The ideal perfect picture fades out of people's sight again and again at your fingertips, and pilgrims are very lost and miserable. But he once thought that the problem itself was that the set goals were too illusory and unrealistic? Has it ever occurred to him that no one has really achieved the ultimate? Has it ever occurred to him that it was that little flaw that made him realize the true meaning of life? What's wrong with imperfection?
However, too many pilgrims in the world go further and further in the pursuit of perfection, only to find that the perfect sun is always ahead and out of reach. So they got discouraged and gave up. For example, Sanmao lost Jose, lost the Sahara sent by her body and mind, and her once perfect life was broken, so she ended her life with a pair of stockings; Another example is Haizi's obsession? Facing the sea, spring blossoms? Beautiful vision, but because you can't face the loss of your ideal, you choose to lie on the rails and commit suicide?
Without real perfection in the world, The Way must be hard. Good and bad, sad and happy, sweet and bitter are interdependent. Without regrets, life will only get farther and farther away from true happiness. Then why do we always look sad because of imperfections?
Why is the Acropolis in Athens, Greece in ruins? Because it represents the condensed background of real history; Why is the ancient city of Rome as old as before? Because it is new, it has lost the historical light of the Renaissance. Why don't people return the brokeback Venus intact? Because she is complete, the perfect image in people's minds was broken by heavy hammering. So imperfection is a normal life. How can we understand the true meaning of happiness without imperfect pain? Why don't we turn our shortcomings into advantages?
Look at Van Gogh. What's wrong with not catering to secular aesthetic tastes? Don't be stimulated by money, don't be comforted by flowers, and look desolate alone. However, with a drawing board and a brush, he drew fourteen golden flowers in a poetic garden and died for the sun. Didn't the tears shed by the sun burn for centuries when the hearse rumbled past the ancient city of Orff?
Imperfection is the normal state of life. I can't imagine that flowers will never fade, leaves will never fall, and the sun will never rise. What we need to do is not to set our goals too high and fall into the quagmire of insatiable pain, but only to turn our shortcomings into characteristics, so that imperfections can move towards happiness, openness and beauty.
Tolerate the imperfections of others once upon a time, there was an old man who lived to be 70 years old, but still lived alone. It's not that he doesn't want to get married, but that he has been looking for a woman he thinks is perfect.
When someone asks him, "You've lived for decades, you've been to so many places and you've been looking for it. Can't you find the perfect woman? "
At this time, the old man said sadly, "Yes, I once met a perfect woman."
The questioner said, "Then why don't you get married?"
The old man said sadly, "No way, she is also looking for a perfect man."
I don't think the situation of the old man is true, but a truth he explained to people will cause many people to think. That is: a person who only demands others by his own standards will become a loner even if he has an excellent chance to become a talent. On the contrary, a person who can tolerate the imperfections of others and has no bad feelings will be welcomed even if he is in a weak position, and will get help from many aspects, thus moving towards success.
I don't think the situation of the old man is true, but a truth he explained to people will cause many people to think. That is: a person who only demands others by his own standards will become a loner even if he has an excellent chance to become a talent. On the contrary, a person who can tolerate the imperfections of others and has no bad feelings will be welcomed even if he is in a weak position, and will get help from many aspects, thus moving towards success.
Throughout the emperors of the past dynasties, Qin Shihuang was able to accommodate more guests and accept Li Si's "Taishan does not give up the soil, so it can become big; Rivers and seas can become the first emperor to unify China and rule the world. Li Shimin had a prosperous Tang Dynasty because he could tolerate Wei who dared to speak out and protest. But Yuan Shao was too lenient in Ren Xian, and finally lost to Cao Cao with absolute advantage. Their advantages and resources are basically the same, but because of their different endurance and ability, they have two diametrically opposite endings: success and failure.
Imperfect is about 2 years old knocked over a thermos bottle, leaving a little scald scar on his calf. I didn't wear skirts and shorts in middle and high school, because adolescence is the age when I care about my appearance. At that age, I walked on the road, as if the whole world was staring at myself carefully, and I didn't allow myself to be a little imperfect in front of others. Later, my mother said that I looked good in skirts when I was a child. Why have I become more timid? She encouraged me to wear shorts and skirts. At first, I was afraid that others would see the scar on my leg and be teased. Slowly found that no one noticed my scar, I can also say with a smile, you see, this is my naughty burn when I was a child, my friend said, you really didn't find it without telling me.
A friend of mine from middle school is beautiful, knowledgeable and natural. There is no door partition in the big bathhouse in middle school, and everyone is used to meeting naked. She never takes a bath in a public bathhouse. Even in the cold winter, she washes two bottles of water in the dormitory bathroom with a thermos bottle. Later, she told me that she had a birthmark on her back and she didn't want to be seen by others. Such a beautiful girl, carefully hidden just for a small birthmark.
It is natural to protect your feathers. We are all afraid of making a fool of ourselves and exposing our imperfections. Ignorant and fearless. When you are young, you must be brave and fearless. We don't think too much about our little regrets, and we don't panic in front of our little shortcomings. In the process of growing up, I was gradually educated and changed by secular ideas. At first, I began to learn to compare because I paid attention to external things, materials or looks. I always find my own shortcomings and begin to become unconfident. No desire is just. There are more impurities in the heart, and the heart is not so clear.
Maybe time won't reveal some truth to us until we experience it at some point. At a certain point, we can easily talk about those sensitive and trying to hide shortcomings. When we see that our shortcomings come from comparison and harmlessness, we can laugh at ourselves and say, Oh, I'm just not perfect, so what.
