College love psychology 2000-word thesis: a brief analysis of female college students' love view.
With the rapid development of market economy, the economic environment and living environment are also changing rapidly, which has a certain impact on the love concept of college students, especially female college students. It is of great practical significance to explore the education of the Party's love view in contemporary colleges and universities, the current situation of female college students' love view and its influencing factors, and find out the countermeasures to improve the bad phenomenon.
Keywords: female college students; Love concept; study
With the gradual improvement of China's socialist market economy, people's values have changed greatly, especially in love. Although our colleges and universities have been advocating and educating young people to establish a socialist materialistic view of love, this socialist materialistic view of love has not been well implemented in real life. As a unique group in the school, contemporary female college students are an important part of colleges and universities. Their concept of love directly affects their own development and the construction of colleges and universities, and will have a greater and far-reaching impact on the concept of love and marriage of social women and even the next generation. Therefore, it is necessary to study the love view of contemporary female college students.
First, the concept of love advocated and taught by modern colleges and universities
Pursuing love and advocating a happy family are beneficial to personal development and social harmony. The content of love and family in contemporary university education is also increasing gradually. It is the significance of university education to help college students, especially contemporary female college students, establish a correct view of marriage and love and let them treat marriage and love correctly.
(A) to guide college students to establish the concept of proletarian love
Ideological and political education in contemporary university education includes education on outlook on life, legal education and moral education. Among them, the outlook on life points out that it is short-lived and shameful to guide college students to establish a correct outlook on life, carry forward the spirit of hard struggle, and guide them to strive for a better tomorrow through their own intelligence and hard-working hands. In the education of the concept of rule of law, it is necessary to guide college students to establish legal awareness, clarify their status and responsibilities, abide by the constraints of law and discipline, and be qualified good citizens. In moral education, college students are directly guided to establish proletarian love view, and * * * ideals and beliefs are the primary criteria for choosing a spouse. Through these education, college students have been cultivated and their ideological realm has been improved.
(b) Guide people to abide by the basic moral principles in marriage and family life.
When dealing with marriage and family relations, young people in colleges and universities should achieve freedom of marriage, equality between men and women, mutual respect and love, mutual trust and mutual exemption, mutual assistance and mutual accommodation, mutual understanding and mutual accommodation and harmonious coexistence; Guide people to unify love and obligation, and consciously assume the responsibility of supporting the elderly, father and daughter. Guiding people to regulate their behavior with these principles is a necessary guarantee for establishing a beautiful marriage and family life.
Second, the distortion of female college students' love view in real life.
(A) the diversified development of female college students' love purpose in contemporary colleges and universities
A survey of female college students in Anhui Agricultural University shows that 44. 1% of female college students think that the purpose of dating is to get each other's help and care in their study and life, so as to make their life and study more convenient. 25.6% female college students think that they have more free time and are lonely after entering the university. Falling in love is to get rid of this emptiness and find excitement. 3.2% of female college students fall in love in order to show their personal charm and enhance their self-confidence. Only 26.9% of female college students fall in love to find true love and marry it. Since the reform and opening up, the descendants of western ideas and some unhealthy ideas are eroding the hearts of contemporary female college students. Their love thoughts are not conservative, and their love purpose is not simple.
(B) Money is an important factor for college students to consider when choosing a spouse.
The survey shows that although female college students put emotional factors in the first place, the development of the material world has made more female college students more utilitarian, material and realistic. When choosing a spouse, it is often money and material that affect the choice and judgment of female college students. More realistically, whether the spouse has a house or a car is the primary consideration. Only when the material conditions are met can we talk about other things. With the progress of market economy, the improvement of consumption level and living conditions, female college students are now more powerful and pay more attention to their immediate vested interests.
(C) in the process of love can not correctly and rationally deal with the problems in love
In real life, once in love, many college students lose themselves, neglect their studies, lose their ideals, forget the church of their parents and teachers, and neglect their primary task as students. Moreover, when two people have contradictions, they can't handle them rationally. These students lost their way in love and lost their social responsibility. Some female college students in love have a seriously distorted view of love. They completely lost themselves, only thinking about each other, and they were confused every day. In their view of love, their love must be and must be perfect. Once there is a crack in love, they will ignore it and try their best to die. There are not a few college students who commit suicide for love, and similar incidents happen every year. Among these students who commit suicide for love, female college students account for the majority.
Thirdly, the influencing factors that lead to the distortion of female college students' love view.
(A) the impact of social and environmental factors
Social environmental factors mainly refer to the big social environment, including socio-economic environment, cultural environment and public opinion environment. With the development of market economy, the living standard of China people has been greatly improved. However, because the state supports some people to get rich first through honest labor and legal management, the living standards of the people are not consistent, and the gap between the rich and the poor inevitably appears. Coupled with the influence of western thought, it appeared? Money worship? 、? Hedonism? For example, the trend of thought that corrupts the social atmosphere. Since the reform and opening up, the influx of western ideas has led us to ignore the traditional culture of the Chinese nation. Worship foreign things and flatter foreign countries? Seriously thinking, the excellent Chinese culture has not been well implemented. The public opinion atmosphere created by mass media such as news and newspapers is also an important aspect. In recent years, the mass media pay too much attention to the reports of negative information, which exposes the falsehood, ugliness and ugliness of society and has a negative impact on the psychology of female college students.
