According to general psychology, emotion refers to the attitude towards external things accompanied by the process of cognition and consciousness, and it is a response to the relationship between objective things and subjective needs, including emotional experience, emotional behavior, emotional awakening and cognition of stimulation. As a "favored son of heaven", college students often feel at a loss in the face of their own emotional changes due to personal growth, environmental changes, social employment pressure and other factors.
The research results of modern psychology, physiology and medicine all show that emotions have a direct effect on people's physical and mental health, and it can be said that emotions dominate health. This paper summarizes five common emotional problems of college students and gives corresponding coping strategies, aiming at helping some college students get rid of negative emotions in time. First, anxiety.
Anxiety is an emotional experience, which is a mixture of tension, fear, worry and anxiety when people face threats or expect some bad consequences. When people are nervous, anxiety is a normal reaction. Moderate anxiety can arouse people's vigilance, concentrate and stimulate their fighting spirit, which is beneficial. However, excessive anxiety makes college students feel nervous, fearful and uneasy, which makes it difficult to concentrate, slow thinking and impaired memory. At the same time, it is often accompanied by headache, arrhythmia, insomnia, loss of appetite, gastrointestinal discomfort and other physical reactions.
To reduce or avoid anxiety, college students can adjust themselves from the following three aspects:
First, let go of the baggage and get on the road easily. College students who are easily troubled by anxiety often cling to many inappropriate concepts and ideas in their minds and are convinced. As a result, they are as tired as walking with heavy loads. For example, I think I can never fail or if something happens (dropping out of school, falling out of love), it's all over. Similar concepts and ideas make them pay too much attention to the success or failure of the incident, infinitely exaggerate the possible consequences, and have too much psychological pressure. Therefore, we must first abandon or change these concepts and put down the burden before we can easily get on the road.
The second is decisive and positive action. For college students facing choices, the best way to relieve anxiety is to weigh the pros and cons and then make a decision without hesitation. When faced with choices and difficulties, college students should face them bravely and take active actions, realize that every choice has advantages and disadvantages, and experience the happiness and self-confidence of overcoming self and difficulties in action.
Third, the combination of static and dynamic, physical and mental relaxation. Physical and mental relaxation can make people feel calm and calm, eliminate the interference of all kinds of bad emotions, and help to alleviate and eliminate anxiety. There are many ways to relax body and mind. College students can combine static and dynamic methods, that is, combining moderate physical exercise with static adjustment methods such as imagination and music, which can not only release tension during exercise, but also make people feel comfortable and refreshed. By relaxing imagination and adjusting music, they can calm their mood and eliminate distractions, thus achieving the purpose of relieving anxiety and benefiting their body and mind. Second, excitement and irritability.
Anger is a violent emotional reaction when objective things go against subjective wishes, or when wishes are repeatedly blocked and cannot be realized. The degree can range from dissatisfaction, anger, anger, anger to rage, especially when people think that the setbacks they have suffered are unfair and unreasonable, or are caused by malice. Anger has a very negative effect on people's body and mind. Anger can weaken or lose people's self-control, they can't correctly evaluate the meaning and consequences of their actions, and make irrational impulsive behaviors, such as fighting and smashing things.
First, strengthen self-cultivation. College students should realize that anger can't solve any problems, but only intensify contradictions and attract hostility and disgust from others. Only by strengthening self-cultivation, being open-minded, tolerant and considerate of others, and not haggling over every ounce, can we gain the trust, respect and understanding of others and establish sincere friendship.
Second, be calm and restrained. When you are in conflict with others and are about to get angry, you should control your impulsive emotions with reason and will, and try your best to alleviate or avoid the outbreak of anger. At this time, you can temporarily leave the environment that makes you angry, and then you can discuss and solve the problem calmly. You can also suggest yourself, such as saying "Be calm and don't get angry" silently when you are emotional, or posting banners like "Control your anger" and "Think twice before you act" on the bedside wall to remind yourself at all times.
