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Go your own way and let others talk! -Dante

People who often ask for directions will never get lost. -Polish proverb

You should listen patiently to other people's opinions and seriously consider whether the person who accuses you is justified. -At most? Sparrows

Trust everyone, doubt everyone, their mistakes are the same. -senac

Faced with all kinds of statements, some people think: Who should I trust? Some people think that it is most important to believe in yourself. Please take "believe in yourself and listen to others' opinions" as the topic, make up your mind, choose your own style, write your own topic, and write an article of not less than 800 words, and the content must be within the scope of the topic.

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The title of China's first composition is "Believe in yourself and listen to other people's opinions". The relationship between "believing in yourself" and "listening to other people's opinions" is not equal. If you say that you should not only believe in yourself, but also listen to other people's opinions, it is contradictory. Of the two, you must make an either-or choice. In other words, in a specific article, you can only choose one of the viewpoints to write.

If you agree with the idea of "believe in yourself", then you must try to find examples for it. These examples are both positive and negative; Both ancient and modern. And some examples are analyzed. For example, there are ancient cases of self-recommendation, ancient cases of "honest people buying shoes" and ancient cases of contemporary college students hitting a wall in job hunting. If the article is only written here, it is still not enough. Because it will mislead people: any behavior that believes in yourself, including blind self-confidence, is also good and too dialectical. Therefore, we have to write another paragraph to clarify that we can't blindly believe in ourselves. In this regard, we can take Masu in Street Pavilion as an example. Finally, a conclusion can be drawn. (See example 1)

If you agree with the idea of "listening to other people's opinions", you must first prove it positively. A positive example is the ancient story of "remonstrating, qi king". In modern China, the * * * production party listened to the opinions of various democratic parties. Then prove it from the opposite side. The opposite example is the old story "Li Wang stopped slandering". Then turn over a new chapter and make it clear that listening to others' opinions must be combined with your own. If you don't listen to others' opinions independently, it will inevitably lead to a confused ending. In this regard, we can quote the story of the cartoon "The Old Man, the Children and the Donkey". Finally draw a conclusion. (See Example 2)

You can also contact specific people and things for analysis and discussion. For example, in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, there is a story about Guan Gong's careless loss of Jingzhou. Guan Yu lost Jingzhou, although the reason of "carelessness" is not ruled out, but there are undeniable reasons, too trusting himself and not listening to other people's opinions. It is these three fatal injuries that not only made Guan Yu lose Jingzhou, but also made the "generation of warrior saints" take their lives. (See Example 3)

[Model essay leading the way]

It is better to believe in yourself.

Whether you believe in yourself or listen to other people's opinions, if you want to find the answer from celebrities' speeches, it's all wet. Because of da? Finch tells you: "You should listen to others' opinions patiently and seriously consider whether the person who accuses you is reasonable. "That means listening to other people's opinions. Dante tells you: "Go your own way and let others talk!"! "That is to say, believe in yourself. Isn't this getting more and more confusing?

In fact, it is better to believe in yourself or listen to other people's opinions. The answer is only in your heart. Personally, I'd better believe in myself.

There used to be a very famous story of "voluntary service" in history. Mao Sui was a diner under Ping Yuanjun of the State of Zhao during the Warring States Period, and his life experience has never been known. In the emergency of attacking Zhao on a large scale, and Handan, the capital of Zhao, was besieged, I wanted to reinforce Chu and choose some people from my subordinates to go with him. At this time, Mao Sui stepped forward and volunteered to go to Chu with Yuan Jun.. The king of Chu warmly received him, but he refused to talk about sending troops to save Zhao. At this time, Mao Sui couldn't stand it anymore, so he took the initiative to persuade the king of Chu with interest. The king of Chu finally agreed to help Zhao, and the two sides formed an alliance. Why can Mao Sui stand up and recommend himself? Is that he fully believes that he has the courage and ability to convince the king of Chu. He succeeded because he believed in himself.

Did everything wrong? There is a story in "Top Left" that "Zheng people buy shoes": people want to go to a shoe store to buy a pair of shoes. Before leaving, he measured the size of his shoes with a rope and put them on the seat. When I came to the shoe store, I found that I had left my measuring rope in my seat. So I went home to get it. People said to him, "Why don't you try on your shoes with your feet?" Zheng Ren said, "I would rather believe in my own size than myself."

