If you always rely on the dream bubbles of the past to escape from fear, and want to repeat the old play, the bad one wants to perform well again, and the good one wants to continue, you will fall into eternal fear, because everything is a foregone conclusion, and the present is true.

Therefore, it is necessary to:

(1) Live in the present.

Don't delve into the past and let it be shelved. As time goes by, as long as you are moving forward, the past will fade away automatically.

Focus on the present, love the present, do only one thing at a time, love only one person at a time, and keep your heart from greed.

(2) Accept what happened yesterday.

What you have experienced, whether good or bad, can't make you become you without any connection. Therefore, the past is the past, as long as it is fully accepted, it will become a nutrient for growth, and you can still look forward to the future.

2. The external pressure is only because of Excellence.

When a person suppresses you more and more, thus causing his own fear, he might as well calm down first:

(1) Understand the purpose of others to suppress you.

Think about whether he is really good to himself, if not, ask yourself:

Why does he want to suppress me?

Is it because I threatened his position?

Trying to control me?

Most of the time, people put you down, not because you are not good enough, but because you are too dazzling, so there is no need to be afraid. The more frustrated you are, the more progress you can make.

(2) Don't be too affectionate.

If your oppressor causes you discomfort and panic, you don't need to be overly emotional to understand his difficulties. If you don't have a perfect thinking system to protect yourself, you are likely to be attracted by the other person and take his feelings as your own.

The correct way is to show your anger and return your frustration and resentment to him. Because there will be two in everything, so the other party won't push your luck next time.

3. Accept and move.

If a person always wants everyone to live according to his standards, it is equivalent to

The act of attaching one's body and mind to others. If others go against their wishes, they will fall into fear of losing control.

On the other hand, when you start to accept other people's different scripts and understand that no role can't achieve yourself, everything will be beautiful.

In the face of others, you just need to be yourself, gather energy, don't look directly at people's inner darkness, don't try to control anything, just follow your heart and live a glorious life, and then you will influence others.

What you need to do is not to control people's hearts, but to attract them.

4. Seize the opportunity, regardless of winning or losing.

(1) Less negative presuppositions.

You can seize any opportunity you can meet.

I feel that I can't answer, because fear has occupied my heart and I feel:

I can't reach my ability. I'm afraid I can't do it well and make others laugh.

What many people can't do well, how can they do well?

So understand two things:

You're not standing in the center of the stage. Whether you win or lose, it means nothing to others. What do you think others will think of you, just "what do you think".

When you do anything and get along with anyone, not everyone is ok, but you work hard to make things ok.

(2) do it first.

Facing opportunities and fears