Yes, there are no lovers together after graduation. When I wrote these words, I was listening to a song that we used to sit in the study room together. Someone liked you, and my tears were a little trance. Yes, I thought about marrying her when I graduated. Okay, I admit, it's a little sad. Yes, now a person, in this fast-paced city, self-mockery belongs to the struggle, always ready to be CEO and marry Bai. But I will know that so many times, when I see familiar scenes and couples holding hands and hugging, I will remember that I once had such a relationship. In college, I made a mistake and exhausted all my strength. She returned to her own city and had a stable job under the protection of her parents. Time and distance will change many people. Anyway, singing that my future is not a dream, that girl, the girl I love deeply, is still gone. She may live the life she wants instead of being with me. When she graduated, she sent WeChat: I am tired, I want a new life, do I still love you as before? I asked myself, but I couldn't answer. My heart is numb, but I am not brave, so I am still timid. Sorry, if I am with you, I can't see the future. Sorry, my parents are old, and we are so far away, so it is not convenient to take care of them then. Sorry, I still hope a city, you will meet better. Right? After four years together, I never expected this result. What else can I say? Propose to a girl? To blame, to move, or to prove to whom? Heart is gone, love is dead. She can't be her own master. Have her difficulties. I don't choose you, not because of reality, but because you are not good enough. If you are good enough, your parents-in-law can proudly show off to relatives and neighbors: who is my son-in-law, what does he do, his ability is super strong and his conditions are so good. In fact, now you, a young man, have nothing, a rented house, a crowded subway to and from work, and a salary of several thousand yuan a month. Why should we give you our precious daughter? With your promise? Can she be happy? Should we sigh or be grateful? Thank you, right? Again, how I want to have a person to grow up together, young and frivolous, young and inexperienced, from youth to maturity are the same person, and the traces of growth can be seen in each other's eyes. From freshman enrollment, military training, elective courses, thesis, graduation, to the first job, car purchase, marriage, honeymoon, house decoration, no matter starting a business or working, every joy and progress are all together. Why didn't the girl who ate the roadside stall with you accompany you to the end? After reading this article, I cried when I thought of you. Regrettably, I finally grew up alone, lonely and lonely. After all, the feelings of four years in college are not as good as the relationship between parents and reality. Maybe in a few years, I will meet another girl. In her eyes, I never feel bad when I wear a suit and tie and invite me to dinner. I am financially strong, mature and steady, and I know when to send what flowers. But what she doesn't know is the way I play ball in my jersey, the days when I work part-time in college on weekends, and the days when we are short of money and eat roadside stalls together. Those times that seemed the best, those that polished us, all passed away with time. Young love, crawling in the classroom, dormitory, canteen memories of the three points and one line for a long time not to let go. Perhaps, as soon as I look back, I can see the dribs and drabs about love, the small shops that I love to eat, the stadiums that I have passed, and the gazing under the teaching building. Time will not let you forget that there was once a person who kissed you, loved you and hugged you vividly and truly. Taking photos together and camping at the seaside all night, just waiting for the rising sunrise. Hug and kiss each other at sunrise. A friend joked that when you come to Chengdu, find a Chengdu Gu Liang, make friends with Chengdu buddies, go to work happily every day, eat hot pot and drink coffee after work, listen to movies and gossip board games in pubs, and drive for an outing on weekends. Spring is coming, go to Longquan Mountain to see peach blossoms, go to see lotus flowers in early summer, and go to Leshan to see rape flowers all over the mountain. In autumn, you can see the beautiful ginkgo trees in the city, and in winter, you can go skiing and hot springs in Xiling Snow Mountain. Life always goes on, and you will find better people. Forget it. She just doesn't love you anymore. Since graduation, I have been afraid to recall everything in Hainan. Those years were like a dream. What if we're still together? A buddy graduated and chose to get married. The girl said, I'm afraid that after we separate, we will never be together again. At the wedding, a word made us cry. The last marriage really has nothing to do with the initial love. The person you like likes you. It would be nice to smile at each other and hug in the sun. Cobwebs are covered with dust and time passes. Go to the end, the legendary swordsman. Having written so much, I know she can't see it unless she goes to Zhihu. In a beautiful era, do happy things with lovers, don't ask whether it is robbery or fate. Cherish what you have at the moment. Finally, end with a sentence from Nalan: If life is just like first sight.
Maybe I didn't just want to get rid of loneliness at first, but I also spread out a map to plan the future carefully and fantasize about moving forward hand in hand. Only at the last minute, this planned future is not optimal for one of them. We are all too selfish, coveting the warmth of being together, while trying to argue that we are not together for a better future. Then try to persuade the other person to follow him, that is, as the saying goes, "make sacrifices to maintain this relationship." In the end, most of the two sides were youthful and unwilling to compromise. They quarreled for a long time and broke up. This does not mean that college students fall in love rashly. It's just that when we graduate, everyone is in a panic. They choose an offer, a job and a school, and there is no way to calm down and see if they can go on. Let's just say that we were spoiled for four years in college. We go downstairs whenever we want to meet, and we have time and opportunities to be together every day. So now we don't want to bear the responsibility and hardship of different places. In other words, we believe that the future will always be better, and the present future is the most important.
Love in college is not mature love. The weather is so hot and dreamy. It floats in the air, like fog and like a dream. Destined to live in a greenhouse and die outside. Come so fast, and go so impolite. It makes you cry and taste the joys and sorrows of the world. It is an unrealistic and worrying love, which makes you doubt, make you suffer, make you happy and make you refuse. It makes you unreserved and finally falls into your own independence. After all, it's an uncertain hint that lives in your heart, and it finally works. It's graduation season. From then on, your heart stopped floating in the air and suddenly fell to the ground, buried deep in the soil and blossomed.
Some people simply start from their ideals and say that separation is not true love, which is irresponsible. The ideal is beautiful, but the reality is cruel. As a girl, I only speak from the girl's point of view now. If you can't understand or agree with me, please imagine yourself as a father with a daughter. When your daughter has been with a boy who can't promise for six years, and it seems that the man is not married at the age of 27 or 28, will you still actively support your daughter to be with that boy? If not, please don't spoil other girls like this. Girls are willing to spend their youth on you, which is already love you. Don't think absurdly that women are realistic and only care about money and houses. In most cases, what women want is a serious commitment, and ultimately a sense of security. If you can't give her a future, or if you don't try to include her in your future (this is very important), but just think that a girl loves you and you love her, and it feels good to be together, please don't delay her. Her youth is too short to wait. Maybe you didn't plan to live this life at first, and then dumped her and felt that you really loved her, but too many facts proved that the reality after graduation would make this relationship exhausted and break up. All this does not mean that two people are not true love, but love is too humble and fragile in reality. Girls want to get married and have children before the age of 30, and boys want to work hard at the age of 30 and don't want to be bound. There are too many difficulties for peers to overcome. If the family environment is not very good, they will face endless contradictions and quarrels. Finally, I quote a sentence from the article: details triumph over love. If you love her, please include her in your plan, consider her age and her feelings, and aim at hard work. If you don't think it's necessary for her to get married, don't delay her and let her love someone worthy of love.