When did you become so anxious about raising children? Is it because the parents of the post-80s generation are too fragile?
Gao Jianli, director of the bilingual kindergarten in Henan Branch of the Middle School affiliated to Peking University, analyzed that many parents born after 1980s are only children, and the family structure of "4+2+ 1" has aroused great concern among children. Every child will be influenced by many factors, such as heredity and environment. Therefore, it is normal for babies of the same age to have different heights and uneven sports development.
However, due to high expectations of children, mutual comparison, or educational problems, "parenting anxiety" has arisen. Parents' anxiety is easily transmitted to children, and children who have been under the influence of parents' negative emotions for a long time will have problems such as depression, irritability and unsociable.
"Mothers who really love their children should get rid of their anxiety." Cui Dongmei, a national psychological counselor who has been engaged in children's psychological research for a long time, said that as the saying goes, "three points for raising, seven points for waiting", parents must have a peaceful attitude, let their children grow up in a relaxed environment, appreciate and encourage your children more, and crack down on them. Children will have anxiety. In order to achieve perfection at once, adults also have anxiety.
Parents should learn to relax. "First of all, we must have our own space and life, pay attention to quality companionship, and it will be better to relax and accompany our children." Cui Dongmei suggested that parents should read more books, such as Psychology of Child Development for babies, and books about personal spiritual growth, such as The Power of the Present and Living a New Self.