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What kind of friends a person has directly reflects his character. Choosing a friend is choosing a way of life. Friends, from one side, reflect a person's value orientation, outlook on life and world view. As the saying goes, birds of a feather flock together. I really believe this sentence. This is not to say that people should be divided into three classes, even if real equality in a sad society is like a fable. Like-minded people will always have more opportunities to get together. Only on the basis of mutual understanding and accommodation can they become friends. In fact, you can't expect nobles to really accept civilians as their own. He may be very kind and considerate to you, which is an education, a etiquette and a manifestation of his elegance and nobility. It is impossible to thoroughly understand each other's life customs, knowledge structure and cultural composition. How can there be communication and so-called spiritual collision? What about long-term coexistence, integration and acceptance?
It used to be said that it was a feudal legacy, but isn't it really more realistic? As far as I am concerned, this is a necessary and often neglected mental preparation for marriage. Of course, I don't mean to implement it as an iron law, but I think it should be regarded as a necessary reference.
Confucius said: Three friends are good, but three friends are bad. Friends are straightforward, friends forgive, and friends are more knowledgeable, which is beneficial; Friends make friends, friendly and soft, and friends will be destroyed and damaged.
A good friend is a good teacher, which exerts a subtle influence on your thoughts and actions, making you feel happy and full of sunshine everywhere; A good friend may not always be with you, but he can stand by you silently when you need it, perhaps just a look, a word, an attitude and a tacit understanding.
But even good friends need distance. Otherwise, it is an act of disliking, that is, judging the number of governors and thinking about humiliation; A few friends have lost weight.
So how can we make good friends? The most fundamental thing is to make yourself a kind, optimistic and happy person and get close to these beautiful virtues, so that at least you can have a cup of tea when you meet such a beautiful person.
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Recently, I carefully read Yu Dan's book The Analects of Confucius. Although not completely enlightened, it also touched my heart.
The real meaning of The Analects of Confucius is to tell everyone how to live the kind of happy life we need in our hearts. It mainly talks about the way of heaven and earth, the way of mind, the way of doing things, the way of being a gentleman, the way of making friends, the way of ideal and the way of life. Every story in the book tells us a lot about life philosophy and the truth of being a man.
Teacher Yu Dan has unique experience in teaching The Analects of Confucius. In my mind, Confucius is an ancient sage far away from us. The Analects of Confucius is like a golden pine on a high mountain. You can only look up and not touch it. Mr. Yu Dan seems to be an expert in processing delicious fast food. He can recite the Analects of Confucius, which is difficult for ordinary people to understand. It seems that the food that is difficult to digest and absorb has been processed into popular advanced nutrition for all ages. He took us beyond time and space and led the saints two thousand years ago to talk to people today. Confucius has no sage attitude, is simple, peaceful and approachable, and always conveys a simple and warm attitude towards life. She made the profound truth easy to understand and really entered our hearts. He said: "Confucius has no temperature, only color."
The first time I saw the term "national happiness index", it was only an indicator of a happy life in the material sense. We can't solve the problem of the mind simply by relying on the great wealth of material things. "When it's time to let go, just let go. If you tolerate others, you are actually leaving yourself a vast land. " For me, the older one is at work, the younger one is at home, between comrades, between husband and wife, and there are some trivial things in life that are suppressed in my chest. "With an infinite mind, many things are naturally small." Convince yourself, want to open some, why care so much?
In the face of life's regrets, you should accept them in the shortest time, and don't dwell on them. Repeated questioning will only aggravate your pain. If you cry because you missed the sun, you will also miss the stars.
Teacher Yu Dan told a story about the Analects of Confucius: there is a granite statue of Buddha in a temple, and many people come to worship every day. The steps leading to this Buddha statue are also made of granite from the same mountain. Not convinced, the steps said to the Buddha, We are brothers. Why should people adopt us to worship you? What's so great about you? The Buddha said flatly, because you only took four knives to your post today, I took thousands of knives to become a Buddha.
