There is a girl with good conditions in my university dormitory. When we started to use facial cleanser of ten or twenty yuan, she had already started to use Chanel and Dior. When we bargained with our boss at the wholesale market for clothes of forty or fifty yuan, she just spent more than one thousand yuan on a coat.

You know, at that time, the rest of us lived on about 600 yuan a month, and we were still hungry, let alone buying famous brands. Even eating KFC and McDonald's are luxury goods, and her monthly consumption is several times that of us. At that time, several other girls were super envious of her life, thinking about how happy her life would be!

However, she said in a chat that we always envy her for her good conditions because we have never met anyone who is really rich. She has a cousin who can go to any country she wants. She wants to stay there to study and live, and her family can satisfy her. Another friend lives in a mansion, marries a rich man and lives a rich woman's life every day. She doesn't have to work, has a nanny to take care of the children, buys luxury goods, has a beauty massage, and lives exquisitely every day. She travels and stays in private villas and luxury hotels. That's the real condition, that's the real enviable and yearning life. We think Dior Chanel is the best and most expensive, but there are many luxury goods that are better and more expensive than Chanel Dior, so she feels that the conditions like her are not good at all.

I was a little surprised at what she said. I always thought she was a proud girl, and she was satisfied with the material conditions she had.

Her parents come several times every semester, take her to eat well, buy her clothes, give her pocket money when she leaves, and sometimes take her out for a trip. She has no pressure and worries in life, lives in a comfortable and beautiful big house and is loved by her parents. Even after graduation, she doesn't have to submit her resume to find a job, and she doesn't have to rent a house outside. Her parents have arranged everything. ......

Unexpectedly, it turned out that she was not satisfied with her life, and her words were full of inferiority and envy.

I often think that if one day I can live as carefree as her, I will be satisfied, but she envies her cousin and friends. People are not satisfied!

Later, I discovered that in fact, many people envy others, but at the same time they are envied by others. If we only see what others have and ignore what we have, we will miss the happiness of the moment. The greatest misfortune in life is happiness without knowing it, possession without cherishing it. People who stare on tiptoe forever can't find happiness. They always think that happiness lies elsewhere, in others, but in fact, as long as they lower their heads, they will find happiness around them.

02

One day, my classmate Xiao An talked to me and said that her boyfriend was not considerate, gentle and considerate to her. Seeing that other people's boyfriends are so good, he can only live an enviable life.

I thought her bulging appearance was funny, so I told her the story of my friend Lili.

Lily's husband, Hui, has always been a model husband in the eyes of people around her, with good personality and good temper, and is very considerate to Lili. They have never quarreled for years. Whenever lily loses her temper willfully, Hui will let her go, not quarrel with her, and not make her angry.

When they were in love, Lili received roses from you every week. What impressed me the most was that one day Lili stayed in bed and watched TV series until eleven o'clock. At noon, her husband specially ran home from the internship company to buy food, cook, wash dishes and mop the floor.

I often tell Lily that she found the treasure, but she just smiled until she told me that Hui was really good to her, but she also had many shortcomings. For example, sometimes Hui makes her angry. When she wants to communicate with him, he always walks away without saying a word.

He also has many shortcomings in his life. We only thought that he usually cooks once, but in fact, the number of times he cooks in recent years is less than one tenth of Lili's. Moreover, he often can't wash the dishes, cleaning up the house only in front of him, and the corner is still a mess. Let him fold the clothes, and he will rub them directly and put them in the cupboard. Shoes are never put in the cupboard, resulting in a pile of shoes at the door. ......

Moreover, since marriage, Hui's salary has been kept by herself. Apart from paying rent and buying some daily necessities, Hui seldom gives Lili money. Of course, this doesn't mean that Hui doesn't love her or is stingy. It's just because he is used to the sense of security brought by putting money in his own hands, so Lili didn't have the economic power in the family after marrying him for a few years and had to maintain relative economic independence.

Can you accept my greeting? Hui is the kind of considerate and gentle man you admire, but he still has many things that make Lili crazy and dissatisfied. Do you still want to hear it?

Ann shook her head at me hard, indicating that she didn't want to listen any more.

In fact, everyone's life is not as beautiful and glamorous as it seems. Everyone's life is a chicken feather. This is what life really looks like, with good and bad, happiness and sadness, laughter and tears. Some people go out of the high-end office buildings in the city center during the day, but turn into the dilapidated villages in the city after work; Some people know many people and often attend parties, but they don't have a heart-to-heart friend; Some people often show their love in the circle of friends, but in fact they have become strangers in private. ......

Mo Yan once wrote such a passage:

Walking in the stormy journey of life, when you envy others living in tall buildings, maybe people curled up in the corner are envious of having a thatched cottage that can shelter you from the wind and rain; When you envy others sitting in a luxury car and walking on the ground is very depressed, maybe the person lying in the hospital bed envies that you can walk freely ... Many times, we often don't know that when we appreciate others, we have become the scenery in others' eyes.

No one's life is easy. Everyone's life has its ups and downs. May you and I cherish the present and cherish the present.

90-day training camp without warning Chapter 7