Hello, seeing your problem, I think maybe you are often troubled by procrastination in real life. At the same time, procrastination seems to be a "brand of the times", and everyone will have some procrastination more or less. As a psychological counselor, trying to analyze from the perspective of intrinsic motivation may lead to the following situations:

1, pursuing perfection. Most of the reasons for this delay are based on my desire to do better and accomplish something in my most satisfactory state. For example, some people can finish their papers and work summaries in a period of time. Because of the pursuit of perfection, I constantly struggle and hesitate, constantly pursue perfection, and constantly polish it until the last moment.

2. Lack of motivation. Most of the reasons for this delay are based on not wanting to finish, but being forced to finish because of having to do it. For example, some people don't want to go on blind dates, but at the same time they have to go because of the urging and arrangement of their elders. Therefore, they delay blind date again and again, even if they go on blind date, they will be passive, or they will take the initiative to delay blind date.

3. Can't resist the temptation. Most of the reasons for this procrastination are that I can't resist the temptation of the outside world and often use my procrastination time for other purposes. For example, some people want to lose weight, but because of things that attract them more, such as food, playing games, shopping and so on. They have been slow to implement the weight loss method of "keeping your mouth shut and holding your legs".

4. Governance "chaos". Most of the reasons for this delay are based on my lack of self-awareness. I want to do too many things and can't choose. I want to do everything for three days, and I want to dry the net for two days, but I can't finish anything. For example, some people not only want to finish their English study every day, but also want to exercise every day, and they also want to bring goods online for live broadcast. Time management is chaotic and I don't know what I want, so all kinds of delays are inevitable.

To sum up, procrastination is mostly because our own goals are unclear, and we often don't know how to finish a thing in the way we expect. Therefore, frequent and habitual procrastination makes us feel very annoyed, and even called it "procrastination". In fact, there is no such disease as "procrastination" whether it is physical or mental illness. This shows how much procrastination affects us.

First of all, know what you need most at present. For example, for students who want to graduate, completing graduation thesis may be the most needed; For people who care about their weight, perhaps what they need most now is to control their weight. So we can try to sort out what is most needed at the moment, which can be people, things and things.

Then score what you want to do according to the actual situation, and the thing that needs to be done most has the highest score. Because "there is always a gap between ideal and reality", for example, students who want to graduate may still have to review for the postgraduate entrance examination or find a job, so you can try to combine "what you want in your heart" with "what you actually need" to make a more realistic priority.

Finally, according to the priorities, make a feasible step-by-step plan for everything. You can give yourself a small reward for not completing a step, and you can also give yourself a small punishment for not completing it. If the reward and punishment mechanism can be carried out in the form of pairing and mutual supervision, then the effect may be better.

I wish you an early farewell to procrastination and find something you really like and are willing to do without procrastination. Let's go

In fact, everyone has procrastination, including many successful people, so there is no need to have too heavy psychological burden.

Darwin's theory of evolution took ten years to write.

Zuckerberg of Facebook said that when he wants to play, he will be crazy for a few days. When I want to do something, I will work day and night for several days. Never think about doing things while playing.

Therefore, it is normal to have the habit of procrastination. Don't blame yourself too much. Just finish the work before the task expires.

In fact, everyone in life has a certain degree of procrastination, which is normal.

But procrastination is very serious, and you need to adjust your behavior.

Reasons for delay

How to recuperate

Procrastinators tend to procrastinate deliberately because they are addicted to the short-term joy of procrastination or the excitement of completing tasks on deadlines.

To change their cognitive concept, we should first make individuals aware of the harm and heavy cost of procrastination, and rationally analyze the negative consequences caused by the temporary failure to complete the task, such as irritability, anxiety, self-blame, guilt and other negative emotions, as well as the disadvantages to their long-term development.

Urge patients to build endurance, pay attention to long-term goals, and understand the importance of completing tasks in time.

Individuals with low self-efficacy should believe that they have the power to complete the task, establish the belief of success, and establish the internal driving force to complete the task and pursue success.

Perfectionists should abandon the blind pursuit and communication of high goals, and those who are afraid of difficulties should abandon the idea of incompetence and inferiority. In my opinion, the evaluation of completing the task does not mean the evaluation of the individual. They should strive to become rational in cognition, have a clear self-concept, believe in themselves, become active in dealing with tasks, endure their dislike of tasks, imagine their sense of accomplishment after completing tasks, cultivate a sense of time, overcome their laziness, and overcome their procrastination in attitude and thought.

Neural association method connects action with happiness and inaction with pain.

Give you 2 1 day to get rid of it, because it takes several days to get rid of bad habits, and you must stick to it. Can you do it? If you can't do it, continue to delay.