First, fully understand yourself.
Self-knowledge can bring self-confidence, self-improvement and success. The premise of mental health is to know yourself comprehensively and objectively, know your potential and advantages, and foster strengths and avoid weaknesses. If you can't fully and correctly understand yourself, there will be two kinds of psychology: one is inferiority and the other is conceit.
Inferiority is a kind of self-denial, that is, lack of confidence in yourself, dissatisfaction with yourself, denial of yourself, and always focusing on your own shortcomings, deficiencies and mistakes.
Conceit is a kind of self-expansion, that is, overconfidence. On the one hand, if you are excellent, think you are radiant, great and narcissistic, and look down on other students, it is difficult to be psychologically compatible with your classmates, which will affect his interpersonal communication.
The above two kinds of psychology are caused by the lack of comprehensive and correct understanding of themselves. The younger generation can only succeed if they know themselves, analyze themselves and know themselves. So how do you know yourself comprehensively?
We should know ourselves from three aspects: physical self, psychological self and social self.
Physiological self is an individual's understanding and experience of his own body and physiological state. This is what we are born with, so be clear. Where there is material, there must be spirit, so the second aspect of self is the spiritual self, that is, the psychological self. Psychological self is an individual's knowledge, experience and feelings about his own psychological activities, personality characteristics and psychological quality, including his own intelligence, personality, temperament, sexual interest, emotions, skills, outlook on life and values. People are the sum of social relations, and people can't live without society, so the third aspect of self is the social self. Social self is an individual's understanding, experience and desire for the relationship between himself and external objective things, including his understanding of his role, position, power, obligation, responsibility and strength in the objective environment and various social relations.
Self is the subject and object of knowing self. To make the understanding comprehensive and correct, we must rely on various correct reference frames. The specific methods to obtain the reference system are:
1, know yourself in practice
Middle school students give full play to their talents through practical activities, and are fully developed and displayed in physical strength, intelligence and morality. Your strengths and weaknesses, strengths and weaknesses can be found and verified in the activities.
2. Know yourself by listening to other people's comments.
This is the most basic way for people to know themselves. For example, when they do something, if they always get affirmation and praise from others, then they are better in this respect; On the contrary, it is even worse. Of course, when listening to other people's comments, you can't completely accept them or completely deny them. You should pay attention to the comments of people who are close to you. Attention should be paid to many consistent evaluations; We should pay attention to the analysis of the attitudes and viewpoints held by the evaluator, and then selectively accept the evaluation of others to form a correct self-concept.
3. Know yourself in introspection.
The ancients said, "three rescues a day", that is to say, I take the initiative to have an inner dialogue with myself. The psychological activities of middle school students are gradually enriched, and self has gradually become the center of attention. Self-awareness and self-observation need to actively create conditions for themselves and create a peaceful, calm and calm state of mind for themselves, which is conducive to objectively and fairly analyzing and understanding themselves.
Second, strive to improve yourself.
Self-improvement is a process in which individuals consciously plan their behavior goals, actively adjust their behaviors, and actively transform their personality on the basis of self-awareness and self-acceptance, so that their personality can develop in an all-round way to meet social requirements. Self-improvement is the most important way of individual self-education. In fact, it is a process of establishing an ideal self reasonably and striving to improve the real self, or a process of actively changing the real self to achieve the ideal self.
(A), establish a correct ideal self
Establishing ideal self refers to determining the development goal of self-education according to social needs and personal characteristics on the basis of understanding and accepting self. To establish a correct ideal self, the key is to be familiar with and understand the society, understand the law of social development, establish a correct outlook on life, and establish appropriate social and life coordinates for the ideal self.
(2) I try to improve the reality.
Improving the realistic self means that teenagers constantly revise their behaviors and corresponding psychological activities to make them develop towards the correct ideal self. The specific way is as follows:
1. Improve yourself by making plans.
Doing things according to the plan can enhance your execution. If you want to improve yourself, you must first set a scientific short-term goal and long-term goal according to your own development direction. We should do our planned things well every day and persevere, so that we can gradually get rid of some of our shortcomings more or less, and also become a strong-willed and executive person.
2. Adjust yourself through self-report.
Self-report refers to people reporting to themselves the process and results of personal activities, personal behaviors and the personality qualities shown by these behaviors. Before self-reporting, we should make a systematic and detailed record of our own behavior and activity results, and comprehensively and profoundly analyze and identify the causal consistency between behavior and personality quality. This kind of self-report helps to improve the objectivity of self-knowledge. Temporary self-report is a person's self-report in a short time, that is, one day, several days or a week.