It is often said that you depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out. Friends are the most important things in the social environment. Birds of a feather flock together. You can see your own shadow from your friends. In the Analects of Confucius, there is a very clear standard for making friends, that is, those who get three points get three points. In other words, there are three kinds of good friends and three kinds of bad friends. What are the standards of these three kinds of good friends, and what kind of help will they bring to our lives and careers? What are those three kinds of bad friends? What impact will they have on our lives? How can we distinguish a good friend from a good friend?

The three beneficial friends in The Analects are honest friends, tolerant friends and well-informed friends, which are the three good friends praised by Kong Old Master Q Q. What are the three bad friends mentioned by Kong?

At the same time, there are three kinds of bad friends, which are called eccentric friends, friendly and soft friends and stupid friends. These three are harmful. This is the loss of three friends. What are these three kinds of people? First of all, what a friend is eccentric is a grumpy friend. Of course, everyone's life is different and the situation is different. There is a good chance that something will happen. When you are still confused, your friends will get angry first and tell you that you can't do this first. We can often see that many juvenile crimes in society are caused by group fights. If a gang fight accidentally kills someone, the child will be sentenced to reeducation through labor. In fact, killing people is rarely done by a single person, but often by a group of children. When I was evaluating the National Legal Program Award, I saw many times that a child didn't know who the other party was when he beat him badly or even killed him by mistake. Why does he want to go? It's just that my buddy is in good spirits. I think my friend said that everyone had to fight and he had to go. In fact, this shows that when you meet such a grumpy friend, he is like a firecracker, which can ignite an indignation in the hearts of a group of friends, which is often unreasonable and often blind passion. As an adult's world, it doesn't necessarily mean that we all have to pay the price for such a group fight, but it's not good for us to burn a fire. Why do bad friends put this bad temper in the first place? Because blind passion may have irreparable consequences. A good friend should put reason first and tell him how to live a life without priority. I once read a foreign story. A rich widow, the old lady has money at home, and wants to hire a driver herself. She advertised for jobs all over the country, saying that I wanted to see which driver had the best driving skills. In the last article, three candidates were selected from a large number of applicants to stand in front of her. She gave them the same question. She said that if there is a cliff in front of my car, I will test your skills and how far you can park your car from the cliff. The first driver said I was a good driver. I can park my car one meter away from the cliff and stop firmly. I was not convinced by the second crash and said that my technology was better than his. I can park my car ten centimeters from the cliff, and I can still stop. The third driver said, I'm not like them. I stopped when I saw the cliff in the distance. Later, the old lady took a third person. Because in this world, technology is never the ultimate guarantee. The rationality of avoiding risks is its fundamental premise. In other words, the third person was admitted not by his bluff, but by his wisdom.

The second one is friendly and soft. This is just the opposite. This is not a friend with a particularly bad temper, but a friend with a particularly indecisive temper. We find that being too indecisive is actually a waste of your life energy, or maybe you are going to resign. You said it was possible that I would go to the sea or I would jump ship. You ask your friend, and his friend says, think about it. The place where you live now is not bad. If you leave, you will lose everything. Many of our friends will give you a binding force at this critical time, so that you think I'd better take a step back and be cautious. Koreans have a very vivid description that there are such strange things in this world. It has long hair in front, but there is a bald spoon in the back. When this thing came to see you, you didn't know what it was because it was covered with hair. You think about it until it passes by and you suddenly see it clearly. You reach for it and find that there is no hair on the back of its head, which has completely passed. What's this thing called? Its name is opportunity. The opportunity in this world is such a monster. You will always have doubts when it comes to you, but you will never catch it when it is about to leave. Soft friends often delay opportunities around them. We find that there are many things in this world, not what you do or don't do, but when you do it is useful. In fact, many things in life have a shelf life. You said a can and a piece of candy were good things, but you didn't say that they would be good things in ten or eight years. After the shelf life, it will become poison. Many things we have to do in this life, don't let indecisive friends interfere with your thinking. It is also a kind of harm to have too many such friends.

As for the three kinds of friends, the so-called friends make mistakes, which is the worst kind of friends. As we all know, infidelity is the kind of villain with ulterior motives, scheming and unscrupulous means to seek personal interests. They are real villains, people with dark psychology, but these people often dress up as a kind face. Because he has an intention in his heart, his enthusiasm for people may be dozens of times higher than that of people who have no intention, so if you are accidentally used by such people, you will put yourself in chains for life. This friend won't let you go without paying a painful price. This is actually testing our own vision and ability to know people and discuss things.