The most common "virtue" is how to treat others and how to "fulfill" others; The most important "virtue" is how to look at yourself and how to "become" yourself.
The ancients said, "Inherent virtue is better than Ofuse" and "Things are born with virtue". What everyone gets from "Heaven" is that Zhang San is Zhang San and Li Si is the attribute of Li Si. Our chances of becoming the founder of Tang Zongsong and the emperor of Qin, Han and Wu are probably slim, but with the road at our feet, our chances of becoming ourselves should always be much higher.
The most common "virtue" is how to treat others, how to "perfect" others, and the most important "virtue" is how to treat yourself and how to "become" yourself. "As you sow, you reap what you sow", and a melon seed "makes a positive result". Instead of going to heaven or fairyland, I became my own fruit-watermelon with skin, meat and melon seeds. This is called "endless life". The word "morality" is nothing more than a "Tao", a "way" for us to look at ourselves and treat others. "Self-realization" is a long and difficult process, and what we often face is how to be kind to others. "Be kind to others" is nothing more than the following:
Respect it without interference: a world without love is unimaginable, but unfortunately, many tragedies are directed in the name of "love", at least conflicts and regrets. Because love and being loved in the usual sense are often understood as giving or getting, and giving often evolves into icing on the cake, and getting often becomes a natural possession, so there is unhappiness, ungrateful or even rejection of lovers. What the author appreciates is another kind of seemingly "indifferent" love, in fact, it fully respects others-does not interfere or hinder others. The most fundamental reason is that everyone, even our own children, is a "comfortable" and independent person. Even if we raise them, we can't change their freedom and independence in the final analysis. Our most reasonable attitude towards them is undoubtedly "born without" and "raised without dependence". For those who don't do this, we have no reason to tell others what to do, no matter how much we love them.
Help from a heart that doesn't count: People often need our help in life. If you can, please don't hesitate, especially don't settle accounts. I always feel indebted to others, always "remembering" the returns of others, and I am very tired of others and myself. "What are you complaining about?" This kindness is unconditional and has no burden. We want to "accumulate virtue and do good", but we have not accumulated capital to enter heaven, but only achieved kindness to others.
Tolerance and indifference: Everyone is bound to encounter each other on the same road, so tolerance is the lubricant of life. We will tolerate others and make "communication" and "communication" smooth, thus achieving peace. So tolerance is a kind of confidence and wisdom.
Persuade with the heart of not hiding: every individual has his limitations, and everyone has such and such problems. When you diagnose those problems and think they may lead to the wrong direction, you should convince them frankly. This is where the so-called "friends" are rare.
We are talking about "being kind to others" here, but when you accept the kindness and help of others, don't take it for granted. In fact, Yongquan is just a metaphor, and your reward should ultimately be recognition and promotion of goodness. At the same time, everyone's responsibility for their own behavior and maximum independence are the most valuable contributions to society, and "parasitism" is the beginning of degeneration.
Some people will say that you don't interfere, thieves steal things and robbers rob money; If you don't pay the bill, the liar will succeed; If you don't care, the villain will have vitality; If you don't hide, your friends will be jealous. In my opinion, the problem of morality is actually a problem of "gentlemen", but we emphasize the universality (general public) and dynamic (changeable) of gentlemen. For those who are out of the moral bottom line, there is no choice but to regulate or sanction by law. In fact, those "villains" and "bad guys" generally haggle over every ounce, fearing that "being kind to others" will harm their own interests, and then develop into harming the interests of others and even killing their own lives. "I think people have more; The more you are with others, the more you are yourself. What you give to others is a beautiful consciousness rather than any concrete material, but what you get is the promotion of the realm, the openness of your mind and the peace of your soul-you really "become" yourself.