Frustration means that when an individual engages in purposeful activities, his needs are not met due to obstacles and interference.

A negative emotional state. Middle school students will encounter setbacks mainly in their studies and emotions. Master of learning

It should include failing the exam, declining grades and being criticized by teachers and parents; Emotional aspects, such as: what you like.

The opposite sex expressed good feelings, but was politely declined, and broke up after falling in love.

Life will inevitably encounter setbacks, and a life without failure is not a complete life. Without the erosion of the river bed, there would be no

Have the brilliance of diamonds; Without the test of setbacks, there will be no unyielding personality. It is because of setbacks that there are warriors and cowards.

Points. Remember, "God is a great responsibility to the people of Sri Lanka. We must first suffer their minds, their bones and muscles, starve their bodies, empty their bodies and mess them up. "

What you do, get what you can't get. Balzac said: "frustration and misfortune are stepping stones to genius;" Baptism of believers

Water; The priceless treasure of capable people; A bottomless pit for the weak. "

Failure and frustration in life have an inevitable side; It also has positive and negative effects. Not only can make people mature, but also bring

Success will also ruin your future. The key is how you face setbacks.

Moderate setbacks have certain positive significance, which can help people get rid of inertia and urge people to forge ahead. Frustration is also a challenge and test. British philosopher Bacon said: "Most miracles beyond nature occur in the conquest of adversity."

First of all, setbacks help you grow. The process of human growth is a process of adapting to social requirements. If they adapt well, they will feel

Relaxation and harmony; If you don't adapt, you will feel embarrassed and frustrated. Adaptation requires learning to adjust one's motivation, pursuit and behavior.

Because. When a person is born; I have no idea what is right or wrong. By encouraging, preventing, allowing, opposing,

Reward, punishment, guidance, persuasion and even physical punishment and restriction are the only ways to learn how to adapt and behave appropriately.

Adjust behavior in different environments, different times, different objects and different specifications. On the other hand, lawless children from childhood

Son, once life will be submerged in contradictions and setbacks.

For example, Kepler, a German astronomer, was troubled since he was a child and came to the world early in his mother's womb only seven months later. Later, smallpox made him grow acne pits, and scarlet fever damaged his eyes. However, with his tenacious character, he studied hard and his academic performance was far ahead of his peers. Later, because my father was in debt and lost the opportunity to study, I taught myself astronomy. In his later life, he experienced a series of blows, such as illness, the death of his mentor and the death of his wife. But he still didn't stop studying astronomy, and finally discovered the three laws of celestial bodies at the age of 59. He turned all his misfortunes into a driving force to push himself forward, won the title of science with amazing perseverance and became a "legislator of the sky."

Secondly, setbacks enhance your willpower. Nowadays, teenagers live in a service-oriented environment, from primary school to university to job choice, which is stressful, so they have no deep experience of various difficulties, lack endurance and strong will, and are crushed when they encounter setbacks. In fact, many small setbacks in life are "playgrounds" of willpower. When you sweat through the whole journey and overcome the setbacks in life, you will get a pleasant experience. Psychologists compare minor setbacks to "spiritual supplement", because every time they overcome a setback, they strengthen their own strength and provide "spiritual strength" for the next setback.

At the same time, setbacks also have negative effects. In daily life, everyone reacts differently to setbacks. On the one hand, this

Depends on the emotional understanding of setbacks. If a friend criticizes you, you may listen and even be very grateful to him, but if

Misinterpret this friend's criticism as damaging your dignity, and then your reaction may be very different. On the other hand, feeling

Emotional loss is stronger than material loss. When the goal you pursue represents love, fame, status and dignity, one

Once the goal is lost, it will have a negative psychological impact, which is the negative effect.

When people encounter setbacks, they often feel insecure and difficult to settle down, and their work and life will be affected. Then, when people suffer setbacks, how should they debug? (1) When encountering setbacks, calm down, find out the reasons of setbacks from the aspects of objectivity, subjectivity, goals, environment and conditions, and take effective remedial measures. (2) We should treat setbacks dialectically, always maintain a confident and optimistic attitude, and realize that it is setbacks and lessons that make us smart and mature, and ultimately it is failure itself that creates success. (3) Talk to others (friends) about their frustration and future plans, and change their depressed state in order to relax physically and mentally, so as to look to the future.

(4) Learn to comfort yourself, tolerate setbacks, be open-minded, optimistic, work hard and strive for success with confidence. (5) compensation. If the original expected goal is frustrated, we can switch to other ways to achieve it, or switch to new goals and win new victories, that is, "falling off the corner and harvesting mulberries." This is a psychological defense mechanism. (6) sublimation. After being frustrated, people strive to make progress and transfer their emotions and energy to beneficial activities, thus sublimating to a height that is beneficial to society. This is also a psychological defense mechanism. (7) Be good at turning pressure into motivation. When you encounter setbacks and failures or are about to encounter setbacks and failures, you will face great external psychological pressure. At this time, are you discouraged, deserting, or stand up and continue to pursue bravely? This is a great test for people. Many celebrities and great men never bow their heads in the face of setbacks and failures, but are good at turning pressure into motivation and rising from adversity. Their successful experience is worth pondering and learning from all of us. If life is compared to a "knife" that cuts through thorns, then frustration is an indispensable "hard stone". In order to make the "knife" of youth sharper, let us bravely face the tempering of setbacks!

Frustration is a problem that cannot be ignored in the growth of college students. They inevitably face various setbacks in their study, life and interpersonal relationships, which directly affect the socialization process and healthy development of college students. There are several basic reasons for college students' frustration: academic problems. It is mainly manifested in the inadaptability to the learning environment of the university at the beginning of enrollment, the mutual competition in study, the heavy study tasks, the tense test pressure and the gap between the test scores and expectations, which are the main setbacks encountered by college students in their academic journey. -interpersonal problems. Due to the differences in growth environment, living habits, personality characteristics, psychological quality and methods of dealing with problems, college students often have difficulties in communicating with others, lack intimate friends, and even have many contradictions among classmates. Since then, they have been depressed, agitated and unwilling to study, which has troubled their healthy physical and mental development. -Practical problems. Facing the deepening of reform and opening up, changes in people's lifestyles, conflicts in values, economic pressures and employment problems, growing college students are often at a loss for a while. -Two questions. Some contemporary college students are often worried that they will blush, be incoherent and be at a loss when they are different. Some people are very upset that they can't handle heterosexual relationships or love relationships well. How to improve college students' ability to cope with setbacks? The author believes that: first of all, we must establish correct values. If college students can consciously establish scientific values, they can correctly understand setbacks, overcome setbacks, control their emotions more effectively and improve their ability to solve problems. They will have a clear direction and a single goal in their study, work and life. No matter what difficulties and setbacks you encounter, you will adhere to the correct value orientation, be open-minded, full of vigor and grow up healthily. Secondly, we should form a healthy psychological quality. Healthy psychological quality is conducive to optimizing the process of college students' obtaining information, processing information and coping with the surrounding environment, eliminating abnormal phenomena in their cognitive structure, promoting the coordinated development of the relations among the elements of their cognitive structure, avoiding emotional ups and downs and bipolar fluctuations, helping college students overcome internal obstacles, improving their will and behavior level, and making them not driven by accidental incentives. Another point is to learn to eliminate psychological pressure. College students should correct their knowledge, relax their body and mind, divert their attention and pour out their worries to eliminate psychological pressure. In addition to improving the ability of college students to resist setbacks, effective external support is also an indispensable condition for college students to overcome setbacks.