A famous American criminal psychologist did an interesting experiment to study the influence of mother on a person's life. He selected 50 successful Americans, all of whom are elites in their respective industries and have made outstanding achievements. At the same time, he selected 50 people with criminal records, and psychologists wrote to them respectively, asking them to talk about the influence of their mother's education on them.
Half a month later, psychologists received a large number of letters, two of which were very interesting, both telling the story of mom giving them apples when she was a child. A prisoner from Pelican Bay Prison in California wrote in the letter: "When I was a child, my mother brought several apples of different sizes for Christmas. When I first saw the big red apple in the middle, I really wanted it. At this time, my mother put the apple on the table and asked my brother John and me which one do you want? I was about to say that I wanted the big apple, but John beat me to it. The mother stared at him and scolded him, saying: A good boy should learn to give good things to others, and don't always think about himself.
"So, in order to get my mother's praise, I had a brainwave and changed my mind and said,' Mom, I want the youngest. Leave the big apple to John! Mom was very happy to hear that. She gave me a big red apple, but John only got a small one. From now on, in order to get what I want, I will disguise my true thoughts and continue to lie. When I was in middle school, I would do anything to get what I wanted and satisfy my selfish desires. Then I learned to fight, steal, take drugs, rob and kill. Until now, I have been imprisoned for life. "
A famous person in the White House wrote: "When I was a child, my father had a birthday and my mother brought some apples. My brothers and I are fighting for the biggest apple, but my mother is holding the biggest and reddest apple in her hand and says to us,' Very well, children, you have all told the truth. This apple is the biggest, reddest and most delicious. Everyone wants it. But there is only one big apple. Let's have a game. I'll divide the lawn in front of the door into three parts, and each of you is responsible for trimming it. Whoever does it fastest and best is entitled to it! "
"As a result, I got the biggest apple through my own efforts. I am very grateful to my mother, who made me understand the simplest and most important truth: to get the best, we must strive for the first place. She has been educating us like this. In our family, if you want something good, you must win it through competition. This is fair. If you want something, you have to work hard and pay for it! "
The same apple, a mother let her child lie and disguise herself, thus making it slide into the abyss step by step; There is also a mother who lets her children speak their true thoughts and guides them to be honest and hardworking people. An inadvertent move changed the child's life. The mother's hand pushing the cradle may not only promote the child's success, but also inadvertently plant the seeds of degeneration for the child.