I don't know if everyone doesn't want to show it in front of others. Is there always something that they are ashamed to say? The secret they want to hide may be appearance, family, emotion and experience. If such a secret is hidden in one's heart, it will have a negative effect and make people feel insecure and inferior, so it is better to say it and let these factors leading to inferiority and unhappiness evaporate in expression and confession.
Life is so magnificent, a little regret and a little deviation will not affect us to experience this vast and wonderful life, so there is no need to feel inferior. You don't have to label yourself ugly because of a small scar. You don't have to classify yourself, label yourself and set limits for yourself, so you will never find that you can go in a better direction and meet more wonderful yourself and life.
When I was a child, I often wondered why people always like to wear rings on their left hand instead of their right hand. Later, my mother told me that because our right hand is strong and can work, our left hand is weak. An imperfect hand needs a ring.
I am the fourth in my family. I have been diligent and smart since I was a child, and my academic performance is excellent. I have a brother, one year older than me, who neglected his studies because of playing and was demoted to my class. In the class, I am the monitor, and the teacher loves me very much, because I am the first in every exam.
However, my mother always praises him, but never praises me. I don't understand why, when I am the one who really deserves praise.
At the end of a semester, he didn't get the last place, which was five places higher than last semester. However, his mother was overjoyed and cooked a good dish for the whole family to celebrate.
I hid in my room and cried. In the evening, my mother came to my room and touched my head with her hand and said, Xiaobo, I'll tell you a story. You always ask me why people wear rings on their left hands. Because our right hand is perfect. Imperfect things, you need to borrow other things to set off yourself. ?
But what does this have to do with me and my brother? Mom, I don't understand.
Mom went on to say:? You are the best child in our family and have always been the pride of my mother. Your brother, however, is playful and does not make progress, and needs encouragement and praise from others. And you, you're doing great. It's like wearing a ring on your left hand instead of your right. That's why mom always praises her brother and seldom praises you. ?
I still remember the conversation with my mother. From then on, I became interested in people's hands and had my own value judgment on beauty and ugliness. One year, when I traveled to Tibetan areas, I saw the blacksmith's hands in the village, which were as rough as frosted palms and covered with deep lettering. But I think it is the most beautiful hand in the world. Because it is the hand of the real working people.
Gong Yi Tibetan Dao produced in their village is world-famous.
Similarly, I also saw many pampered hands covered with gold and silver jewelry. Seeing hands like that, somehow, I always remember what my mother said to me.
God gave us a pair of eyes to find beautiful things; Give us two ears to hear moving voices; Give us two feet so that we are not afraid of the long and difficult road ahead; Give us two hands to work and create.
Now that my mother is old and I am old, she no longer asks me about my life in detail as she did when she was young. But occasionally when I come home, I always say to my mother:? Mom, I'm fine. I have been living a self-reliant life by my own hands. ?
Imperfect perfection I remember when I was a child, my mother bought me a box of assembled toys from town, saying that it could develop my intelligence. Unexpectedly, I quickly put the pictures together. Just when I was elated, I asked my mother to come over and praise me? Masterpiece? At this time, I discovered that an important part of the assembly was missing, the left foot. So, I immediately became a frustrated ball and felt that this assembly should be the most unattractive assembly in the world. After my mother came to see it, she smiled and said to me: Silly boy, is this not good? Didn't you say the other day that you saw some disabled people in the street? They also work, live, get married and have children! This assembly is as beautiful as the disabled! ? After that, I thought my mother was right. Imperfection is actually a kind of beauty.
After school, you were arrested for frequent crimes? Cold and fever? Sometimes I get good grades in math and sometimes I get good grades in Chinese. I was criticized by my teacher and often cried. And every time I go home to tell my mother a story, she will enlighten me with a smile. Son, there is nothing perfect in the world. It is impossible to be excellent in both subjects. If any subject is poor, just make it up in time. ? Since then, I have tried to balance my grades in all subjects and have done well in every exam.
In fact, in each of us, there is a complex of pursuing perfection. And this complex, like greedy desire, often only makes us get into trouble. For example, in the group of cartoons above, student A got a kiss from his parents on the first test of 100, and his parents slapped him on the second test of 98. Obviously, this parent is too pursuing perfection, which also brings great pressure to the children. On the contrary, student B was slapped by his parents when he scored 55 for the first time, and was bitten by his parents when he scored 6 1 for the second time. It can be seen that this parent does not pursue perfection, as long as he passes the exam, which also leaves room for the child to fully improve. Life is impermanent and there are too many uncertain factors. If a person always takes perfection as the standard, it is difficult to accept imperfection and can only bring endless troubles to himself.
Both Venus with a broken arm and Cao Xueqin's unfinished Dream of Red Mansions have left endless respect and admiration for future generations. This should all be related to its imperfection. Helen, a famous American woman writer? When 19 months old, Keller was deprived of sight and hearing because of acute gastric congestion and cerebral congestion. In the eyes of the public, her body is not perfect, so is her life. However, she didn't lose heart. She turned her imperfections into courage and motivation, constantly breaking through and surpassing herself. She not only devoted herself to charity and welfare for the disabled, but also painstakingly created 14 books. At this time, we can't say that her life is not perfect.
Imperfection is also a kind of beauty, as long as we are willing to accept it, transform it and let it go; Imperfection is also a kind of beauty. As long as we always keep a normal heart, a clean heart and a happy heart, we can live up to our mission and have no intention of staying. Not perfect? Just as good-looking!