Erich frome of the United States defined happiness as follows: "Happiness is no different from happiness in nature. Different from happiness, happiness only involves a single action, and happiness is a continuous and integrated pleasure. When human beings get happiness, it means finding the answer to the problem of human survival. " Pursuing happiness is different from pursuing wealth, because happiness is a feeling or feeling. You have a lot of money, but you may not be satisfied. You feel too little, and you feel distressed. I don't have much property, but I feel rich, so I often laugh. Because of this, Lao Tzu told us: contentment is always happy.
In fact, the world often regards wealth as the source of happiness and pursues it, which is due to the lack of real understanding of happiness. People are on the run, and some people grab ill-gotten gains by hook or by crook. However, the joy and happiness brought by ill-gotten wealth are often short-lived and limited. Because "things are not enough, people will fall into endless troubles and worries." Some people try their best, but they are ruthlessly punished. As a result, what you want may not bring happiness, and even some people not only can't get what they want, but also lose what they have. As "Historical Records" said: "I don't know if I want it, but I lost my desire; If you are not satisfied, you will lose it. " Why do some profound wise people often choose a quiet and indifferent lifestyle, not because they pretend to be lofty, but because they understand the original intention of happiness. Although they are far from fame and fortune, they are so happy that they live a long and healthy life. Happiness is closely related to people's mentality. The same bucket of water, if of little value in daily life, can wash a dress, flush the toilet once and water a few pots of flowers. The joy and happiness it brings you can be ignored, but when you are in the boundless desert, you are thirsty as hell and suddenly get a bucket of water. I think you will be overjoyed and feel extremely happy and happy. The happiness that that bucket of water brings you may be forever.
It is said that when Zhu Yuanzhang was down and out, he begged a bowl of tofu soup with several leaves floating on it. After drinking it, he felt delicious. Zhu Yuanzhang asked, what soup is this? The other party said: This is "Jade White Jade Soup". Later, when Zhu Yuanzhang became emperor, he was tired of eating delicious food. Suddenly he remembered the "Jade White Jade Soup" that made him unforgettable. Although the chef worked hard to make the soup, Zhu Yuanzhang could not taste the "feeling great" in those years anyway. Zhu Yuanzhang's hunger and thirst disappeared when he was down and out, and the feeling of drinking soup disappeared.
Happiness is a process of pursuit. People's happiness depends on the comparison between the realized value of the goal and the expected value, which is directly proportional to the realized value of the goal and inversely proportional to the expected value. Therefore, if people want to be happy, they must set their own practical goals in life, and they cannot blindly set the so-called lofty goals regardless of reality. Otherwise, you will fall into dissatisfaction and pain because the goal is difficult to achieve. In fact, people often focus on the so-called goals in their lives, and the joy and happiness brought about by achieving the goals are very short-lived and unsustainable, but what lasts is the process of people pursuing the goals. Therefore, you don't have to worry about your goals, just keep a pursuit and a positive attitude towards life at all times.
As Rousseau said, "True happiness cannot be described, but can only be experienced. The deeper the experience, the more difficult it is to describe, because true happiness is not a collection of facts, but a continuation of a state. " Happiness is not for others, and it has nothing to do with what others say. The important thing is that your heart is full of happy sunshine, that is, happiness is in your own hands, not in the eyes of others.