Cause analysis and countermeasures of emotional frustration faced by college students

At present, the proportion of college students with psychological problems is on the rise [1]. Especially in the face of emotional setbacks and blows, there is no timely and positive way to adjust self-psychology, but a negative and destructive way to deal with it, which not only has no effect, but deepens the harm to oneself, parents and relatives, and even has a serious impact on society [2-3]. This paper tries to discuss it from the perspective of psychology, combining with the examples encountered in the work of counselors.

1. Case Overview

Wenmou, male, age 19, sophomore majoring in chemistry. From poor areas, I have been very active since I entered school, working part-time, joining various societies and student unions, and generally doing well. However, at the end of the first semester of freshman year, a sudden suicide occurred. The reason is that the female netizen I met online deceived him, saying that she would come to see him at school from other places and asked him to send 1000 yuan as a travel fee. For a moment, I couldn't get over it. Feeling cheated by the other party, my good plan failed. As a poor man, 1, 000 yuan is not a small expense for him. I feel sorry for my parents who have worked so hard to provide them with education, and they are ready to commit suicide on impulse. I had another fight in my freshman semester because I knew a girl in my junior year and lived together.

The girl never broke up with her boyfriend again. Finally, Wenmou and her boyfriend both called people and fought in groups. As soon as the first semester of senior two started, I played with my girlfriend again. As soon as the first semester started, I had to apply for off-campus accommodation, but the counselor refused. The frequency of skipping classes has increased, and sometimes people don't come home at night.

2. Case analysis

Wenmou comes from a peasant family in Sichuan Province, and his family's economic situation is relatively poor. After careful observation and many contacts, I gradually understood the root of the problem. Wenmou entered the university campus through his own efforts, but due to the disappearance of high school pressure, he lost his goal and turned his attention to emotional aspects. Because I haven't talked about my friends, I will inevitably encounter setbacks, leading to some radical behaviors and some one-sided understanding.

Step 3: Solution

After finding out the reasons, I consulted relevant materials, made a serious analysis of similar situations, and made specific work according to the special conditions of students: I mainly talked about the possibility of setbacks, and first let them know that emotional setbacks, career setbacks and academic setbacks are inevitable. People are always growing up and will grow up in setbacks. We should face setbacks rationally and correctly, and a good attitude is necessary. In view of jumping off a building for the first time, we should first listen carefully to Wenmou to understand what happened, and secondly, the first love caused the other party to scream because of some setbacks in love. Without the psychology of failure in love, everyone will have the first time. Finally, let them reflect on the relationship between family, career and study, and how to treat it correctly. College students' life is not only about feeling, but also about setting new goals. Secondly, family difficulties, through the evaluation of state grants, enable them to have stable living conditions and better study; Secondly, let dormitory students, class committee cadres and teachers actively communicate with him and care about him, so that team life can dilute personal life. Finally, do a good job in communication with counselors, communicate with parents in time, and understand and master the students' own situation and dynamic changes in their thoughts in time. At present, the student has a stable life and excellent grades.