Writer Liang Shiqiu said: "Only immortals and beasts like loneliness, and people want friends." A western philosopher advised young people that the first lesson they should learn is to endure loneliness. These seemingly contradictory sentences actually tell the true state of our lives.

When you hear the happy news, will you immediately find someone to share it with? Do you want someone to cheer you up when you are depressed? Do you want someone to help you when you are in trouble? When you are interested in something, do you want someone to explore it with you? Friends are the first choice. Friends are very important in our life. Share our happiness and sadness with them. Doctors can cure our physical diseases with drugs, but without friends, who can really stay happy or recover from mental trauma? Friends make you happy. Friends listen to your troubles and give you advice. A true friend can share joys and sorrows with you.

Undoubtedly, everyone needs friends and friendship, and no one can sail in the ocean of life alone. We need the help of others and give them help. The importance of friends is self-evident and obvious. Everyone needs friends, and everyone can't live without friends. We should be honest with our friends.

According to the research of psychologists, without friends, people's emotions have nowhere to release, and long-term depressed emotions make people break away from normal life. Criminals are isolated and helpless, most of them have no friends, and their world outlook is distorted.

So, thank those who helped us, because they helped us through the difficulties; Grateful to those who care about us, because they give us warmth; Thank those who encourage us, because they give us strength. With gratitude, you can be warm.

But at the same time, each of us is an independent person, and we can't blindly rely on others, including our best friends.

Some people don't understand that enjoying loneliness is a valuable quality. They can't be quiet and refuse to be lonely. They always show their existence by cliques and entertainment, lacking quiet observation and thinking. They don't believe in the power of loneliness, and their hearts can't be calm, so they can't find their true self behind the endless prosperity.

A mature person grows up in loneliness, because only when he is quiet can he have a chance to face and examine his mind. I don't believe that a mature person is always keen on communication and entertainment, let alone devoted to all kinds of dazzling activities and events. Loneliness does not mean that you are geographically isolated from the world, but more importantly, you should leave your own quiet time and space in your mind.

For example, a writer, far from the temptation of secular utility, restores his soul to the soul that a writer should have, constantly observes the surrounding environment, and then speaks in words. Silence is an indispensable quality for a real writer. Once he becomes a so-called hot figure, it is undoubtedly a disaster. He will abandon the quiet nature of literature and gradually get lost in the excitement and noise. Writing should be the loneliest occupation in the world, just like a person in distress struggling in the desert. No one can help him, and no one can write what he wants to write. The person in distress should concentrate on finding water and direction, and he must fight alone. Only in this way can he walk out of the hinterland and complete his works of thinking and life. I am also reflecting on how many lively and extraordinary activities have inspired my soul. I dare not say that I have not benefited from it, but it is quite limited, so I keep reminding myself: enjoy loneliness and stay away from the noise. Some things need to be done by one person to gain something. I can spend a day getting to know a city. Come to a bus stop, get on the bus at will, enjoy the scenery on the roadside, then get off at a station at will, walk around, see the station, get on the bus and get off ... You can go to the library all day on weekends, or sell euphemistically on the busy street to buy what you want. In fact, this is also a part of life, seemingly boring, but can not be ignored. I also met a retired man, an optimist, who got up every morning to run and exercise. After breakfast, he picked up the kettle to water the flowers and grass, and then sat at his desk and read the newspaper of the day. Go to the old people's club to play chess with others at noon, or practice calligraphy at home, study some hobbies, and watch TV or take a walk after dinner at night. Lonely for others, but full of meaning for him. Self-entertainment is an optimistic attitude towards life.

A mature person understands the meaning of loneliness, and loneliness is associated with silence. Silence is another kind of relief for us in the noisy real life. In today's information explosion, if you don't have a deep understanding of "silence", even hiding in the deep mountains and forests is not really lonely. Quiet is a state, which will give us enough space and time, keep us at a distance from life, and enable us to deeply interpret our inner true thoughts.

There is no contradiction between being integrated into the group and enjoying loneliness. They are two important aspects of our lives.

We enjoy the warmth and excitement brought by friendship, and also enjoy the depth and value of thinking in loneliness. What can I do to realize my self-worth? How can we make life more meaningful? How can we make ourselves happy and people around us happy? One day, when you find that you no longer blindly like to mix with a group of people, stop crying to solve problems, start to do what you need to do according to your own wishes, learn to respect everyone around you, become generous in gains and losses, and start to have your own independent thoughts, then loneliness will become full of meaning and have traces of growth.