The development of network technology provides a brand-new environment for college students' interpersonal communication. It brings convenience to college students and enriches their contents, but it also has many negative effects. By analyzing the characteristics of college students' interpersonal communication in the network age, this paper studies the influence of the Internet on college students' interpersonal communication in the information age. Mainly from the form of network communication: indifference of interpersonal relationship; From the process of network communication, it weakens the sociality and regularity of interpersonal communication; This paper discusses how colleges and universities deal with the negative influence of the network on college students' interpersonal communication.

[Keywords:] network; Interpersonal relationship; college student

First, the Internet's impact on college students' interpersonal communication and its solutions

The network is rapidly infiltrating into all aspects of social life, and its appearance is completely changing the mode of production, lifestyle, way of thinking and values of human beings. The Internet is increasingly infiltrating into the lives of college students. This network world connected by mouse, keyboard and wires has become an indispensable part of college students' life, and network interpersonal relationship has also become an important aspect of college students' interpersonal communication. The network has both positive and negative effects on college students. As far as the field of life is concerned, the network has made the existence value of individual life infinitely promoted and publicized. It plays the role of lubricant in social life, relieves the tension of college students and releases the pressure brought by study and life. When college students are stimulated by various aspects to produce bad emotions, psychologists advocate appropriate and timely transfer, talk and vent, and the concealment, openness and convenience of the network just provide such an opportunity to lay a good foundation for the formation of good interpersonal relationships among college students. At the same time, the network provides a brand-new interpersonal environment and way for college students, which brings convenience to interpersonal communication and enriches its content. However, science and technology is a double-edged sword. While fully affirming the positive role of network in college students' interpersonal communication, we must also recognize its negative role.

Good interpersonal communication plays an important role in the development of college students themselves. Altman and Taylor (I. Altman &; D.A. Taylor (1973) believes that the formation and development of good interpersonal relationships generally need to go through four stages: orientation, emotional exploration, emotional communication and stable communication, and the core component of interpersonal relationships is emotional factors. While bringing new ways of communication and learning to college students, the network has brought many negative effects on the establishment of good interpersonal relationships among college students in real life due to its own characteristics, which has impacted the healthy and normal emotional development and interpersonal communication of college students, thus leading to a series of interpersonal communication obstacles among college students in real life.

(B) Research on the current situation of college students' network interpersonal communication

With its characteristics of high speed, freedom and fashion, the network has brought convenience to college students' study, life and scientific research. At the same time, due to the virtual nature of the network, it has also brought negative effects to college students, leading to their lack of socialization and the emergence of dehumanization of interpersonal relationships.

1, from the form of network communication: interpersonal indifference

With the development of computer network, home office, distance education, electronic shopping malls, electronic banking and so on have appeared. , greatly reducing the opportunities for face-to-face communication between people, leading to alienation of interpersonal relationships, family retreat and moral indifference.

Making friends is an important form of college students' interpersonal communication and an important way of socialization. However, due to the virtual nature of the network, this kind of social interaction is only virtual social interaction. In the network society, people's communication mode is mainly man-machine dialogue or computer-based communication. The network has become the end of people's communication, transplanting their emotions into the network, which is far from the traditional interpersonal communication. The invisibility of the network makes college students cut off contact with the people around them, and virtual "man-machine communication" replaces actual interpersonal communication. In the relatively closed environment of man-machine-man, on the one hand, both parties have the nature of de-socialization except for many social attributes such as age, gender, occupation and nationality; On the other hand, college students have largely lost the opportunity of direct contact with others and society, thus easily losing their sensitivity to the real environment around them and their awareness of active participation. Some college students (mostly girls) are used to bearing psychological load by themselves because of their introversion and inferiority. They are sharp-minded, unwilling or not good at communicating with others, and hate the hypocritical human relations in society. When the Internet comes into their lives, they prefer the form of online communication, anonymity, gender and identity. They often go online to vent their bad feelings, solve their troubles and tell their "mood stories". At this time, they felt that they had found their sustenance and got the support of netizens. But when they got off the net, they found that they were still facing empty loneliness.

2. From the perspective of network communication process, it weakens the sociality and regularity of interpersonal communication.

