My earliest memory of smoking is grandpa's hookah and pipe. There are crushed dry tobacco leaves in the small bag. Later, my father used paper rolls to dry and pack cigarettes.
First, the reasons why teenagers smoke
Teenagers who try to smoke are influenced by gang pressure. Adolescence is a transitional stage in the development of heterosexual relations in the same-sex peer group stage.
Smoking in a group is a symbolic behavior, equivalent to a warlord. Under the pressure of identity and group identity, many teenagers try to smoke.
You can imagine a group of bury love families killing Matt, getting together to light a cigarette and choking to cough. Smoking, like exaggerated hairstyles, is the symbol of their small group.
Second, several reasons why adults smoke:
Smoking can relieve anxiety. This is an escape strategy. This is a relatively negative emotional management strategy. I clearly remember that a classmate and I went to see the thesis advisor. The teacher said that we were in a hurry to open the office door and let us sit down, saying, don't worry, be steady. He took out his cigarette and asked if we smoked.
2. Social tools. Giving someone a cigarette and lighting it is a social ceremony. In our north, it represents a variety of meanings, such as showing off and starting an important topic.
3. Delimit private space. The smell of cigarettes can obviously change the smell environment around you. Some people use it to declare their private space, and even to invade other people's private space. Smoking without permission is actually invading other people's private space, which is one of the reasons why second-hand smoke is so annoying. For some people, being shrouded in smoke can give them a sense of security.
4. Smoking addiction. Smoking addiction is more complicated. Habitual use of smoking to escape anxiety, coupled with nicotine addiction, coupled with the needs of social ceremonies, has created an addiction that cannot be quit.
5. Smoking is the basic behavioral characteristic of "mouth desire period" personality.
According to Freud's psychoanalysis, a heavy smoker belongs to a craving personality. There is no good or bad personality. They pay special attention to oral irritation, like smoking and drinking, eating greasy food and so on.
Thirdly, once again, I don't like smoking.
I don't like smoking myself. I hate people who smoke next to me. The reason I hate it is the third case, my private space has been invaded.
If you smoke in front of me without saying hello, I will be very angry. In my opinion, you are like a puppy, just looking for a place to lift your hind legs and pee to delimit your private sphere. Only consider your own needs, regardless of the feelings of others.
Or you are like a little animal frightened by firecrackers. You have to light a cigarette quickly and cover yourself with nicotine and smoke, as if you have found a sense of security.
Nowadays, smoking is not only prohibited in hospitals and schools in cities. There are also no smoking signs in large shopping malls, conference rooms and offices. I take the high-speed train. It is illegal to smoke on the high-speed train. Ordinary railway passenger cars, smoking will also be reminded to the junction of the carriages. In a word, smoking is annoying and disliked everywhere.
For friends who use smoking to calm their inner emotions, I suggest learning the methods of emotional adjustment. Often use the strategy of avoiding emotions, and you will get deeper and deeper.
Fourth, adjust emotions reasonably.
If you feel flustered, upset, or overwhelmed by anger, under normal circumstances, you will forcibly suppress your emotions and have a cigarette to calm down.
This is also a picture that often appears in film and television dramas and novels. This has almost become a meme to escape emotions.
This strategy of adjusting emotions is a typical strategy of escaping emotions. This is actually unhealthy and will accumulate a lot of negative emotions. In the long run, it will either make you more and more accustomed to criticizing and belittling yourself and habitually blaming yourself; Or it will make you more and more irritable, and vent your anger on people who are weaker than you at the first opportunity.
So what should we do? First of all, feel emotions, feel physical discomfort, such as breathing rhythm, and find uncomfortable parts of the body; Second, accept this feeling and allow it to exist; Third, continue to do your thing with this uncomfortable feeling and always be aware of your physical feelings.
What's the effect? You just have to try.
5. What else do you want to know about smoking?
I have personally experienced secondhand smoke for more than 20 years, and I have also studied the physiological basis and psychological principle of smoking. If you have any stories about smoking that you want to share with me, or have any questions, please leave a message in the comments section. I am willing to share my experience.
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