What should I do if I can't see the goodness of others and jealousy is always at work?

/0 1/ Calm down

Keigo Higashino said:

There are two things in this world that you can't look directly at.

One is the sun, and the other is the human heart.

There are always some people who are jealous,

I can't accept the fact that I am inferior to others.

Jealousy often exists in life.

Recently, the epidemic abroad has spread rapidly and the situation is grim.

Two customers in the shop are chatting:

A: The situation in the United States is very bad now. The number of infected people ranks first in the world. How is your good friend in America?

B: Are you all right? It's none of my business.

A: Don't you have a good relationship?

B: She is always the luckiest. She married a supervisor, got a high salary and lived overseas.

Let her have a taste of bad luck. What a boring life!

This may be the psychological state that most people have:

On the surface, I get along well with my friends. In fact, my friend is the happiest when someone else has an accident.

Tell me my example.

When I first graduated from work, a colleague rarely worked overtime because the work was not finished.

She also won the most year-end awards every time, and her colleagues and leaders praised her for her Excellence.

As soon as I saw her, I was full of jealousy.

At the same time, I feel a little inferior and feel that I am too poor compared with her.

Later, I began to reflect:

Instead of being jealous, think about how to be her.

So I watched her every day and carefully wrote down her working methods.

I found that she would arrive at the company early every day and make a work plan for herself in advance.

Will be enthusiastic to help colleagues in trouble, and will do a good job summary before work. ...

After discovering this, I began to follow her method.

Imitate the way she works and treats people,

I hope I can be as good as her one day.

At the same time, I keep myself busy after work.

Get in touch with praised colleagues and learn from their workplace experience.

So I found myself getting better first,

Moreover, I have long lost my prejudice and thoughts about jealous colleagues.

It is undoubtedly not a good way to eliminate jealousy to calm down, discover the advantages of others and improve yourself.

Work hard in a good direction, and it will never be too bad in the end.

/02/ Open your eyes

Open-minded, different horizons.

Don't compare the advantages of others with your own shortcomings.

Seeing your own advantages,

Naturally, I also sincerely wish others success.

Brush the circle of friends and see that friends who have been delayed by the epidemic have finally started school.

It's time to start preparing your graduation thesis.

In fact, I was jealous when I knew that she was admitted to graduate school:

"Why can she continue to enjoy campus life without worrying about her livelihood?

And I have to worry about my livelihood early? "

But thinking that I can start a new life and earn money to support myself,

Make friends in different industries and do what you want.

It seems that the experiments, papers and tutors she enjoys are not so attractive to herself.

Now that you have decided to go to work, try to improve yourself and become a good employee who satisfies the leader.

Try to make money to make yourself and your family live better.

/03/ Turn jealousy into motivation

If you really want something, then start to act-no matter how small it is, you must move towards this goal.

If we turn jealousy into motivation and make ourselves better, then we may become the envy of others one day.

I have a best friend who graduated from high school without going to college and went directly to work in a company.

I'm tired every day, and I can't make much money in a month.

There is an accountant in their company, who has less work and has free time to improve himself.

Obviously, the working hours are the same, and girlfriends have to worry about their performance every day.

All she has to do is count the company accounts,

Not only do I have time to improve myself, but my salary is more than my best friend's.

Later, someone recommended my best friend to learn a skill that can get rid of the current predicament.

Thinking of that colleague, she went to study accounting.

For her who has no professional foundation, it is actually difficult to digest the theoretical knowledge in books.

But every time I think about getting a driver's license,

Like her colleagues who have always admired her, she is full of fighting spirit.

Finally, it took my best friend less than half a year to get the accounting practice certificate.

I also got a job as an accountant as I wished.

Turn envy into a driving force for your progress,

Instead of being immersed in the negative emotions of crazy jealousy of others,