Often children begin to plan blind dates as soon as they graduate, for fear that they will be late and their children will become remnants.
Some time ago, I had a cousin who had just been admitted to college. My relatives joked with him: "Don't be reserved in college, remember to fall in love." This kind of advice is obviously very different from when I was in college a few years ago.
There are also many college students in the hot search who support the university to carry out love classes. It can be seen that both students themselves and parents are anxious and attach importance to marriage.
So the graduation season represents the beginning of the blind date season.
In fact, I personally am very opposed to blind date, because it is easy to make people feel tired and numb, and always feel that the good is behind, thus losing the sincere attitude of "taking every acquaintance seriously".
However, through the blind date experience of friends after graduation, we can also see why it is difficult for so many people to find their favorite object even after many blind dates.
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Lily is a colleague's sister. After having dinner together a few years ago, she naturally became friends. As Lily is a graduate student abroad, she is 25 years old and has just graduated.
But in a small city, 25 years old means a lot of age, so colleagues and their parents began to make a big blind date for her, first put her excellent resume out and spread the net widely, hoping to find the right man as soon as possible.
Lily has no objection to this. After all, she really doesn't have a crush at school. Since marriage is a necessary project, there is no harm in starting early.
However, in the process of blind date, Lily is very academic and summarizes several key points, that is, why so many boys still can't find the right one after 20 or 30 blind dates.
Lily has more than ten blind dates a year, and all the blind dates are at home, with cars, houses and education, and they are all older than Lily.
It seems that in the blind date market, girls are younger and boys are older.
"You don't know, there was a boy who said he had been in love for six times and finally had to come on a blind date. I think he really doesn't know how to get along with girls, and his emotional intelligence is too low. " Lily said this about a boy.
No wonder, there are indeed many boys who don't know how to fall in love and don't like girls, but Lily has encountered many wonderful things, some of which even make her want to be friends.
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The first kind, greasy self-cooked. Lily has no love experience. She thinks blind date is very simple, that is, two strange young people sit together for dinner and make friends.
Two people transition from friendship to love, instead of suddenly crossing the process from strangeness to familiarity, and directly communicating intimately.
But the man obviously doesn't think so. They seem to have a misunderstanding that "if you agree to come on a blind date with me, we will have a chance", so they often ask her out and call her by very intimate nicknames.
Lily said: "What I see in them is greasy, but there is no sense of boundaries. You can feel their urgent possessiveness and have no love at all. "
In fact, I can understand her feelings, because friends meet the same blind date. I can't wait to go out to eat and watch movies every day. I always ask some personal questions naturally.
I have to say that this way of getting along is really boring.
The second category is stingy and wary. "I thought AA system would only appear on TV, but I didn't expect a boy who asked for AA for a cup of milk tea to be met by me," Lily said.
Undeniably, some boys are very defensive, always afraid of losing money, and then always treat girls in the way of treating the enemy, which will give people the impression of "false meanness".
It doesn't mean that boys have to spend money on blind dates, even if they eat AA. Just a cup of milk tea. It's really unnecessary to haggle over a dozen dollars. Such disputes that could have been gotten along with each other were also beaten back to their original shape by the way.
After all, no girl wants to have the next step with such a stingy boy.
The third category, son preference, love to show off. Since blind date is communication, it is necessary to talk about three views. The most important three views in marriage are nothing more than family division of labor and parenting responsibility.
Although meeting for the first time is not suitable for understanding these contents in depth, Lily met a person who talked about Kan Kan. The other person said that her ideal type is a good wife and mother, who can serve her in-laws and teach her children at home, but she is only responsible for making money to support her family.
If you say this is a rich second generation, Lily will admit it, but this brother with nearly five years of work experience is not as high as Lily's internship. It's ignorant to say such things.
As a result, this kind of boy was also passed away.
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It seems that Lily really didn't choose her favorite after 10 blind date.
Of course, she is arrogant and high-spirited, so naturally she won't fall into each other's eyes, but according to her age, Lily is still young and has a chance to find it again.
And those boys, the oldest are all 32 years old, and they are doomed to be hard to find in the future. The road to blind date also makes Lily feel very unreliable.
Because of the lack of the same educational experience and life experience, the cognitive differences made her unable to make concessions, and the mixed blind date market made her stay away from it.
She also sincerely hopes that boys with the above shortcomings will pay more attention when dating, not too picky and greasy, and it is not a good habit to prefer sons to daughters. Only by correcting it early can we get sweet love.