Recently, "Chinese-style transportation of children" has become a hot topic. It is said that some children depend on their parents to transport them to 17 years old. Urban traffic is complex, and there are many vehicles that do not follow the rules. Parents are worried that their children will not study well.
According to parents' thinking, even if children go to college, they are not at ease. They can't stay on campus all the time and stay indoors. In this regard, some public opinion analysts believe that the main reason for "Chinese children" is exam-oriented education. Under the pressure of exam-oriented education, many parents undertake the task of picking up and dropping off their children in order to let them devote themselves to their studies-picking up and dropping off their children from school at ordinary times and picking up and dropping off training classes at weekends.
But in my opinion, "Chinese children" mainly lies in the lack of awareness of family education and civic education. Parents don't realize that their children are underage social citizens. As guardians, their goal is to train children into qualified social citizens. Without this awareness, many parents regard their children as their private property and decide everything about them. At the same time, only pay attention to children's academic performance, but don't care about the cultivation of children's sense of independence and responsibility.
In Japan, the competition for college entrance examination is as fierce as in China, and the situation of exam-oriented education is also very serious-both public and private schools now have six-day classes, but parents have different attitudes towards their children's growth.
Like a schoolbag.
In recent years, the problem of overweight schoolbags in primary and secondary schools in China has aroused great concern in society. For students with heavy schoolbags, it is of course necessary to "reduce the burden". Before the schoolbag becomes lighter, how to face the problem of schoolbags is a test of parents' educational concept. The attitude of parents in China is to help their children carry their schoolbags while complaining that the schoolbags are too heavy now. No matter in the subway or on the bus, grandparents can be seen carrying schoolbags and children are empty-handed.
The direct consequence of this practice is that children have no sense of responsibility and think that reading is the business of their parents and elders; Without the spirit of hard work, I don't want to do any heavy work. In recent years, every time freshmen report for duty, they can see their families carrying big bags and small bags. However, freshmen are like "sons" and "princesses", so that when freshmen report for duty this year, Tsinghua University designated a warning zone, and parents were forbidden to enter.
However, in Japan, this situation is rare. Parents don't carry their children's schoolbags, but only "refuel" when their children are struggling. This is to cultivate children's sense of responsibility and hard-working spirit.
In addition, in Japanese education, we attach great importance to the cultivation of students' viability.
This kind of training is extremely important for children's personality and physical and mental health growth. Many years ago, a contest between Chinese and Japanese youth summer camps attracted great attention of Chinese people, and the content of this article caused Chinese people to think deeply-"The Chinese organizer said to the Japanese team leader without any worries, what should I do if the children get lost?" What if I miss the train? The Japanese are relaxed: don't worry about them. Coming back is also exercise. It can be seen that the Japanese let their children exercise their viability in a strange foreign country. Japanese children are very resilient, which is of course related to their usual education. "
In China, where traffic conditions are poor, Japanese who can't speak this language don't worry about their children's accidents, so let them exercise. This is different from the China students who live in China but are picked up by their parents. They live under the eyes of their parents and teachers all day and never leave the sight of their teachers and parents. It can be concrete to reality, but it hasn't changed at all.
At present, public opinion classifies the current family education and children's growth as exam-oriented education. This is obviously a very important factor, but objectively speaking, the biggest influence of exam-oriented education on school education and students' growth is the lack of personality.
The fundamental problem of "Chinese-style delivery of children" lies not in exam-oriented education, but in the lack of life education. In addition to knowledge education, civic education, life education and other education that affects children's personality and physical and mental growth are seriously lacking. This leads to the lack of humanity in education, and students who grow up in this environment cannot stand the test of independence, self-confidence, responsibility and care.
Some parents may think that in primary and secondary schools, children's main task is to learn, and in college, children's independence, self-confidence and sense of responsibility will be gradually cultivated, which is a misunderstanding of these consciousness and ability. Without the education and guidance from childhood, the independence and sense of responsibility in adulthood can't be achieved overnight-many universities are now giving students supplementary courses in this field, but they can't.
Worryingly, "Chinese-style transportation" even spread to universities. Some parents are worried that their children can't live independently in college or indulge in the internet, so they quit their jobs and rent a room outside the university to accompany them. They send their children to the school gate in the morning and pick them up at the school gate after class. What's the use of getting a college diploma for students who lack independence, autonomy and basic viability?