Besides the high cost of parenting and education, the process of pregnancy and childbirth is also extremely difficult, painful and bitter.
Some people say, "It's easy to have children, but difficult to raise them!" Half of this sentence is wrong, in fact, it is very difficult to have children! I gave birth to a second child in 2020. I will take the fact that we gave birth to a second child in Sixian County, Hebei Province as an example to talk about the difficulty and pain of giving birth to a second child.
First, pregnancy is expensive and difficult step by step.
1, pregnant women must go to the hospital for obstetric examination one to two weeks after pregnancy, and do it for one morning or even one day. Fill in the form and hand in the card, ask and handle all kinds of complicated procedures, and then there are blood tests, urine tests, color Doppler ultrasound, heart rate, bone mineral density and other tests. There are many kinds and long queues, and it is difficult to produce results. Some test results won't come out for several days.
In our county maternity hospital, if all prenatal pregnancy tests are carried out according to the requirements of the hospital, the total cost is about 1 10,000 yuan. If you don't go to the check-up on time, the doctor will tell you that if the pregnant woman has any problems, it has nothing to do with the hospital.
Generally speaking, pregnancy tests need at least one person to accompany them. Both of them are busy, anxious and in a bad mood. Not only does it take manpower and time, but the cost is by no means a decimal, and the 10 thousand pregnancy test fee is not reimbursed by cooperative medical care.
Second, during childbirth, I was scared and at a loss.
1. Due to the expected date of delivery, I was hospitalized. Because it was a natural birth, I was born on the sixth day of hospitalization. Pay 200 yuan to accompany the delivery, and the delivery room can accompany the pregnant woman to give birth. He entered the delivery room at seven in the morning and was born at two in the afternoon. The process is best described in five words: anxious waiting, extreme suffering, thrilling, heartbreaking and unforgettable!
Some people say that "it is easy to be born, but difficult to raise". Only those who didn't witness the delivery would say such ignorant things! If a lesbian gives birth naturally, it is strongly recommended that her husband accompany her. )
2. During the production period, at least two people should be accompanied, one in the delivery room and the other waiting and responding outside, ready to send an application at any time after running. When the delivery is completed, the mother and baby will be sent back to the ward, and the mother and baby will be looked after separately.
After the child is born, he must stay in hospital for a few days. In the meantime, he has to fill out various forms, as well as blood tests and the like. Every department, upstairs and downstairs, before and after running, sent this and that, and even issued vaccination certificates, birth certificates and so on. And almost ran off his leg.
4. From hospitalization to delivery, the hospitalization bill was about 5,000 yuan, and 500 yuan was reimbursed by the cooperative medical system (I don't remember clearly, it seems that it cost 4,996, and it was reported as 487). Many of these expenses are not reimbursed, and you don't have to ask. If you ask too many questions, you will get a dirty look and you won't change the result. Anyway, I feel that the annual payment of cooperative medical care is increasing, but the reimbursement is very tasteless. Before hospitalization, the hospital also asked if there was cooperative medical care, which made sense, but dared not ask more.
5. In addition to hospitalization expenses, there are also meals during hospitalization, and the expenses for purchasing various articles for pregnant women and pregnant women add up to more than 1 1,000.
Giving birth to a baby in our county, complete pre-pregnancy examination and hospital delivery, plus other expenses, total about 1.55 million yuan, which is the actual cost after applying for cooperative medical care. In a fourth-tier county with a per capita monthly salary of 2,000 yuan, this fee is definitely not low.
Third, after giving birth to a child for three months, there is no peace without taking care of it day and night and rushing to deal with it.
People who say it's easy to have children can consider it. After the baby is born, if you want to breastfeed, at least the mother will lose her job and her income. If you don't breastfeed, milk powder is also a big expense, and you need to ask someone to look after the children.
If you don't consider the money, you can't sleep at night if you take care of your children day and night; A variety of vaccines keep us busy; Once the child is sick and crying, the whole family is worried and stressed!
As soon as you have time, you should rush to register your children, apply for social security cards and so on. A lot of time is occupied, physical fatigue, mental anxiety, miserable. And a lot of time is occupied by the second child, so the time to look after the boss becomes shorter. Her academic performance has declined, and she often gives vent to all kinds of dissatisfaction.
The birth problem is so difficult that I dare not think much about future education, house pressure and so on. A friend who just gave birth to a second child almost collapsed while taking care of the child. She said with emotion. "It is kind to persuade others not to have a second child!"
Indeed, from personal experience, the second child took away a lot of time, energy and money, which made individuals anxious and the quality of life dropped significantly.
The pain of having a child, the pain of having a second child! From the micro-individual feelings, we can get a glimpse of the macro-fertility problem. According to the current situation, I am afraid that even if fertility is fully liberalized, it will be difficult to significantly increase the fertility rate.