(B) the impact of family environment factors
Family is a small group with marriage, consanguinity or adoption and living together for a long time, and it is the basic living unit of society. Family is the first school after birth and the cradle of personal growth. Family influence has universality, permanence, permeability and pertinence, and the subject of family influence has affinity and authority of blood ethics. The family environment in which a person is born greatly affects the love view of college students. Parents are children's first teachers, and their education has a far-reaching impact on children. Some parents are afraid that their children (especially girls) will suffer hardships in the future, and often instill incorrect views on love in their children. I hope their children can? Fly to the branch to be a phoenix? Nothing can be done without money, which seriously affects the love view of female college students.
(C) the influence of peer group factors
The influence of peer groups is free, penetrating and unique. The so-called near ink is black, which is the truth. The people we come into contact with are often the people who have the greatest influence on us, and this influence is always produced in a subtle way. The peers of contemporary female college students mainly refer to their school classmates. Some students' psychology of keeping up with the joneses and showing off their wealth invisibly affects the love view of other female college students. If it is not guided in time, the harm of this influence is very serious.
Fourthly, the countermeasures to improve female college students' distorted view of love
By analyzing the dislocation between the content of love and marriage view of contemporary higher education and the reality of love and marriage of female college students today, we can find the crux of the problem and truly correct the love and marriage view of female college students.
(a) Efforts to improve the social environment
The distortion of contemporary female college students' views on marriage and love is closely related to the social environment. When people improve the environment, the environment is also shaping people. Excessive admiration of material and laissez-faire of western culture and western thoughts can only make college students' hearts constantly corroded. Therefore, we should correctly understand college students' views on marriage and love on the basis of economic development. Give college students full freedom and active guidance, so that China's excellent traditional culture can penetrate into their minds. We should also guide college students to fully understand western foreign cultures and strive to do so? Get rid of the dross and get the essence? . Social media should also actively guide, create a harmonious social atmosphere, and let college students establish a correct view of marriage and love.
Optimize school and family education
It is positive and correct for schools, especially colleges and universities to guide college students' outlook on life, rule of law and morality, but it is far from satisfactory in the actual implementation process of students, which shows that classroom education alone is not enough. School teachers, especially ideological and theoretical teachers, should set an example, strictly restrain themselves, set an example for the majority of students and set a good example. Schools should also adopt flexible and diverse forms of education, organize students to personally investigate and study, visit and inspect, etc., so that students can truly experience and feel in practice. In addition, parents' opinions and suggestions will also play a certain role in college students' mate selection. As parents? Expect your son to succeed and your daughter to succeed? But? Longfeng? Not proportional to the amount of money. Parents should help their children master the basic manners and ways of interpersonal communication, improve their awareness of self-protection and enable them to stand on their own feet.
(C) improve the self-cultivation of college students
As contemporary college students, as builders and successors of 2 1 century, college students have the obligation and responsibility to establish a correct view of marriage and love. College students should be strict with themselves, regard like-minded people as their partners, let go of the fetters of material interests, correct their love views and treat their feelings seriously. In addition, college students should realize that love itself is a very serious matter, and they should use China traditional culture to restrain themselves, instead of being half-hearted and harming others. College students should also have the ability to correctly face and deal with lovelorn, and don't go from lovelorn to extreme.
Although there are some problems in the love view of some female college students in contemporary colleges and universities, we have reason to believe that these problems will be solved through the efforts of society, schools, families and female college students themselves, and female college students will form the socialist love view expected by society, thus contributing to their own development, the construction of colleges and universities and even the healthy development of the whole society.
A 2000-word college love psychology paper, analyzing the love problems of contemporary college students.
It is a common phenomenon for contemporary college students to fall in love. Understanding the essence of love and its position in life is the basis of establishing a correct view of love, and it is also the premise for contemporary college students to steer the boat of love cautiously. The author analyzes the love problems of contemporary college students from four aspects: the driving force, psychological characteristics, types and cultivating healthy love psychology and behavior.
Keywords: contemporary college students' love problems
First, the driving force of contemporary college students' love
Love is a process of mutual admiration and cultivation of love between the opposite sex under the interaction of physiological and environmental factors. Love is not born. A person's pursuit of love will only come into being at a certain stage of physiological development, and it will be influenced by environmental factors.
Mature body
The average age of college students is about 20 years old, and they are in the mature stage of sexual and physiological development. The vast majority of college students have completed the key step of sexual maturity in middle school. The maturity of sexual physiology provides a physiological basis for college students to fall in love.
(2) Environmental factors
The change of environment before and after the college entrance examination has a special influence on college students' love. Before entering school, due to the pressure of study and the interference of school and family, the throb of youth was suppressed and could not be released. After entering the school, the school has no ban, and parents can't directly interfere. The opposite sex in a free state, the need to get along in the same study life, the need for pleasure and vanity provide an objective environment for college students to fall in love.
