In China's rural areas, the emergence of a large number of left-behind children not only brings new problems to social management and social stability, but also leads to many problems in the process of socialization due to the lack of family education for left-behind children, which directly affects the healthy growth of rural children. It is of great practical significance to deeply analyze the influence of the lack of family education on the socialization of left-behind children in rural areas and explore the methods of educating them. Keywords: family education; Left-behind children in rural areas; Socialization; Countermeasures 1. The role of family education in the process of individual socialization. Left-behind children are in an important period of individual socialization. As one of the influencing factors of socialization, family education plays an important role in laying the foundation for children's successful individual socialization. 1. The meaning of socialization and the content of children's socialization refer to that in a specific social and cultural environment, individuals form personalities that are adapted to social culture and master socially recognized behaviors, and the final result is to cultivate social members that meet social requirements and make them assume specific rights and obligations in social life. Childhood is a period of rapid physical and psychological development, and the outlook on life and values formed at this stage affect the individual's subsequent behavior. Therefore, childhood is an important period of individual socialization. The content of children's socialization includes at least the following five aspects: (1) the cultivation of social life skills. This is the first level of children's socialization, and it is the primary and basic content, which mainly includes basic self-care ability and preliminary earning skills. (Chinese website secretary channel) (2) Internalization of social norms. In complex social life, in order to adjust interpersonal relationships and maintain normal social order, society must demand and restrain everyone's behavior, thus forming a series of social norms. Only when an individual's behavior conforms to social norms can he participate in normal social life and be recognized and accepted by society. The process of socialization is essentially the internalization of social norms. (3) Cultivation and development of sound personality. Personality contains a person's moral feelings, code of conduct, intelligence, temperament, will and coordination ability and many other characteristics. It is the dynamic organization of the individual's internal psychosomatic system, which determines people's thoughts and behaviors and is an important part of personality and psychological quality. The process of socialization is the formation of personality in terms of its content, which begins at the beginning of human life. (4) Learning social roles. Role mainly refers to the behavior pattern that a person follows in social life and matches his social identity and social status. Everyone always plays different roles in social life with different social identities and social status. Therefore, everyone should learn the role, such as the rights and obligations related to the role, and the relevant knowledge, skills and values that are suitable for the role behavior, so as to minimize the deviation and conflict of the role behavior in social life. (5) Establish life goals and values. The goal of life is the pursuit of personal ideals, and values are people's basic views and general concepts on the value of certain things, which are manifested in people's relatively stable beliefs, beliefs and ideals. Once the concept of values is formed, it becomes a relatively stable conceptual model in the subject's mind, which affects people's thoughts and behaviors. Socialization, on the one hand, should transform social goals into personal goals, on the other hand, it should shoulder the task of cultivating personal values and coordinate personal goals with his values. 2. The role of family education in the process of individual socialization. The socialization of individuals is realized through social education and individualization in the process of interaction with society. Family education plays a fundamental role in individual socialization, which is irreplaceable by other socialization methods. (1) Family cultivates a person's most basic emotion. "Family is a typical primary social group, whose most important feature is face-to-face emotional communication" [1]. As a typical primary group, the role of family in cultivating human nature is much greater than that of neighbors, peer groups and other primary groups, so it is very important to cultivate a person's normal mood. Since the baby was born, he has been breast-fed, hugged and amused by his relatives. In fact, he has accepted the most basic emotions of human life: food, warmth and interaction, which meets the needs of children's physical growth and also affects their emotions. With the growth of individuals, this kind of emotional interaction becomes more and more important. Whether a person knows how to accept and give love to others has a great relationship with his emotional interaction in the family. (2) Family education lays the foundation for children to master basic social norms. The so-called social norms refer to the behaviors that people have established in their interaction and long-term life, which are recognized and expected by most members, such as customs, habits, etiquette, taboos, basic social ethics and laws. A person lives in a certain society when he is born, and the society also puts forward various normative requirements for him. Children's acquisition of these social norms can only be achieved through the influence and teaching of the family. Family is the first interpersonal group and social organization that a person enters, and also the first school for children to receive education. Children's behavior begins with imitation, and parents are the objects of their imitation. Parents' eating style, dress manners and behavior habits directly affect their children. At the same time, it is also very important for parents to cultivate their children's good behavior habits. Teaching children to adapt to the basic norms of social life is one of the important functions of family education. (Excerpted from Chinese website, the copyright belongs to the original author) (3) Family education is the foundation of children's intelligent development. Childhood is a critical period for children's intellectual development, and it is also the initial stage of their education. The influence of family and the education of parents first leave various traces on the "blank" mind of children, and these traces are the most indelible in a person's life. Therefore, family education is the foundation of all education, family environment is the most basic cultural environment and the primary basic environment for developing children's intelligence. Among them, parents' educational level, parents' exemplary role, parents' educational methods and other factors have an important impact on children's intellectual development. Although school education and other education also play an important role in children's intellectual development, family influence and parental education are irreplaceable, which prepares the necessary intellectual foundation for school education. Second, the lack of family education affects the normal socialization of left-behind children. Due to the long-term absence of one or both parents, the family function of left-behind children in rural areas is weakened or imperfect, and even the children are in an "educational vacuum", which will have a very adverse impact on their physical, psychological and personality development and their socialization process. 