The most important premise of parent-child communication is equality. If parents are always in a condescending position in front of their children, and always talk to them with a serious face and harsh tone, it will inevitably make them feel scared, then after a long time, children will not dare to communicate with their parents, and some children will even have rebellious psychology.

This will not only fail to educate children, but also block communication with children, thus artificially creating a generation gap.

Second, listen more when communicating with children.

"Listening" is a very good way of education, because listening shows respect and concern for children and also promotes their ability to know themselves.

So, how should parents listen to their children? When communicating with children, sometimes you don't need to say it yourself. Parents only need to be good listeners and give their children attention, respect and time, which is the most effective help for their children. For children, they lack life experience and need to communicate with their parents and get guidance from them.

At the same time, parents should be kind to their children's mistakes. People think that children did make mistakes. Parents should also calm down, stand in the child's position, and let him speak with sympathy and recognition. Don't interrupt the child's speech, add your own opinions and criticisms. Doing so can not only enhance the feelings of parent-child communication, but also make children understand that when they encounter any troubles, they will get the understanding and support of their parents when they get home.

Third, help children analyze problems.

Children have little social experience and knowledge. When they encounter problems, they often don't know how to solve them. At this time, as parents, children should be given proper guidance. Of course, the more specific the plan, the better. Children sometimes don't understand too general methods and don't put them into practice.

In this process, parents can enlighten their children as elders, which will definitely help them solve the problem satisfactorily. In this process, parents also gain the trust of their children and strengthen the affection between parents and children.

Fourth, choose the most appropriate communication method.

In the process of communicating with children, we should not only consider whether children can understand, but also choose communication methods that children can easily accept. Preaching, commanding and forcing will only make children rebellious and fail to achieve the purpose of education. Chatting, telling stories and playing games are more suitable for children's psychological characteristics, so as to achieve the expected communication effect.

1, respect children's choices.

Children are independent individuals. Now parents are taking care of their children's healthy growth, but children will one day leave the wings of parental protection and move towards their own independent life. Then it is wise for parents to let their children gradually learn to analyze rationally and choose their own preferences and wishes. Of course, out of a protective psychology, parents can put forward their own opinions, so that children can truly understand their own experiences and take their own opinions as a reference. In this way, children can gradually develop a behavior habit and way of thinking that is responsible for their own choices and decisions.

2 arouse children's interest

When talking with children, if parents have a good wish and want their children to accept it, don't just give death orders, try to arouse children's interest with a peaceful mind and a novel way. Because interest is the best teacher.

3 Pay attention to children's feelings.

If the child is wronged outside, the child will be sad for a long time. If parents think: children, they will soon forget. Or just say to the child: "It doesn't matter, be strong. If you like this kind of hard comfort, the child will feel that you can't understand his sadness at all. Over time, he won't tell you when he encounters difficulties, but will only keep it in his heart. If parents say, "I'm sorry, too. Let's think of some good ways to solve this problem, shall we? "I believe that children will behave differently when they hear such words.

4 get along with your children and understand their thoughts and preferences.

One of the most important ways of communication is chatting. Parents should make time to get along with their children, closely observe what their children are interested in, find out whether he has encountered any distressing problems recently, and then find a topic to exchange ideas and preferences with their children, which will stimulate their interest in talking with their parents and promote parent-child relationship.

5 keep abreast of children's development.

Parents should know how much their children understand, if they try their best to say something that some children don't understand, or put forward some requirements that children can't meet. This not only makes children feel hard and stressed, but also makes it difficult for parent-child dialogue to go online, which easily leads to poor communication and a generation gap between the two sides.

Pay attention to the way you answer.

When children ask questions, they must first understand their true meaning and answer them according to their needs. Children are curious, and every question they ask may be a flash of their thoughts. If parents treat them casually, perfunctory and make irresponsible remarks, then you may kill your child's creativity at once or lead him in the wrong direction.

7 avoid using negative tone.

The so-called negativity, such as parents don't use "I command you", "I warn you", "You'd better hurry up …", "Why are you so stupid …", "I won't allow it …" and so on, has negative meanings such as command, command, warning, threat, blame, abuse and refusal. Maybe you can't control what you say for a while, which will have a great impact on your child's young mind, and if you say too much, your child will be indifferent, so it is meaningless for parents to say similar things, which will also make your child feel disgusted.