College students are the key period for individuals to gain social recognition from adulthood, and their multiple expressions and sustained release of joy, anger, sadness and joy are inevitable in the most normal physical and mental development of their socialization. The necessary link to realize this process is to put yourself in real interpersonal communication. In the realistic social environment, the interactive parties rely on social norms, customs and group rules to interact, master the essentials of different social roles, and achieve the identity of individual self and social self through continuous practice.

However, in the computer-based network, because of anonymity, identity is hidden, and many norms, rules and morals in the real society are frozen in the virtual world, thus providing a platform for college students with insufficient self-control ability to express themselves and indulge their emotions. In addition, network communication is extremely free, and many realistic ethics, legal norms and administrative measures can't play a role. College students can break many restrictions in daily life and do some "deviant" behaviors online without worrying about being punished by existing morality and laws. In this way, under the influence of the weakening of internal subject consciousness and lax external control in network interpersonal communication, college students with rebellious spirit are more likely to violate the principles of network communication If someone makes personal attacks on others on BBS; Put some nude photos on the internet for people to enjoy. Especially for men's and women's communication, because the Internet is an omni-channel communication network, its communication mode has broken the traditional "one-on-one" mode of men's and women's communication, and one person can fall in love with multiple opposite sexes at the same time, which may make the existing game mentality of college students' men's and women's communication breed and spread in cyberspace, and have an impact on the realistic morality of men's and women's communication.

4. Analysis of psychological factors of college students' addiction to network communication and guiding countermeasures.

The positive influence of network on college students' interpersonal communication is the mainstream, but it also has negative influence. College students are easily drowned in the network age. They are quick to respond to high technology, but they are also caught in a series of interpersonal communication. Some of them escape from reality, are unwilling to associate with people, and are indifferent to people; Individualism is popular and insecure; Various deviant behaviors and psychological diseases have increased; Lack of trust between people; Coupled with excessive addiction to the internet, it reduces the opportunities for communication with society and families, leading to increasingly indifferent family and social values. Therefore, the network is both an opportunity and a challenge for college workers. Facing the surging Internet wave, we must adopt effective policies, give full play to the advantages of the Internet, reduce its adverse effects on contemporary college students, vigorously strengthen the guidance of college students' online interpersonal communication, help college students correctly treat and handle online interpersonal relationships, and provide a network environment for their healthy development.

1, enrich campus life, carry out various activities, correctly guide college students' online communication, make full use of the network to expand social communication, and don't ignore friends in real life.

2. Actively promote network legislation, strengthen network management, close the import and export channels of all kinds of harmful information, and at the same time conduct timely and effective supervision and prosecution of college students' online behavior, establish more perfect laws and regulations, and give timely warnings to college students who publish illegal articles and disseminate bad information online, and investigate their legal responsibilities if the circumstances are serious. It is the responsibility and obligation of every citizen to educate college students to understand and respect the rules of network behavior and maintain the order of network society. So as to improve its sociality and regularity in the process of network communication.

3. Pay attention to cultivating college students' right and wrong judgment ability, so that they can learn to choose and distinguish under the diversified value system, and consciously resist the erosion and temptation of low-level, inferior and reactionary information, thus avoiding all kinds of confusion, loss and blind obedience, and reducing the risk factors of college students' network interpersonal communication.

4. Strengthen the construction of campus network. Campus network should give full play to the characteristics of knowledge-intensive, talent-intensive and information-intensive in colleges and universities, and make it an important place for teaching, scientific research, study, life and entertainment. According to the development characteristics of college students, an attractive part is established for them. Such as the content related to study and life that college students like to see and hear. You can also set up some excellent clubs on the Internet and carry out colorful activities in them, so that college students' personality and body and mind can develop in a healthy direction.

5. Pay attention to online psychological education and do online psychological consultation well. Online psychological education and online psychological consultation play an important role in popularizing college students' mental health awareness, promoting their all-round quality training and improving their personality level and psychological quality. Because of the concealment of the network, college students are more willing to speak freely. At the same time, due to the large space-time nature of the network, it is more convenient to carry out psychological mutual assistance and popularize diversified psychological knowledge, so that the psychological obstacles of college students in online interpersonal communication can be solved in time.