Some people say that a person's attitude towards others is a sign of his self-restraint. It is also the expression of a person's moral cultivation realm. It is not only self-restraint, but also a person's inner world. After reading Mind Gymnastics written by Mr. Xue Zetong, I realized that truth, goodness and beauty are the essence of one's mentality and the foundation of one's life. People can't get together because we can't live alone. No matter where we are, we are interconnected and interdependent with the people around us. We live in a friendly environment. Everyone has their own living environment and interpersonal relationships, and everyone has to deal with interpersonal relationships. So I appreciate a sentence: I am for everyone and everyone is for me. This sentence tells the true meaning between people.
We should treat our colleagues and friends sincerely. No matter who suits you and who has different views on yourself, you should be sincere. Only sincerity can get each other's true feelings. Sincerity is not made, but the true feeling of the inner world. Don't always think you are the cleverest. Today's social life is rich and colorful. People live in society and have their own pursuits, ideals and interests, so they have created different people, different personalities, different concepts and different standards. However, one thing remains the same in the communication between people: true heart for true feelings. Only when you treat others sincerely will others respect you.
To be sincere, we must be open-minded and mentally healthy. Think of others first, especially when encountering contradictions and setbacks. You may get different ideas, more understanding and tolerance, and get due respect. Of course, there are many unsatisfactory places in life, such as harming others and benefiting themselves, doing one thing in front of others and framing colleagues in front of leaders, which all illustrate the darkness and loss of human nature. After all, that's a minority, and most of them are good. You can't "blind a leaf and not know Mount Tai".
We may do better to treat sincere friends, because we can open our hearts and express our views. Perhaps disputes will not affect the intersection and friendship between friends. It's hard to open your heart to friends with shortcomings. Everyone has his own understanding and thinking. When dealing with people who have different opinions on themselves, we should rationally analyze the quality of opinions. We shouldn't blindly take other people's opinions as malice to ourselves. We should examine where our gaps are, find out our shortcomings and improve our quality. Especially at work, such rumors are welcome and should be precious in life. It is not easy to tell the truth to people who harm their own interests. Because his injury may affect our ideas, disgust, contempt and hatred can erase your views and sincerity. This requires people's cultivation. Of course, if you have different views and opinions, you must pay attention to the ways and means. You can't think I'm doing it for your own good, so you can't mind my attitude. In fact, the subtlety of Chinese lies in the richness of language. There are so many languages for us to choose from. Why don't we choose words that are easy to understand and accept? Treat other people's shortcomings, even if you are right, you should consider how to make others accept them easily. As long as you can understand the difficulties of others and always put yourself in others' shoes, you can be close to people's hearts and others can understand your true feelings. Just like our comments after posting here, every sentence comes from my friends' heart, which makes me feel very fulfilled, but those kind advice are my eternal treasure, which makes me discover my own shortcomings and constantly improve my writing style, which is my greatest gain. By analogy, everything is the same.
When I wrote this topic, I thought a lot about him. The philosopher Kant said, "Being angry is to punish yourself for the mistakes of others." Yes! The elegant Kant probably won't have a storm, and his mood will always be clear. Views can be inclusive. Learning to be tolerant can resolve many entanglements, resentment, prejudice and unhappiness in life.
There is a limit to patience. People who tolerate others are open-minded and tolerant of others' mistakes. This is tolerance like water, usually "tolerance", that is, forgiving others' temporary mistakes, not complaining about others, not complaining about others, and being a generous person in a friendly way. Tolerance is like water, and encountering contradictions is often more effective than excessive retaliation. Is it a clear spring, a leisurely place? It is necessary to get rid of the hostility of the other party for a while, so that people can calm down and see what happened.
Tolerance is fire, because a deeper tolerance not only means not caring about personal gains and losses, but also means warming others' hearts with your own love and sincerity. It is rare to be calm as water; The bearing of giving charcoal in the snow is more valuable and moving. Tolerance is just a flame, bright and warm. Tolerance can not only melt each other's freezing, but also radiate the heat of love to each other's hearts.
Tolerance is a poem, tolerance is a poem of life. The highest tolerance is not only manifested in the handling of an event in daily life, but sublimated into a kind of mind for the universe and a poetic tolerance for life. The meaning of tolerance is not limited to the understanding and care between people, but the inner tolerance for everything between heaven and earth is the lubricant of life. "No one is perfect", and a person cannot be perfect. Hold such an extremely valuable spiritual realm. However, tolerance is by no means blindly accommodating.
Tolerance is mutual. If we tolerate others, we will be tolerated by others. If there is tolerance between people, the world will be more peaceful. We should respect each other and tolerate each other.
Those who are worried about a dull and ill-fated life, please choose tolerance, which will not hurt your dignity at all, but will help you cross mediocrity in the long river of life. With the ideological realm of tolerance, we can understand the true meaning of life, and tolerance is also an art of life.
