A child's heart is always pure. Before going to school, children are with their parents every day, and the things they come into contact with and the education they receive are all purposefully cultivated and screened by their parents. However, after school, children often stay with other children. At this time, there will be some problems, and children may also be affected, especially the comparison between children.

situation

After the son of Ms. Zhang (pseudonym) went to kindergarten, the child became very independent and eager to learn, and her mother was also very pleased. But recently, her mother discovered a very distressing thing, which not only made her parents very painful, but also was bad for their children's growth.

Sharing classes are organized in the class, and children can exchange their own little things with other children, which is also to cultivate children's good habit of sharing, but time is running out and the original intention of setting up sharing classes has changed.

At first, many parents shared their children's favorite books and toys, but gradually, many parents like to exchange some valuable things, such as some imported food and toys, and many things that children have never seen. Children also like it when they get home, but they are a little uncomfortable and always feel shorter than others.

Mothers are very dissatisfied with this. Children are still young and don't understand many things. Many parents give their children expensive items in exchange, even if they are not just showing off, to enhance their sense of superiority. Such behavior also caused the comparison between classmates and polluted the pure world of children.

Afterwards, Ms. Zhang also communicated with the teacher, and the teacher also said that she would pay more attention and would not let this happen again.

analyse

Every family's environment is different. If the wind of comparison prevails on campus, it will not only upset adults, but also affect children's growth, not only values, but also make children love comparison and vanity, and make parents feel more stressed. So what should parents do if they want their children to grow up better and put an end to the trend of comparison?

Communicate and negotiate with teachers

If there is a similar situation in the class, hold some similar activities. Parents can reflect the new situation to the teacher and tell the advantages and disadvantages of the activity for their children's growth. Through communication and consultation, teachers and schools will also pay attention to it and solve problems better.

Do a good job in educating children's values

Nowadays, many children often see that other children's parents are rich and can buy many gifts and toys for their children. Everyone feels envious, sometimes they often complain about envy, and even want to buy things with their parents' money. Serious comparison psychology will also distort children's values, so parents should educate their children on values in peacetime and let them know that money should be spent in more meaningful places. Let them know that there is no money at home, but they should plan their own expenses and not squander them at will, so that children can know the meaning of giving and harvesting, rather than enjoying success, so that even if there is more money at home, they can't cultivate a hardworking child.

Negotiate with other parents

In order to make children grow up better, parents can often sit down and talk about their children's growth, or they can cultivate their children together in a planned and purposeful way. Children's growth is inseparable from money, but the more money, the better, which will also affect children's personality and values.