In fact, we have a lot of conscious or unconscious soliloquies every day, and there will be a voice in our heads. Sometimes, it only exists in our hearts, and sometimes we blurt it out. We can think that talking to ourselves is actually our subconscious talking. Freud believed that it is difficult for us to perceive the existence of the subconscious, but the subconscious can affect the way we look at life. How to understand it?

For the same thing, different subconscious will produce different self-dialogues. For example, the sky suddenly began to rain heavily, and some people would swear, "What bad luck, it's raining again." Some people will laugh, "Well, you can have a good sleep."

It is difficult for us to control what happens objectively, but we can control our own interpretation of something. How we talk to ourselves will directly affect our mentality and subsequent behavior. Therefore, proper and correct self-dialogue is not only a "quirk", but also a self-management strategy with high emotional intelligence, which has positive significance.

How to use the power of self-talk? In the book The Power of Self-Dialogue, Bill Wayne suggested that we can use self-dialogue as a powerful tool to motivate ourselves to achieve our goals in life. First of all, we should realize that there is a lot of self-talk in our minds every day. Usually, we don't realize the specific meaning of these conversations. At this stage, we should pay more attention to what our subconscious will say to us in different situations.

You can even record these "voices". Although this way seems a bit "split", only when we really listen to these "words" will we understand our true views on ourselves.

For example, those negative people may find that they are so harsh and harsh on themselves. They often say these words, "You are such a failure." "You don't deserve this." "You are too fat" and so on. Then, if you think about it carefully, you will find how unreasonable these ideas are.

After realizing this problem, you can consciously prepare some positive words to replace the previous self-criticism words. For example, "You look great", "I am brave, I can stand up again" and "Never mind, do better next time." At first, you may not be used to treating yourself like this. Then, you can try to put yourself in the position of a "close friend" and imagine how you will treat your friends after the same thing happens. Slowly, you will find that you can treat yourself as a friend.

Many times, correct and moderate self-talk can help us improve our self-evaluation and give up harsh judgment. We can also talk to ourselves to help us see our own advantages, improve our sense of self-identity, and be more relaxed in interpersonal communication.

. How can a person who doesn't even like himself really like others? However, it is best to change everything from this moment on. Please say to yourself, "You are so cute!" " " .

I hope my answer is helpful to you ~