your etiquette through continuous learning. In fact, we have been educated in etiquette since childhood, and we don't spit everywhere, litter or jaywalk. Only a few people really did it. In the final analysis, our mentality is not right, and anyone can shout slogans. However, if we really want to put it into action, many people feel troublesome, unnecessary, or feel that everyone around us is like this, and they will follow the crowd. But in fact, the good civilized atmosphere of the whole society is accumulated by everyone. Wang Shouren, a great scholar in the Ming Dynasty, said: "Knowing is the idea of doing, and doing is the kung fu of knowing; Knowing is the beginning of doing, and doing is the achievement of knowing; Knowing and doing is noumenon and kung fu. Knowing and not doing it is just unknown. " We shouted the slogan of civility and courtesy, but we never practiced it ourselves, which is different from never receiving the education of civility and etiquette! Therefore, if we want to practice, we must work hard from this "unity of knowing and doing", work hard from our own words, and bid farewell to behaviors that do not conform to etiquette norms.
The civilization degree of a society can reflect the civilization degree of a society and a country. If a person does not abide by social civilization, it will not only affect his personal image, but also destroy social order. We contemporary college students are the future of the motherland, and we should shoulder this burden. Starting from oneself, actively and conscientiously study etiquette culture and put it into practice, not only to be civilized and polite, but also to use yourself to drive people around you to be civilized and polite. As long as each of us pays attention to the improvement of our own etiquette, it won't be long before the etiquette quality of our whole society and country will be improved, and we will truly be a country of etiquette and welcome guests from all over the world.
There are still many places in social etiquette that we need to learn. We should constantly improve ourselves and enrich ourselves. On the Etiquette Cultivation of College Students
Paying attention to etiquette and observing etiquette norms can effectively show a person's education, demeanor and charm, better reflect a person's cognitive level and respect for others and society, and make personal knowledge, cultivation and value recognized and respected by society. Appropriate etiquette can not only give the public the trust and desire of affability, respect and cooperation, but also make the process of cooperation with the public full of harmony and success.
If a student knows both books and manners, and his knowledge level and moral level are seriously out of harmony, it is impossible for him to become an excellent talent. An excellent talent should not only have high-level professional knowledge, but also have good moral quality and etiquette cultivation. Etiquette is the expression of good moral cultivation and one of the important ways to cultivate good moral quality, which needs to be reflected in a polite way. Although the research and education of etiquette have developed in China, especially the combination of occupation and etiquette has become the general trend. However, etiquette education has not attracted enough attention in colleges and universities, and most colleges and universities have not set up etiquette courses.
College students are a group with high level of knowledge. In today's China society, they have been regarded as intellectuals, and they are also the leaders and pillars of China's future development. On the moral level, they should put forward higher requirements on etiquette cultivation. The pursuit of individuality is the characteristic of contemporary young people. Some college students regard ugliness as personality in the process of pursuing outstanding personality. Many uncivilized, impolite and even ugly, stale and vulgar things are regarded as "trendy" and "chic". In today's university campus, you can often see disheveled people, misbehaving people, swearing people and spitting people. Other phenomena are not uncommon, such as closing the door and thunder, never introducing myself on the phone, no longer being polite to the teacher, and walking with a lunch box. These undesirable phenomena are not isolated, but are becoming more and more common.
The reasons for the low etiquette quality of some college students are as follows:
The first point: the side effects of exam-oriented education in middle schools. At this level, parents, teachers and even the whole education system have unshirkable responsibilities. The magic of college entrance examination command makes primary and secondary education focus on "scores" and "exams", while moral education and aesthetic education have long been ignored. Students regard scores as the "lifeblood", teachers regard scores as the "magic weapon", and parents only look at students' grades and don't care about the all-round development of students' psychology and personality. This practice of measuring students' merits only by their academic performance rankings determines that they only work hard on teaching and rarely spend time and energy on shaping children's souls. It seems that the education system needs to invest heavily, constantly learn from the reasonable components of the education system at home and abroad, and constantly improve an education system that can adapt to the development of the times.
The second point: social transformation. When society is in a state of chaos at the beginning of value transformation, ethics and morality are in a state of chaos. As a member of society, it is also difficult for college students to "emerge from the mud without being stained, bright without being demon". The university town is no longer a pure land like Eden. As a typical sub-cultural circle, university town is bound to be influenced and eroded by social culture. In the society of commercialization and coal transportation, the ivory tower that does not eat human fireworks has long since ceased to exist. Contemporary China faces a similar social and cultural background. College students in China are going through a painful "weaning" process. How to judge the truth, goodness and beauty is theirs, and they are eager to make up for it.
The third point: the influence of bad social atmosphere. As far as college students are concerned, there are many unhealthy tendencies, such as the proliferation of "desk literature" and "toilet literature", the books in the library are scribbled, some university professors are exposed to copying other people's academic papers, some teachers are perfunctory in class to earn income, and there are also murders, pornography, bribery, corruption and deception in society.
Therefore, college students should absorb the essence of traditional culture, improve their cultural and moral cultivation and learn some necessary etiquette common sense, so as to stand in the forefront of society and get more affirmation from people.
In fact, I don't know if the university has ever thought about it: when you talk to people in polite language in social life; Communicate with people in a civilized way; When you associate with people with proper documents, people will certainly feel your polite bearing, natural and graceful temperament, civilized and moral cultivation, and you will also pay some respect in your life. Elegant and reasonable speech and cordial overall appearance will make people feel a warm spring breeze blowing warmth and enthusiasm.
Etiquette runs through interpersonal communication and serves the connotation of communication; Ignoring etiquette will inevitably affect the depth and durability of communication. Whether the lack of etiquette affects communication is because of small loss. Not only foreign communication, but also we college students should pay attention to etiquette and form habits in our daily life, which will naturally become a kind of cultivation and help improve our taste.
China is known as "an ancient civilization and a state of etiquette". Paying attention to "ceremony" is an excellent tradition handed down from generation to generation by the Chinese nation, and its long-standing etiquette culture is a rich legacy left by our ancestors. Today, when China is more open, etiquette not only embodies rich and excellent historical traditions, but also has distinct connotation of the times. With the increasingly frequent communication between people and countries, it is particularly important to pay attention to etiquette and reciprocity and build a harmonious interpersonal relationship.
So what is civilized etiquette? That is, when people communicate with each other in society, they express their inner respect for others through beautiful musical instruments and ceremonies. In social communication, civilized etiquette is not only the foundation of standing in the world, but also the knowledge of treating people and making friends. As long as everyone is in society, whether in politics or business, in and out of daily work or important occasions, at home or out, it is inseparable from civilized manners. Civilized manners are everywhere. It can not only show a person's demeanor and charm, but also reflect a person's inner knowledge and cultural accomplishment.
Through a semester of study, I have a comprehensive understanding of social etiquette. It can be said that etiquette is a business card for interpersonal communication. Civilized manners can help us "standardize our manners and learn to treat people;" Create a good image and win social respect; Building a bridge of friendship leads to success. "Etiquette is a passport to help us succeed and create a happy life. Therefore, it is one of the basic prerequisites for everyone to stand on the society, and it is also an important condition for people to achieve their careers and get a better life.