Of course, there is no contradiction between tolerance and "being strict with yourself and being lenient with others". Forgiving yourself easily is not tolerance, but cowardice. "Treat people with a circle" and choose the right person. Tolerance does not cherish tolerant people, which is tolerance. Therefore, tolerance itself is also a kind of knowledge of life.
On the road of our life, in life, it is often complicated and often dull. It is precisely because tolerance is like water that complicated things become pure after filtering; It is precisely because tolerance is like fire that insipid becomes more and more distinct after calcination; It is precisely because tolerance is the lubricant of life that tolerance for others is actually tolerance for yourself. It is precisely because tolerance is mutual that the other party is tolerant of each other, and it is precisely because of this poetic tolerance that life is endowed with art and eternity.
Failure and success are antonyms, but in my opinion, they are equally beautiful.
In all kinds of competitions, there are always winners and losers, whether in interviews, exams, basketball games ... Winners are always so glamorous and can get all kinds of honors and praises; Losers are always so down and out, a pair of despondent appearance.
Victory is so beautiful, failure is so ugly.
But on the other hand, failure and success are equally beautiful and useful.
Although failure is not as glamorous as victory, it has always been our wake-up call, which makes us suddenly wake up in pride and happiness, instead of being immersed in the glory of victory.
Fu Cha, the king of Wu, won beautifully, and Gou Jian, the king of Yue, worked hard after losing.
Another example is the story of Cao Cao chasing Lu Bu: When the eighteen princes confronted Dong Zhuo's army, Cao Cao defeated Lu Bu and Lu Bu escaped, but he knew that Cao Cao would chase him. After Cao Cao's victory, he was proud to see Lu Bu escape. He led the army in pursuit of victory, only to fall into the trap of Lu Bu. Sure enough, Cao Cao was ambushed by Lu Bu and was defeated and fled. Finally, he escaped with the help of his brothers. In this process, Lyu3 bu4 did not abandon armour because of failure, but calmly analyzed that Cao Cao would be proud and despise his enemy. Therefore, failure will bring people back to reality from the joy of victory, and let us recognize the reality and not be pushed to the wall by reality. If we don't fail, we will remain complacent until we are forced to fail.
Failure is as beautiful as success. Success makes us confident. Failure is like a wake-up call, reminding us not to be immersed in glory all the time. We must recognize the reality and work hard, and there will be a successful victory.
According to statistics, if an old man falls to the ground, 55.6% people choose to walk away directly; 23.4% people will choose to find a witness before helping; 12。 6% people choose to call110; Only five. 4% people choose to help the elderly without hesitation.
Why is this happening?
It turns out that there are so many incidents of "touching porcelain" that people have to guard against it and don't even know what to do: what if they help themselves and the other party blackmails themselves? If you don't help, you will be condemned morally and spiritually. So, how should we face this kind of incident?
In my personal opinion, the central point of the question "Can the old man be helped when he falls down" lies in people's handling of this "touching porcelain" incident. Of course, part of the reason is related to morality.
In order to build a harmonious and moral society, we can't ignore the elderly who fell down, and the incident of "touching porcelain" is not 100%, so we need a good way to solve this kind of thing:
First, when the old man falls, we shouldn't help him immediately. It is necessary to ask about the injury and observe the state of the elderly. Because many patients with diseases can't help them casually when they fall, it will lead to the secondary injury of patients. If the old man had broken a bone, your kind help might have made his condition worse. In this case, you must not act lightly.
Second, we should quickly observe the injury of the elderly and then decide what to do next. If the old man is not seriously injured, he can stand up without help; If the old man is seriously injured, then you should contact his family, the police and the ambulance in time, so that he can get more professional assistance.
In this process, you don't have to help the elderly, but you can choose to stay with him, shelter him from the wind and rain, provide water, protect the safety of the elderly, and do what you can, instead of simply helping him. This is the right choice.
We must know that for the elderly who fall, we must "dare to help" and "will help". We should deal with such incidents according to the situation, not stick to the rules, but have some adaptability, so as to create a beautiful society.
The above is my argument, thank you!
Success is a high wall, on the other hand, it is always filled with the high wall of failure. Success can only be achieved through the accumulation of failures. Failure is a cliff, and success is to work hard and endure numerous setbacks. Failure is a seed, and only through ups and downs will you succeed.
Dr. Sun Yat-sen has revolutionized eleven times and failed ten times ... Since ancient times, which talent has not risen from failure and then moved towards success? As the saying goes, "failure is the mother of success". There is always a record of failure on the way to success. Failure can only be successful if you don't lose heart, and you can't be proud of success unless you return to failure. Successful people all have one thing in common, that is, they know how to stand up from failure instead of lying down. This is the real success.
