Then, how to grasp the critical period of small class children's growth, cultivate children's independent ability and let children survive better? Combined with my own work practice, talk about some experiences and practices.
1. Cherish the child's intention of self-independence.
Psychologists' research shows that when children's independent activities are satisfied or supported by adults, children will show pride and happiness, and there will be initial self-affirming emotions and attitudes such as "self-esteem" and "pride".
At the age of two, children have the desire and ability to eat, drink and dress themselves, and at the age of three, they can eat and dress independently. In life, we should do less and guide more, let children do more and encourage them to "do their own thing". After they enter the kindergarten, the children in the small class will not do well enough, and the rice will drop when eating, even all over the table. But not only can't we blame children and discourage them, but we should also help them grow patiently. We should encourage them to do something bad once, and there will always be progress after doing it several times. We should let children play some games specially to strengthen their hand-eye coordination and hand muscle flexibility. For example, the game of fishing beans is to prepare an empty bowl, a bowl with half a bowl of beans and a spoon, and let the children scoop the beans from the bowl into another empty bowl. You can also cut the mouths of several small animals with cardboard and let the children feed them beans or water. In the game, the children mastered the skills of feeding and increased their confidence in eating. For children, we should encourage them to improve their interest in eating independently. We can say to them, "You are great! Can eat by yourself. " This can strengthen children's self-independence intention and let children exercise their independent ability in practice.
2. Create conditions for children to be independent.
Cultivating children's self-independence ability is a long-term, tedious and meticulous work. Therefore, in life, we should cultivate children's independent ability from small things. Childhood is a critical period for the formation of good habits. We should really let children do it: "Good habits are developed early and benefit for life."
When children get up in the morning, they can be taught to wash their own faces. Children in small classes like games. We can say in a game tone: "Today, mom will compete with the baby to see who washes her face quickly and cleanly." Then, give the child a towel and explain the order of washing face and hands while demonstrating.
Children go to kindergarten, send their babies to the gate of the garden, and let them go to the teacher with their schoolbags on their backs. Entering the park is the first step for small class children to leave home and go to society. Most children feel anxious. When they are familiar with the garden environment, they will be able to enter the garden with their schoolbags on their backs alone, which will relieve their nervousness. Children can also try to enjoy entering the park independently, and one day their mood will be more positive. For example, the quiet child in my class is an introverted and quiet little girl. Usually, everything is passive, and it always seems as if nothing is wrong. When I arrived at kindergarten, my mother came to class with her back on her back, and greeting the teacher was also the same voice as "mosquito". After talking with her mother for a long time, I found that she was always upset when she came to the garden in the morning, but when she came to the kindergarten to see the teacher, she showed a good look. This is a child who cares about the teacher's opinion and needs the teacher's attention. So, I decided to improve her enthusiasm by cultivating her to enter the park independently. I said to her, "Tian Tian, will you go to the garden with your bag on your back tomorrow?" She nodded her head in agreement. The next day, sure enough, Tian Tian walked into the garden with his schoolbag on his back. Seeing her, I gave her a warm hug and said excitedly to the children, "Wow! Tian Tian is great! You can come to the park with your bag on your back! " In the praise, Tian Tian was filled with a proud smile that day, and he was more active in answering questions and doing things. Driven by Tian Tian and encouraged by teachers, most children in our class can go to the park with their schoolbags on their backs alone, and the whole atmosphere becomes lively. Positive emotions drive the activities of the day. It is precisely because of entering the park alone that children feel proud, thus stimulating the fun of children coming to the park.
When buying clothes, shoes, socks and bedding for children, we let them participate in the selection and let them choose their favorite styles and colors. Maybe in the eyes of adults, children are not good-looking, but what does it matter? Things are for children, as long as children like them. Isn't this the ultimate goal? If you pay attention to the cultivation of children's independent consciousness, you will become a strong-minded person in the future.
When children are interested in some small animals, we can let them be responsible for feeding, such as small fish, kittens, birds and so on. Let the child know that this is his pet, and he will rely on him to feed and change water in the future. This not only lets children know how to accomplish one thing independently, but also cultivates their sentiment and sense of responsibility. Start with the things that children are interested in and let them enjoy the fun of doing things independently.
When children encounter difficulties, they should cultivate their ability to solve problems independently. When my daughter is 3 years old, when I accompany her to the supermarket, I will let her choose a favorite commodity. Sometimes, I just wait for her at the checkout. I remember once, she wanted to buy ice cream. I told her to look for it herself. She found the freezer, but she couldn't push it open. She tried several times, but it still didn't work. Finally, she found the waiter and got the ice cream she wanted to buy. Although this is a small matter, she can find a way to seek help in the whole thing, so as to solve the problem and cultivate her independent thinking ability. When she was five years old, she could help me buy the medicine I specified in the drugstore downstairs, or she could pull the cable with her shoes alone. She can also play in the park downstairs and make friends actively. After each game, she will tell me which friends she made and which games she played, which not only exercises her courage, but also cultivates her language expression ability.
3. Strengthen the consistency of home demand and evaluation.
Kindergartens and families are places where children grow up, and the consistency of educational requirements is very important. Therefore, parents should not do anything for their children when they go home. It needs to be strengthened repeatedly to form a firm connection. Only when children's behavior habits at home and in the garden are consistent and unified evaluation criteria are obtained can the formation of independent ability be promoted. For example, many children in my class are like this at home, and they are the apple of their eye in their hearts. They are afraid of falling into their hands and melting in their mouths. They do everything by all means, which leads to their poor adaptability, strong dependence and passiveness. When other children move chairs to find a place to sit, he often stands there with a chair and doesn't know how to find a place. When the child takes a glass of water, he is also waiting for the teacher to bring the water to his mouth. Why does this happen to individual children? In the final analysis, parents arranged too much and did not cooperate with teachers to cultivate their children's independent ability. In kindergarten, teachers ask children to eat and sleep independently, but many parents report that at home, grandpa still sleeps on his back and doesn't even give him much opportunity to exercise by washing his hands before meals. Kindergarten is the best place for children to exercise away from their parents. If we fail to make our children independent and cooperate with kindergarten education, your children will lose at the starting line.
Now, my children are in the second semester of a small class. They can eat, wear shoes, fold towels and go to the toilet by themselves. Looking back, when I first entered the park, most children were very dependent and failed to develop the good habit of "doing their own thing". Through intensive training, gradual induction and the cooperation of parents, today's progress has finally been made. Therefore, don't help your child do everything just because he is young. If so, they will only be deprived of the right to grow up. How many examples show that parents accompany college students as long as their children study well? This has created a child who can only read dead books and can't take care of himself. Imagine, such a college student, divorced from society and parents, can still live well? Can employers believe that a person who can't even manage himself can manage his own work?
In a word, independence is the basic ability of human survival. As an educator, we must attach great importance to the cultivation of children's independence, so that children can face difficulties bravely and have strong ability to handle practical affairs, better adapt to social development and meet the challenges of the times.