If honest people who buy shoes take a wrong step because they don't believe in themselves, then some contemporary college graduates lose their upcoming jobs because they don't believe in themselves when applying for jobs. A college graduate went to apply for a job, and the representative of the employer was quite satisfied after reading his materials. So I routinely asked him a few questions, such as "What are your specialties" and "What awards have you won". Who knows, he said hesitantly, he has neither special skills nor any awards. In this way, the cooked duck can still fly.

Of course, when we say we want to believe in ourselves, we are based on a correct estimate of our own strength, otherwise we will blindly believe in ourselves. Blindly believing in yourself will also be disastrous. There is such a record in the Romance of the Three Kingdoms: Zhuge Liang dispatched troops and asked who could guard the street kiosks in the military region. Ma Su stepped forward, willing to lead the troops to guard the street pavilion. Zhuge Liang repeatedly explained to him that if the street pavilion fell, the Shu army would be in danger. Ma Su thought he had gone too far and made a written pledge to fulfill a military order. Later, when I arrived at the street pavilion, I made a serious mistake in arranging troops, refused to listen to others' discouragement, and finally lost the street pavilion. Gal, with the loss of the street pavilion, he also sent his own life away.

Therefore, we say: Believe in yourself, but not blindly.

Listen carefully to both of them.

There is an idiom, the first half of which is called "listen to others to make it clear", which means that only by listening to others' opinions can politics be made clear. There is some truth in this statement.

There is a story in The Warring States Policy in which Zou Ji satirizes coachable, the king of Qi. Zou Ji lied to himself from his wife's preference for himself, his little wife's fear of himself, and the requirements of his guests. He has been deceived. Seeing that the King of Qi, as the king of a country, should be deceived more seriously, he remonstrated with the King of Qi and stated his interests. The King of Qi felt that what he said was very reasonable, so he ordered to speak publicly and stipulated that different rewards could be obtained according to different ways of expressing opinions. Now, there are quite a few people who give their opinions, and they are "crowded". After a while, there were fewer opinions. After a while, even if I want to comment, there is nothing to mention. With the opening of the road, Qi's politics has become increasingly clear and its diplomacy has achieved great success. "Yan, Zhao, Han and Wei all turned to Qi."

In the long-term ruling process, China's * * * production party and the democratic parties have formed a close relationship of "long-term * * * existence, mutual supervision, sincere treatment, honor and disgrace and * * *". Why does the * * * production party attach so much importance to the democratic parties? Because in the process of sharing weal and woe with the democratic parties, the * * * production party is fully aware of the supervisory role played by the democratic parties in the ruling of the * * * production party. It is precisely because the * * * production party can listen to the opinions of the democratic parties with an open mind and constantly improve and perfect its work that it can quickly correct all kinds of "Left" mistakes since the "Cultural Revolution", shift its focus to economic construction, and lead the people of the whole country to achieve great achievements in socialist construction.

On the contrary, if you refuse to accept the correct opinions of others, you may lead to the danger of national subjugation. In Mandarin, there is a story about Zhao Gong telling Li Wang to stop slandering him. Zhou Liwang was a tyrant, and China people spoke highly of him. Li Wang took a "stop" and "stop" attitude towards the opinions from the people in China, that is, he tried his best to silence the people and didn't want to listen to their opinions at all. Minister Zhao Gong advised him to proceed from the national interests, but he just wouldn't listen and continued to take a high-handed policy towards people's opinions. Three years later, Zhou Liwang was finally ousted and ended up as a "rogue".

When we say that we should listen to other people's opinions, we don't mean that we can blindly trust others without our own opinions. There is a group of cartoons entitled "The Old Man, Children and Donkeys". At first, the old man rode the donkey and the child led the donkey. Others are talking: this old man is really outrageous, riding a donkey himself and letting the children walk. So the old man went to lead the donkey and let the child ride the donkey. Others are talking about it again: this child is really outrageous, riding a donkey by himself and letting the old man walk. So the old man and the child got on the donkey. Others are saying: What's wrong with the old and the young? What happened to the donkey? Finally, the old man and the children got off the donkey and carried it away. Others are saying: there is something wrong with this old and young brain. Some donkeys don't ride, but they have to walk on their backs. In the end, the old man and the children were stupid and at a loss. In fact, if you are an independent person, you will not care about other people's comments, and naturally you will not feel at a loss.