You can't succeed in everything in life. Like Hitler, he was born without wealth and succeeded, but in the end he was defeated by his arrogant personality; Xiang Yu of China is also an example of failure. People who fail are not unsuccessful, but because their arrogant personality forces them to return to failure after success, instead of standing up and living in a dark corner forever, instead of trying to get up, just lying down and resigned.
Success is like the sun in winter, giving flowers and trees strength; Gave people hope. Endless tears after failure, like lightning in rainy days, give people despair. The number of times you get up is the key to success. The deeper you get, the harder it is to get up, but the closer you get to success. After success, be yourself and welcome the fruits of success!
Everyone has his or her successes and failures, but there are often two different things. One is persistence, not retreat. The other is to retreat when encountering difficulties or failures and give up directly.
Success and failure are our doorsteps, just like someone stops you, so what I said today impressed me deeply.
I especially like dancing. Of all my hobbies, I am most interested in dancing. Everyone should know that it is amazing and beautiful to finish a complete dance at last, but you don't know what kind of pain is behind these amazing and beautiful? Dancing with only movements will be monotonous. If you add some skills to the basic skills, it will be very different. It takes a long time to do a basic skill, such as my preschool bridge, which is composed of several movements. In the process of studying, I fell to the ground again and again, and my legs were always black and blue. At that time, I didn't want to learn, so I sighed and thought, "Since I chose this course, I must stick to it. Aren't all the sisters who dance well going through this difficulty? " The joy after success is here to stick to it. "In this way, I encouraged myself again and again and practiced again and again, which really paid off. I learned to be a front bridge without a class or two, but many people give up on themselves, have no confidence in themselves and don't believe that they will succeed.
Finally, as far as I am concerned, I can add skills to the dance. Everyone else is frowning and admiring me, but I only smile.
From this, I feel that whatever I do will fail. Only from failure can I find the happiness and method of success.
Tolerance of others is a traditional virtue of China people. Tolerance has a strong influence.
During the Warring States Period in China, Lin Xiangru successfully completed the diplomatic tasks of "returning the treasure to Zhao" and "Mianchi Club" and safeguarded the interests and dignity of Zhao, so he was "worshipped as a big official" and "located on the right side of Lian Po". This angered Lian Po, a general who prided himself on taking credit. He threatened, "if I see each other like friends, I will be embarrassed." . Xiang Ru, on the other hand, focused on the overall situation and took a tolerant attitude towards Lian Po's insolence. Every time I see Lian Po, "driving a car to avoid hiding" finally affects Lian Po, maintains the political situation of Zhao Anding's unity, and leaves a well-known story for future generations.
Just imagine, if Lin Xiangru didn't "lead a car to hide from Tibet" but had a "two tigers * * *" dispute, in that case, it would inevitably bring disaster to the country, and it is precisely because of his tolerance and virtue that he was praised by future generations.
During the reign of Emperor Kangxi in Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying, a family member of the Ministry of Rites, had a dispute with his neighbor when he was building a mansion because of unclear boundary. Both sides rely on their families to serve as officials in the DPRK, and they do not give in to each other. Local officials are also afraid of various forces and cannot judge. Zhang Ying's family wrote him a book. Get him involved. After receiving the letter, Zhang Ying immediately wrote a poem to reply to his family: "Writing a book a thousand miles away is just a wall. Why not let him be three feet?" The Great Wall of Wan Li is still there today, but I haven't seen Qin Shihuang. "The family read the letter, understood the truth, and immediately gave way to the ground to show that there is no dispute. When the other party learned about this, they felt ashamed and gave in. This is the origin of "Liuchi Lane".
Zhang Ying's practice not only educated her family, but also influenced the other side, giving in three feet and broadening her horizons. Isn't his practice very enlightening to us?
"Beijing Daily" once published such a thing: a young man spit on the bus, and the female conductor asked him to wipe it off. Sorry, young man, I didn't wipe it. The female conductor gave him a step and wiped off the sputum with paper. Afterwards, the young man regretted it. He wrote a letter to the newspaper to apologize to the conductor. Look how well this girl has done! If she doesn't do this, but forcibly let the young man erase it, the result is not difficult to imagine. Reasoning also makes people generous and tolerant, which has a great influence!
But in real life, some people lack this kind of mind and tolerance, and they haggle over every ounce when things happen. For example, riding a bike in the street and accidentally hitting others; By bus, people are crowded and people accidentally step on other people's feet. At this time, it's not that you say you're sorry and he says it doesn't matter, but that you are angry with each other for a while, use words that can't be written in words, and then fight, and eventually both sides lose. Think about it, my friend. Why bother? Why don't you take a step back when something happens? Why not tolerate others?
Of course, what we call tolerance has principles and limits. In the face of right and wrong, when someone infringes on the interests of the party and the people, they should stand up and never tolerate traitors stealing peace. This is a cinch. Not to mention. As the saying goes, "the prime minister can punt in his stomach", which is a praise for tolerance. If people can tolerate each other, our life will be better.