1. Lack of management According to relevant surveys, among the left-behind children whose parents go out, 82.5% live with their grandparents, about 6% live with their parents, and the rest live with menstruation, menstruation, uncles and other relatives or live alone. There are roughly three kinds of guardianship for left-behind children: intergenerational guardianship, that is, grandparents' guardianship; The previous generation guardianship refers to the peer (relative) guardianship of children's parents; Self-monitoring, that is, children manage themselves. (Official documents are online) 2. Left-behind children with lagging education are generally taken care of by grandparents. Due to the low education level of the rural elderly, some of them can't even read, so they can only teach the experience of several generations in language, and can't give their children advanced modern education. Therefore, these left-behind children have the problem of lacking good enlightenment education in the pre-school education stage, which will undoubtedly leave many shortcomings for their future growth. In addition, due to the separation of parents and children, lack of communication, children's difficulties and doubts in learning can not be effectively and timely resolved and channeled, resulting in their academic performance is generally not as good as that of children in normal families. 3. The mentally fragile left-behind children are in an important period of psychological development, and they will encounter more problems than children in normal families in their study, life or interpersonal communication, resulting in various psychological troubles. They especially need the care, understanding and help of their parents. Parents are far away from home and can't meet their psychological needs in time. Due to the low level of education, outdated educational concepts and simple educational methods, some foster care for children is often limited to life, ignoring their psychological needs and development and not knowing how to understand them. In this way, the psychology of left-behind children will become irritable and fragile. 4. Moral Decline Some left-behind children who used to be very good in all aspects, because of their parents' poor discipline, some consciously or unconsciously relaxed their strict requirements, and some left-behind children are addicted to Internet cafes, video game halls and video halls, and are easily tempted and instigated by some lawless elements in society, and commit illegal and disorderly things. (Excerpted from Chinese website, the copyright belongs to the original author) Third, the countermeasures to solve the socialization problem of left-behind children 1. Help and guide the parents of left-behind children to fully understand the importance and urgency of family education. Parents should establish a high sense of educational responsibility and the family education concept of national teachers. Raising and educating children is not only an obligation entrusted to every parent by the Constitution, but also a moral behavior. Therefore, parents should have a high sense of educational responsibility. In the arduous long-term task of educating children, they should not neglect family education or even give up education on the pretext of developing the economy. Every parent should try his best to shoulder the sacred duty entrusted by the state-to educate his children well. At the same time, we should improve our own quality, improve our ability to educate children scientifically, master scientific family education methods and improve the quality of family education. Especially in the market economy, people's moral concepts have changed greatly, both positive and negative. Children are in the formative period of values and are easily influenced by the surrounding environment. This requires parents to correctly understand these changes, constantly correct the deviation in the process of children's growth, and educate their children into adults. 2. Promoting the cooperation between rural family education, school education and social education is the only way to realize the normal socialization of children. In the absence of family education, it is especially necessary to strengthen the cooperation between school education and social education in the socialization education of left-behind children. Children grow up and become socialized under the influence of family education, school education and social education. Therefore, a scientific education system must be established. Generally speaking, family education is the foundation, focusing on emotional edification; School education is the main body, focusing on theoretical education and positive indoctrination; Social education is the continuation and supplement of the first two. Only when they cooperate with each other, coordinate and unify, optimize management and form a scientific education system can they give full play to their role in promoting children's socialization. 3. In the long run, to solve the problem of the lack of family education for left-behind children, we should focus on fundamentally ending their left-behind life (1) and vigorously developing the rural economy. Let farmers get rich without leaving home, which will not only greatly reduce the number of left-behind families, but also be the best way to solve the "three rural issues". Therefore, solving the problem of farmers' poverty is the fundamental problem of solving the socialization of left-behind children and building a new socialist countryside, and it is an urgent task. (2) Accelerate the reform of the household registration system and gradually dismantle the urban and rural barriers. The emergence and existence of a large number of left-behind children is the product of China's current household registration system and related employment, education and security systems. Family reunion is the basic right and requirement of every family and every family member. Living with parents is the basic right of every child and the basic condition for healthy growth. To solve the problem of left-behind children, we must start with the reform of household registration system and other related systems, and gradually weaken or even cancel various systems linked to household registration that cause urban-rural segregation. The government should formulate and implement preferential policies and support measures so that farmers who flow into cities can enjoy equal rights with urban people. (3) Establish rural boarding schools to make them another "home" for left-behind children. The establishment of rural boarding schools is not only the desire of childless families in parenting education, but also the requirement of humanistic education in schools. Therefore, where conditions permit, boarding kindergartens and boarding primary and secondary schools can be established in a planned way to build schools into large families and cradles for left-behind children. Through the centralized education and management of left-behind children, it can not only give consideration to their study and life, but also help to protect their safety. (Excerpted from Chinese website, the copyright belongs to the original author) (4) Establish "guardian paternalism". Patriarchal system, that is, teachers pair up with left-behind children, and teachers act as parents, responsible for the whole process from study to life. "Escrow parents" play the role of parents to a certain extent, so that left-behind children who are far away from their parents can have more intimate care in their lives, more help and guidance in their studies, and more communication and comfort in their emotions, so that left-behind children who lack family and parenting education can get better education compensation and create a harmonious space for their healthy growth. (5) Establish a "care center" for left-behind children. According to the actual situation, the community can establish a "trusteeship center" in an organized way to provide centralized care for left-behind children and provide services such as nursing, entertainment, learning and life guidance for left-behind children; The "Custody Center" should establish a special file of left-behind children and a contact system between parents and other guardians, and record the thoughts, conduct, study and life of left-behind children every day, so that teachers and parents can grasp the real situation of left-behind children in a targeted manner; Open family phone, increase the number of parent-child interaction and communication between left-behind children and their parents, so that left-behind children can still enjoy the warmth of their families when their parents go out. References: [1] Song Linfei. Western sociological theory [M]. Nanjing: Nanjing University Press, 1997 [2]. Study on the situation of left-behind children in China [J]. 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