My eyes lit up after reading it. We used to like to compare with others. Why do you work with me? Are you really smart today? We often compare our own shortcomings with others' gains, while ignoring others' efforts, contributions, responsibilities and pressures. Want to get the pay behind others' income, how big is the difference between a thousand dollars and four dollars, so my heart is much more peaceful and my resentment is naturally less. You have your happiness, I have my happiness, contentment is always happy!
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This question can not give an accurate connotation and extension in one or two sentences. The role of faith in a person can be said to be the commander-in-chief of the soul, which can affect all aspects of a person's life. What you choose to believe becomes very important.
I always have reservations about religious beliefs except awe, although I am 100% convinced that the existence of God or Buddha in one's heart will help people learn to do good and do more things beneficial to society. In addition, I believe that as long as you really believe, no matter what kind of beliefs you have, you will certainly find an answer that can explain yourself and point out the direction. Therefore, there is no difference between good and bad beliefs, only whether they are in tune with their own orientation. Personally, I am willing to enter China's classical philosophy at present, and I am willing to live actively, so I pay attention to Confucianism now. The knowledge of ancient Chinese is extremely scarce, so I really can't understand the profound meaning contained in those short sentences, only to see how famous people interpret them. I really like these arguments when I read them. Therefore, I intend to briefly sort out my thoughts after reading the Analects of Confucius by Professor Yu Dan.
The First Reading of The Road to the Mind
A hundred years of life, who can't understand?
Everyone's life will inevitably have some regrets and disappointments If these regrets and disappointments are not faced squarely but magnified, then this person will live in the shadow forever and affect the quality of life. This can be confirmed by science. A person's depression can change the endocrine system. With a specific tester, you will see that the air left is gray because there is a lot of carbon dioxide. Life is short, and everyone wants to live a happy, fulfilling and quality life. So how can we resolve these shortcomings and disappointments, make ourselves easily on the road, and not waste our lives?
First of all, we must admit to facing up to the shortcomings in life.
In the face of a thing that I can't figure out, how can I avoid the greatest harm? Just don't get caught up in it and ask why over and over again. Regret is an accessory of life, and life without regret does not exist; Don't think that you will be better off than you are now. Don't forget that there are so many things in life. Maybe this thing has been handled well, but other things have been ignored, and there are still shortcomings. Admitting the existence of regret and accepting it in the shortest time is the premise of resolving regret.
Then, be a brave person and use the power of life to resolve regrets.
"The benevolent is not worried, the wise is not confused, and the brave is not afraid." It is said that when all troubles, puzzles and fears are in front of you, make yourself more generous, kinder, smarter and more fearless, then all external troubles will not pose a threat. Many times, it is our own hearts that block the sunshine. We care too much about gains and losses, not how unfair God is to us. We should learn to be a brave person and use the power of our own life to resolve those regrets, instead of relying on external material gains and losses, let alone pinning our hopes on a shallow pride.
So what does "courage" mean?
"A gentleman takes righteousness as the top priority", "A gentleman takes courage as chaos, and a villain takes courage as theft", which means that this kind of courage must be a kind of courage of benevolence and righteousness, and courage without moral restraint is the biggest disaster in this world; Moral restraint is not passive. For a gentleman, it comes from inner restraint, and it is an tolerance and strength shown by inner self-confidence and calmness under a rational restraint. Also, have a kind heart, because when a person has something beautiful in his heart, he can see the beauty of the outside world and be calm. This extraordinary courage, derived from virtue and kindness, may be more important today than at any time in history.
Conclusion: The courage of the soul refers to calmness and certainty, and it is a kind of momentum and strength. Don't be an injured hedgehog, a person who licks the wound carefully but exposes the thorn to comfort you. If your heart is bright, you are kind, you are honest and you are brave, then everyone you meet outside is an opportunity and everyone is willing to tell you beautiful things; You can overcome difficulties and get out of the shadows as soon as possible.