Therefore, while deeply feeling their open life, I also deeply admire their Excellence, which gives me a new feeling of "helping others and helping themselves".
As the saying goes: the loved ones go back, and the blessed ones come back. What do those helpful people think? What do people who help others do at first? What is the best effect of helping others? While doing housework, I thought, and finally figured out why others do good deeds and travel thousands of miles, but I do good deeds without any effort. It turns out that there are three key points in helping others and helping yourself, that is-hello, I am good, hello everyone!
Ever since I learned the word "Suixi" from a Buddhist scholar, I have been used to using this word, because this "Suixi" means to see others do good, obey physically and mentally, and then be happy; In other words, let him cultivate kindness and be happy for his success. In other words, others pay for public welfare, and I contribute a little; I am very happy to see others doing good deeds; Others have achievements, can't afford to be jealous, just say something nice to praise; Others don't gloat when they are frustrated, just say something encouraging.
Say a nice word casually, do a good deed casually, and help others casually, all of which are happy.
Now everyone is under great pressure in work and life, and more time is trapped by their own situation. Many times, they still can't get out of the current problems, and they have no energy or mind to deal with them.
As a result, liking others at any time has become your own practice. No matter whether others are stronger than themselves or weaker than themselves, if you live well, it will be sunny.
There is a true story. An Australian farmer named Brian Ian went bankrupt because of drought. Under the long-term pressure and suffering, he suffered from severe depression. The idea of suicide lingered, and he did try to kill himself. Finally, Brian went to see a psychiatrist for help. The psychologist said to him, "Brian, maybe the best thing for you is to go out and find those who are in a worse situation than you and see if you can help them."
Brian was laughing. Who is worse than me? I am 56 years old, with no money and no house, and my wife and children have run away. I am poor.
But the doctor insisted that you try, so Brian Ian began to think about how to help others. Naturally, he thought of other farmers, who also died of drought. He set up a charity called Helper Australia to distribute daily necessities and personal hygiene products to the affected farmers. He also introduced the homeless people in the city to volunteer on the farm to solve the problem that farmers urgently need labor. These vagrants are not paid, but volunteering itself is a valuable reward.
When you start to take care of the needs of others, you will have more things to help others. Through your help, you will see that others are better off than before, and this feeling of happiness will bring you unlimited strength. As a result, gratitude is the initial intention of establishing "hello" and filling your heart with more happiness, which is the best explanation of the so-called helping others and helping themselves.
You must have heard this story:
You cook two eggs every morning, and one day you see a beggar not far from home, so give him an egg. He is very grateful. Later, you give him an egg every day. But for a while, you lost your job. In order to save money, you stopped cooking eggs. The beggar didn't have any eggs that day. When you went out, the beggar didn't get the eggs, but he called you heartless. This makes you feel wronged and beggars are unreasonable.
This is what people do. If they accept a good proposal from others for a long time, they will take it for granted, and they will become more and more greedy regardless of other people's situation. On the other hand, from the giver's point of view, people who help others need to be strong enough. At the beginning of life, human nature is good. If a person's ability is not enough, he will do bad things with kindness, help others and become a pig teammate in the team. It is always a time bomb, and even in the end, he will feel incomprehensible, often thankless and lacking in confidence.
China people always adhere to the principle of valuing harmony, and parents always educate their children to be good and obedient, and learn to bear the burden of humiliation.
However, parents don't know the real experience of their children: forbearance will not be endless for a while, but will only push your luck, and taking a step back will not be calm, but will only intensify! If you are kind, but not strong enough, the world will gnaw you to the bone.
It is human nature to bully the good and fear the evil, and bully the weak and fear the hard.
Only those who are really strong, who know how to be good to themselves, who know how to love themselves and who know how to protect themselves, can make others fear three points. Weak rotten good people will only be bullied everywhere and wronged as "cheap bones".
So, when you judge the needs of others again and are ready to mobilize your feelings to adapt to others, please stop first, even if it means giving up your own needs! Think more about yourself, for yourself, for the people you love, whether this contribution is within your power, debt or income. After doing this, if "I" becomes better, then I will be willing to continue to do it and help others better.
Although the story of skinning the meat and feeding it to the eagle is a feat, don't forget that people only have one life. Before giving up on yourself for others, think about your family and the rest of your life. After all, helping others is also a technical job. Without Jin Gangzuan, don't make porcelain.
Our most precious wealth is attention, and we should always pay attention to our own growth. Only when we grow up to be our own nobles can we meet the nobles who are willing to help us and become the nobles of others. Those who can donate a lot of savings can do more to help others just because they are strong enough and have enough savings.
Therefore, if I am good, I can give you better.
In the third option, I told a story about how a headmaster transformed a chaotic school:
The headmaster did not regard the black children in the slums as potential criminals, but regarded them as people with equal potential. He is determined to help every student become his own leader.
He first began to remove graffiti from the wall and persisted for two years. The "artists" were discouraged and the campus was cleaned again.
When his parents didn't come to school, he invited the teacher to visit. Many teachers left because of this, but he insisted on doing so. He will write a letter of recommendation to the teacher when he leaves his job. (Non-cooperation is also a form of win-win)
He divided the students into groups of 20 and arranged a tutor for each group. Teachers who are unwilling to be mentors must also leave.
In the end, this middle school became a famous school. Most importantly, children have a sense of responsibility and leadership.
Principals can sit at their desks and complain about the lack of government funds or parents' failure to cooperate with education. But he didn't. He made a third choice, mobilizing teachers, parents and children to explore better methods instead of complaining and waiting for failure.
Helping others is like this. Many things will be difficult to do, but in order to get the "really good" goal, we must make some changes. We must start with things that are beneficial to others, treat everything indiscriminately, and let everything have one more choice, and unexpected good things will appear in our work and life.
In addition, to help others, in addition to constantly cultivating themselves and striving to grow themselves, we also need to start from the people around us and the little things around us. Meng Ziyun: "Old people are old, young people are young, and young people are young." It means to respect the elderly in your own family first, and then extend it to others; Take care of your own children first, and then extend them to other people's children. Action is the key to "hello everyone".
Call your family; Read stories with children; Seeing that the floor at home is not clean, sweep it yourself; Turn off the faucet of the public toilet if it is not closed tightly; On the bus, give seats to the elderly and children and so on. Do what you can, lift a finger, or even spend almost no money, but give great support and relief to those who need your love. Sometimes, emotional support is more important than material help.
Write it at the end,
I like a sentence very much:
If you want to be lucky, first, make yourself capable, second, be grateful, and third, treat others sincerely. Naturally, more and more people will be willing to deal with you and make friends with you. As time goes on, altruism will certainly benefit them.
Like others, strive to grow up and do things that make everyone good. This is the right way to help others.
Treat your lover as a benefactor, and everyone's story deserves respect. If you think it's good, please like it ~ follow the joy ~