Third, reasonable drainage. If you just suppress and suppress it without releasing it, it will also be bad for your physical and mental health. Therefore, college students should learn to channel bad emotions through appropriate channels. You can talk to people, write letters, keep a diary and so on. And you can also vent your anger by doing strenuous exercise or shouting when you are excited. However, no matter which way, it should be timely and moderate, and it can neither affect others, nor harm itself, nor harm society. Third, suppress depression.
Depression is an inner experience that emotions are too restrained and restrained to be properly expressed and vented. It is a mixture of discontent, depression, worry, emptiness, confusion and loneliness. Unhappy college students are often depressed, lack the vigor and vitality that young people should have, lose extensive interest in life, are unwilling to take the initiative to associate with others, feel dull, get tired easily and complain more. Long-term depression can easily lead to psychological disorders.
College students who have been depressed should first try to analyze their present situation and emotions objectively and rationally, and find out the root cause of depression. If some college students feel depressed because they pay too much attention to each other's feelings and needs, take each other as the center, and dare not speak their different opinions and real thoughts boldly, thinking that this is the way to maintain friendship, they feel depressed as a result. In this case, we must first realize that interpersonal communication is a process to meet each other's inner needs. We should pay attention to mutual humility and maintain our own personality, so that our advantages can complement each other and develop together, and our friendship can last forever.
Secondly, proper venting is an effective way to reduce or eliminate depression. When you feel depressed, you might as well pour out your sadness and unhappiness to your friends and relatives. Diaries and letters can also be used to disperse depressed emotions. Insisting on physical exercise is also an effective method, which can make college students physically strong, energetic, cheerful and energetic, and sweep away the depressed mental state. In addition, it is necessary to express your emotions properly without affecting others. Fourth, depression.
Depression is a lasting experience of depression. In a depressed state, everything that college students seem to see is covered with a dull gray, and they are not interested in anything. They often feel lack of energy, difficulty in concentration and slow thinking. At the same time, they are accompanied by emotional experiences of pain, shame, self-blame, sadness and depression, and have low self-evaluation and are pessimistic and disappointed in the future. Being depressed for a long time will have a great impact on college students' study, work and life. College students who are troubled by depression can adjust themselves from the following aspects:
First, correct mistakes and have a correct understanding. College students should find and correct their prejudices and misconceptions, such as setbacks and misfortunes. I can never fail. They should be psychologically prepared to bear setbacks and regard difficulties and misfortunes as opportunities for life to hone and grow. They should realize that there is nothing absolute in the world, and where there is light, there must be shadows. They should see the bright side and believe that they have the ability to get out of the predicament and reach the other side of success.
Second, reevaluate and accept yourself. Low self-evaluation is one of the main reasons for college students' inferiority and depression. Therefore, depressed college students need to re-evaluate themselves, not to be longer than others, and to make further efforts to improve and perfect their shortcomings and deficiencies; Those unchangeable, such as family and appearance, must be accepted frankly, and then try to compensate in other ways. Only when self-evaluation is carried out correctly can college students realize self-acceptance and self-acceptance, and only those who affirm and love themselves will embrace life enthusiastically.
Third, actively communicate and participate in activities. Good interpersonal communication and harmonious interpersonal relationship are important ways for college students to eliminate depression. College students should enhance their initiative in communication, change their withdrawn behavior, smile, greet and talk briefly with their classmates, pay more attention to helping others, actively participate in various cultural and recreational activities, and feel the preciousness of friendship and the beauty of life in mutual help and love. V. Vanity and jealousy
Jealousy is a negative emotion caused by the unsatisfied demand for social respect, and it is a negative means to narrow and eliminate the gap with others and restore the original balanced relationship. Jealousy is a common negative emotion among college students, which is manifested in anger, pain and injustice when others surpass themselves in talent, ability, conduct, honor and even appearance and clothing. When others encounter misfortune and disaster, they gloat, ridicule in words, act coldly and distantly, even slander others and deliberately retaliate. Serious jealousy is an extremely unhealthy psychological state, which distorts people's minds and obliterates good feelings. This is an emotional disorder. Jealousy seriously jeopardizes good communication. For example, Sun Bin's disability and Han Fei's murder in history were all caused by jealousy and secret frame-up by fellow students.