Second, the psychological characteristics of contemporary college students in love
(A) mutual beautification
Men and women beautify and attract each other, and both sides feel comfortable. Always give everything to each other with the mark of love, and give each other the qualities they want to appear.
(2) Exclusivity
Form a system of special enjoyment and intimacy, and instinctively resist others from getting close to their love objects. It shows that people involved in their system are very sensitive, hostile and prone to contradictions.
(3) volatility
It is easy to have ideological problems when you are in love? You're the only one in my world? This idea. It often fluctuates due to the emotional changes of the other party. This ups and downs of emotional changes can easily affect physical and mental health.
be on an impulse
When in love, people's cognitive activities tend to shrink, their rational analysis ability is restrained, their habitual behavior is destroyed, their self-control ability is weakened, and it is easy to restrain their behavior and correctly evaluate the significance and consequences of their behavior.
Third, the types of college students' love.
(1) fly with me. They basically have mature personalities and correct views on love, and can rationally guide love and correctly handle the relationship between love and learning, affection and love, and love and sex.
(2) Affordable living. Basically, this type of lovers have clear life goals. This kind of love is rational and realistic, and determining the relationship causes less controversy.
(3) Fashion comparison type. In some colleges and universities, love has become a fashion and casual. Most students fall in love to prove their charm. Because of their lack of purpose and serious attitude, they regard falling in love as a kind of spiritual compensation. Didn't think that much? Separate for an excuse.
(4) playmate consumption. This type of students often say:? It's not true love, but life is too boring and there is no confidant. I want to find a partner to have fun with. ? They often feel spiritually lonely. In order to make up for their spiritual emptiness, they are eager to associate with friends of the opposite sex. Love? Become a spiritual need at close range.
(5) pursuing romance. This kind of students are full of emotions, and the psychology of chasing and spying on love and romance is getting stronger and stronger. Romantic love has a strong attraction to them. They generally think that the excitement before and after the flowers is more colorful and lasting than the responsibility and obligation of love. Immersed in the world of two people, they forget the group and even forget their studies.
(6) Utilitarianism and secularity. Influenced by bad social factors, the premise of love is often the other person's family property, status, reputation, place, occupation, social ability and meekness.
Fourthly, cultivate healthy love psychology and behavior.
(A) establish a correct view of love
Shakespeare once said: Love is not sweet words in the shade of trees or in the peach blossom garden, nor faint tears, nor stubborn compulsion, but spiritual communication based on * * *? . Therefore, the most important conditions in the choice of lovers should be like-minded, ideological and moral, career ideal and interest in life. Secondly, college students should put their career first, put the relationship between love and career right, and can't spend all their precious time in love and relax their study; At the same time, we should understand that love is a kind of mutual understanding, mutual trust, responsibility and dedication.
(B) the development of healthy love behavior
As Marx said:? In my opinion, true love is manifested in the lover's implicit, humble and even shy attitude towards his idol, not in the casual expression of enthusiasm and premature intimacy? . In today's university campus, college students must develop healthy love behavior. Love should be elegant, civilized in language and decent in behavior; Good at controlling feelings and acting rationally; It is necessary to avoid the influence of social unhealthy phenomena, limit love behavior within social norms, and let love develop along a healthy road.
(C) the ability and responsibility to cultivate love
Makarenko, a famous educator in the former Soviet Union, said: The power of love can only exist in the non-sexual quality of human beings. The wider the scope of his non-sex, the nobler his sex? . Develop the ability of love and cultivate the responsibility of love. Attention should be paid to the cultivation of selfless dedication and the ability to deal with contradictions. Only by being responsible for your lover and society can you create a happy marriage.
(4) Improve the ability to withstand setbacks in love.
It is very important to improve the endurance of love frustration for college students' mental health. College students' love is restricted by many factors, and they will encounter various twists and turns in the process of pursuing love. When love is frustrated, use reason to control feelings and find ways and means to solve the problem through rational analysis; Through proper emotional adjustment, catharsis and transfer, the pain can be alleviated.
References:
Zhu Yongping, Wang Yanan. A Brief Analysis of College Students' Love Outlook and Love Psychology [J]. Journal of Zhejiang Ocean University: Humanities Edition, 200 1, 18(4):40-43.
[2] Zhang Ying. College students' love view and its ethical thinking [D]. Changsha: Hunan Normal University, 2006.
[3] Xiao Xiaohong. Study on the characteristics and development trend of contemporary college students' love [D]. Wuhan: Huazhong Normal University, 2006
[4] Li Wei. Analysis of love status and influencing factors of medical college students [D]. Taiyuan: Shanxi Medical University, 2009
[5] Ding Xilong. Analysis of the current situation of college students' views on marriage and love and research on coping education [D]. Dalian: Dalian Maritime University, 2007
[6] Zhou Haitao. College students' attitude towards love and its correlation with sexual mental health [D]. Chongqing: Southwest University, 2007.
& gt& gt& gt More exciting next page? College love and love theory?