Therefore, we believe that "listening to the whole" is conditional, and this condition is to "listen to the whole" with your own opinions.

Example 3 "Lost Jingzhou"

There is a saying that "Guan Gong was careless and lost Jingzhou". I think it is not comprehensive to blame Guan Yu's loss of Jingzhou only on "carelessness". In my opinion, Guan Yu's loss of Jingzhou has two other factors besides "carelessness". These two factors are too trusting in yourself and not listening to other people's opinions.

Let's talk about trusting yourself. There is nothing wrong with believing in yourself, not to mention Guan Yu's belief in his own capital. If nothing else, it is beyond the ability of ordinary people to "kill Hua Xiong with warm wine", "ride a thousand miles alone", "go through five customs and cut off six generals" and "go to the meeting alone". However, there must always be a "degree" in everything, so believe in yourself. Beyond this "degree", it is not "self-confidence" but "conceit". Perhaps Guan Yu's glorious history made him overconfident and became "conceited".

For example, when Wu Dong tricked Monroe into getting sick, he crossed the river with a bunch of white people and attacked Jingzhou. Guan Ping and Liao Hua told Guan Yu about it, and Guan Yu said, "This enemy is spreading rumors and confusing our army! Monroe of Soochow is dying, and the obedient son Lu Xun will take his place, don't worry! " Guan Yu, who was still wounded by an arrow, wanted to meet the general Huang Xu. Guan Ping remonstrated, "Don't argue with the enemy until your father is ill." Guan Yu said brazenly, "I think Huang Xu is old and knows his ability. If he doesn't retreat, I will cut off his head first to warn Wei. "I can't believe that fighting Huang Xu for more than 80 times has made me feel overwhelmed. Had to be defeated. Another example is Guan Yu trapped in Maicheng, trying to break through the path. Wangfu Sima remonstrated: "There is an ambush in the path, so you can take the main road." Guan Yu said, "Although there is an ambush, why should I be afraid! General Zhu Ran and Pan Zhang were ambushed, but Guan and Guan Ping were both captured. It is precisely because Guan Yu thought that he had gone too far, became "conceited", missed the opportunity to save the defeat again and again, and finally sent himself to the point of no return.

Besides, I don't listen to other people's opinions People's opinions can be divided into two categories: one is correct and reasonable, and the other is incorrect and unreasonable. However, it is not obvious whether this is correct or not. In quite a few cases, correct and reasonable opinions are rejected as incorrect and unreasonable opinions.

For example, Liu Tongtong went to Sichuan, leaving Guan Yu to guard Jingzhou, and Zhuge Liang gave him the "eight-character mantra" to guard Jingzhou. This is "Sun Quan in the south and Cao Cao in the north". But Guan Yu did not take the "eight-character mantra" seriously. Cao Cao sent Man Chong to Wu Dong to lobby Sun Quan to deal with Guan Yu. Sun Quanyi hasn't decided yet. Zhu Gejin, the counselor, made a plan to let Guan Yu's daughter get married in the name of the son of the marquis of Wu. If Guan Yu agreed to this marriage, he refused Cao Cao with Guan Yu; If Guan Yu refuses, help Cao Cao take Jingzhou. When Zhu Gejin met Guan Yu, he said he knew about it, but Guan Yu said, "Will my tiger girl marry her son?" Rejected peace in Wu Dong and opposed Wu Dong from then on. In this way, Guan Yu had to deal with both Cao Cao and Sun Quan, so that Jingzhou was attacked and Maicheng was trapped. For another example, Guan Yu won Xiangyang and awarded the army to comfort the people. When he was intoxicated with the joy of victory, Sima Wang Fu, who was embedded in the army, provided him with a message that Monroe was stationed in Wu Dong and often meant to annex Jingzhou. Although Guan Yu also agreed, he did not adopt Wang Fu's correct opinion on specific personnel arrangements. Zhao Lei, who doesn't need to be "honest and honest", uses Pan Jun, who is "more taboo and more profitable", to defend the river defense. It is precisely because of this major personnel arrangement mistake that Lv Meng's plan of crossing the river to attack Jingzhou was realized.

Therefore, Guan Yu's loss of Jingzhou is not only "careless".